Talking to your kids about sex can be awkward, but it's an important part of parenting. I mean, you don't want to just give them a computer, and tell them to check the dark corners of the Internet, right? And you can't always count on public schools to do the job. It's important that children get information that's accurate and appropriately conveyed. When they ask, "Where do babies come from?" you can't say "Aisle 10 at Wal-Mart" forever.
It's a tricky topic to navigate, to be sure, but actress Kristen Bell has some good place. The Good Place and Frozen star has two daughters - Lincoln, who is four, and Delta who is eight. She's been very open about the realities of motherhood and hosts a Web series about parenting called Momsplaining. Recently she was at an event with her husband, Dax Shephard, and discussed her family with the website Hello Giggles. In her monologue at the SAG Awards, Kristen made some powerful statements about the Time's Up movement, so they asked her how she explains the movement to her kids. This led to a discussion of sex:
"We talk very bluntly, in some people’s opinion, to our children about everything. They asked about sex. We said there’s a penis. There’s a vagina. There’s an ovum. There’s ejaculate. They combine. There’s DNA. Then you grow in my belly."
Some people might bristle when hearing such blunt talk about sex. But really, that's probably the best way to it, to be direct, and discuss it as scientifically as Alfred Kinsey. If you hide behind euphemisms and vague phrases, your message might be misunderstood. After all, it's a discussion of biology, not erotica. However, the best single piece of advice Kristen Bell received came from actress Michelle Monaghan:
"Side note. Best advice ever was given to me by Michelle Monaghan. She said, 'When you explain to your kids about sex, boys or girls, don't say the man puts his penis inside the woman's vagina. Change one word. Say the woman takes the man's penis and puts it in her vagina. You've re-written the story.'"
Well, that's an interesting way to reword it, to flip the agency. Kristen has always been a staunch supporter of feminism and women's rights. Recently she shared a photo of herself at the Women's March with her kids on Instagram (and used hearts to cover her children's faces to protect their privacy). In the caption to the photo, she wrote, " Holding up my fellow women and reminding them they have rights and agency over their bodies, they deserve equal pay, and do not have to be afraid to use their voices loud and proud." The Bad Moms star might not be so bad after all.
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