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Olivia Wilde warns couples about 'bed death' and says it could signal trouble in a relationship
Olivia Wilde has issued a warning about 'bed death' - and why it could spell the end of a relationship.
The actor and director, 42, has been in several public relationships over the years, having married filmmaker and musician Tao Ruspoli when she was just 19, but split after nine years. She went on to marry Jason Sudeikis in 2013, splitting in 2020, after which she dated Harry Styles and Dane DiLiegro, and is currently in a relationship with art dealer Caspar Jopling.
She recently told The Cut about her current relationship with Jopling, explaining: "When you’re with someone who’s not in the entertainment industry or isn’t a public figure, I have a sense of, ‘I want to protect this person as much as I can,'" adding that it is a "lovely relationship".
Wilde is currently promoting her new movie, The Invite, which centers on a couple whose relationship is in a rocky stage, who invite their upstairs neighbors - who have an audibly rampant sex life - to dinner, which opens them up to the prospect of swinging to try and save their relationship.
Wilde appeared on The Louis Theroux podcast during the promo run, where he quizzed her: "What did you conclude about how much sex is normal?"
She candidly responded: "I think my real conclusion is that no sex is not normal, and that is something that I think a lot of people have mis-... Hmm, sounds very judgemental to say misunderstood."
Theroux brought up her previous comments on Call Her Daddy, asking: "You said something like, you feel like actually if there's no sex in the relationship it’s not a good sign," to which Wilde concurred: "It's a bad sign, it’s not a good sign. Yeah, it's a roommate. I really think that."
The director then referred to it as "bed death", clarifying that it's different to a bedroom divorce, which is when a couple sleeps in separate bedrooms.
She admitted: "I don't know, I think that's kind of sexy. I'm intrigued by that. You could, you could invite her over in a way that allows for maybe there's a little bit of mystery in there. I think that's interesting."
Wilde added: "I really learned a lot about how little sex a lot of people are having, and how they assume that's normal… and particularly after children.
"It makes me sad to think about how people have misunderstood intimacy to be about merging identities, and yet not really maintaining a curiosity about this person that allows for the kind of necessary separation that leads to eroticism."
She added: "In our movie, there's a lot of shame in this couple about their lack of sex. They never talk about it. They instead just kind of bicker and subtly resent each other. They're sort of standing on a vibrating volcano of resentment, but they just allow it to come out in little barbs."
Wilde also admitted that she likes the lead-up to the act, explaining: "I do think that there is something kind of tantric about a long lead up to sex that I think that there is a thing that we do when we're dating where we say, 'Let's meet next week, should we have dinner next Thursday?' and it's like, 'Yeah, sure,' and what we're really saying is, like, 'Do you wanna have sex next Thursday?'"

















