In a world of seemingly perfect celebrity couplings, it's easy to become cynical. After all, how can you win the genetic lottery, be incredibly rich and famous,
and
have a dreamy relationship to boot? It can't be fair.
However, when you think about it, it becomes clear that maintaining a marriage or any romantic liaison while in the public eye is difficult. Not only is every move you make dissected by the tabloids, but adoring fans feel entitled to know every minute detail about your love life. And you can't deny that this is weird. I mean, us plebeians refrain from spilling everything about our relationship to strangers, and only disclose the bare necessities to our most trusted friends and family members.
Two celebrities, however, are very transparent about the hard work needed to be #CoupleGoals, and of course, it's
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The pair met in 2007 and finally wed in 2013, after waiting for marriage equality to become legal in the United States. And they appear to be just as in love as they were in the late Noughties.
In honour of Valentine's Day,
, took to Twitter to post a list she wrote for her engaged friends about what keeps her marriage so healthy and happy. And it's nothing short of wonderful.
"I was writing a note 2 friends who were getting hitched. I wrote congratulations then thought 'Kristen! Aren't u old
&
married? Don't u have any wisdom to share?!' When i was done, I realised I'd written the A-Z of what keeps my marriage w/@daxshepard1 healthy," she captioned the tweet.
"Vulnerability always begets connection and intimacy. Stay vulnerable with each other," she began.
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Kirsten continued, "In 10 years, when the dopamine has waned, remember: Life is a crazy ride. It's a privilege to go through it with a partner."
"Take necessary separateness. It will make your marriage better.
Loving someone despite their faults, failings, or character defects is the most powerful loving you can do.
Rejoice in what makes the other person happy, and allow them their individual interests.
Know that everyone is doing the best they can with what they got, so get a bigger emotional toolbox to fix your problems."
And of course, the people of the internet were all for the actress's honesty. "Girl knows what she's talking about," one Twitter user wrote while another added "22 years of marriage makes me think this is perfect!! And if that is actually your hand writing...I am contacting Apple and submitting the new Kristen Bell font."
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But this is not the first time that the Veronica Mars star has opened up about her relationship.
During a recent interview, the 37-year-old, who has two children with Dax Shepard, revealed that they had
a lot
of disputes in the first year of their relationship, some of which even threatened to break them up.
"When we first met, we fell madly in love and I love the dramatic exit. There is nothing I crave more. The first year you are working out your kinks. I loved it. We'd get in a fight because we would fight a lot and I'd like yell something then slam the bedroom door, then I'd slam the front door, then I'd get in my car and then I'd skid out the driveway and I would sit around the corner in my car and it felt so good and I realized how incredibly toxic it was only after he pointed it out."
Well, good on Kristen for being so candid about the trials and tribulations that inevitably occur in any long-term relationship.
