A comedian has opened up about the struggles of dating due to her being a virgin at the age of 36.
Everyone will have a different view on relationships, with some diving head first from an early age while others are a bit more tentative.
Neither approach is wrong because everyone has a different outlook on life and how they want to spend their time, and the topic of sex is often taboo.
For some, losing their virginity isn't a big deal, while others hold it sacred and want to ensure that the first time they get intimate with another person is at the right time.
Sonali Chandra, a 36-year-old stand-up comedian, recently took part in a candid video with Truly where she opened up about her sex life.
Chandra revealed her struggles with maintaining her virginity and a low count of just five kisses shared in her life.
Growing up in a conservative household, Chandra was taught to view sex as a sacred act reserved for marriage. This upbringing left a mark on her views about intimacy.
While societal norms may push individuals to rush into physical relationships, Chandra firmly believes in waiting for the right person.
Even her own family, concerned about her single status at 36, has urged her to take the plunge into the world of physical intimacy. However, Chandra remains resolute in her commitment to only engage in romantic encounters with a partner who "puts a ring on it."
Opening up about her experiences, Chandra shared a poignant memory from her past: "The first time I ever told a guy that I'm still a virgin was when I was 26. The guy who was my first kiss, my first actual relationship, he was shocked. His jaw dropped and he asked if I was gonna be a virgin for eternity."
Heartbreakingly, Chandra discovered on her 27th birthday that her boyfriend had ghosted her after this revelation, a pattern that repeated itself in subsequent relationships.
She said: "Whenever these guys have ghosted me, I have gone through emotional hell. It’s heart-wrenching and makes me think that guys only think I'm good for sex."
Chandra emphasizes that she views sex as a sacred and special act, preferring to use the term "making love." She stated: "I'll be ready when I have a ring from 'the one.'"
While Chandra's unique perspective on intimacy has influenced her dating life, she has been in three serious relationships and has dated a total of nine men. Her "strict upbringing" had a "profound impact" on her dating experiences, as she was not allowed to socialize or date during her teenage and college years.
In her quest for love, Chandra has turned to dating apps and even appeared on TV dating shows. Despite societal pressures and her own family's concerns, she remains confident in her decision to avoid an arranged marriage, saying: "I don't want my parents deciding who I have sex with, ew, we don't talk about that stuff."
Everyone has the right to approach relationships and sex however they feel comfortable!
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