Bride who wanted child-free wedding says decision left her guests furious: 'My aunt actually called me an a**hole'

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By Asiya Ali

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A bride who chose not to have kids at her wedding has been slammed by angry guests, including her aunt, for paying for childcare instead.

One woman found out that if you decide to go above and beyond so that your family and friends can still attend your special day without worrying about their kids, you might still be subjected to brutal criticism.

She explained on Reddit's sub-platform "Am I The A**hole?" that she rented out an indoor playground owned by her brother so that all her guests' kids could go there to be looked after while the wedding took place a five-minute drive away.

"I got married this summer. And while I wanted a child-free wedding I realized that this would exclude a lot of my friends and family. So I came up with what I thought was a good compromise," she wrote.

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A bride who chose not to have kids at her wedding has been slammed by angry guests for paying for childcare. Credit: Aleksandr Zubkov / Getty

The bride revealed that she paid for the staff at the playground venue as well as food and drink for the children so that their parents didn't have to spend a dollar on the extra expense.

"Basically I paid them double time until midnight whether there were kids there or not," she said. "They are all trained in first aid and have all been screened by the police. On top of that, several of the older kids that didn't want to go to the reception stayed there as well to keep an eye on everything. As well as two ladies from my church."

The poster thought that the playground was a fun and safe option for "anyone with kids that might get rowdy," but "Boy was I wrong" as her guests were furious about the distance between the wedding venue and daycare.

"People were mad that it was so far away. About a five-minute drive," she said. "They were mad that the kids didn't get the same food as the people at the reception. No, they got pizza, nachos, and fried chicken."

She claimed that some guests were outraged that they "didn't have someone to watch nursing babies," even though she was fine with people bringing babies into the reception as she had a "mother's room in the hall for nursing and changing babies".

In addition to this, the shocked bride claimed that her wedding guests called her names over what she thought was a "nice thing," adding that her husband believes that she should've "gone child-free and dealt with that hate" instead of "wasting money on ingrates".

She also alleged that her aunt called her "an a**hole for not wanting a couple of dozen screaming and crying kids at the reception," and is now beginning to wonder if she’d done something wrong.

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The bride rented out an indoor playground for her wedding guests' kids. Credit: Kathrin Ziegler / Getty

However, commenters on the post were firmly on the bride's side, with many stating she came up with a suitable solution that her guests were just ungrateful for.

One person said: "NTA this is the best solution I've heard on here from anyone who wanted a child-free wedding! You provided multiple options for people to chose from, put the kids there were they have fun with others their age, get your own babysitter, or stay home."

"Whoever still had a problem was looking for one," they continued. "Also, who gets mad at different food options? What you provided sounds way more kid-friendly than what was probably at the wedding."

Another user chimed in: "What a generous and lovely thing to have arranged for the children of your family and friends! I would have had a blast at a place like that as a kid. I would have thought the parents would have appreciated a free night out/off. What is wrong with people these days?"

A third added: "NTA. At least now you know what whiners you should avoid inviting to any future events. When did everyone become entitled to their vision of perfect, free, immediately accessible childcare serving the menu of their choice? smh."

Well, you can't please everyone.

Do you guys think she made the right choice? Share your thoughts!

Featured image credit: SolStock / Getty

Bride who wanted child-free wedding says decision left her guests furious: 'My aunt actually called me an a**hole'

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By Asiya Ali

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A bride who chose not to have kids at her wedding has been slammed by angry guests, including her aunt, for paying for childcare instead.

One woman found out that if you decide to go above and beyond so that your family and friends can still attend your special day without worrying about their kids, you might still be subjected to brutal criticism.

She explained on Reddit's sub-platform "Am I The A**hole?" that she rented out an indoor playground owned by her brother so that all her guests' kids could go there to be looked after while the wedding took place a five-minute drive away.

"I got married this summer. And while I wanted a child-free wedding I realized that this would exclude a lot of my friends and family. So I came up with what I thought was a good compromise," she wrote.

wp-image-1263228644 size-full
A bride who chose not to have kids at her wedding has been slammed by angry guests for paying for childcare. Credit: Aleksandr Zubkov / Getty

The bride revealed that she paid for the staff at the playground venue as well as food and drink for the children so that their parents didn't have to spend a dollar on the extra expense.

"Basically I paid them double time until midnight whether there were kids there or not," she said. "They are all trained in first aid and have all been screened by the police. On top of that, several of the older kids that didn't want to go to the reception stayed there as well to keep an eye on everything. As well as two ladies from my church."

The poster thought that the playground was a fun and safe option for "anyone with kids that might get rowdy," but "Boy was I wrong" as her guests were furious about the distance between the wedding venue and daycare.

"People were mad that it was so far away. About a five-minute drive," she said. "They were mad that the kids didn't get the same food as the people at the reception. No, they got pizza, nachos, and fried chicken."

She claimed that some guests were outraged that they "didn't have someone to watch nursing babies," even though she was fine with people bringing babies into the reception as she had a "mother's room in the hall for nursing and changing babies".

In addition to this, the shocked bride claimed that her wedding guests called her names over what she thought was a "nice thing," adding that her husband believes that she should've "gone child-free and dealt with that hate" instead of "wasting money on ingrates".

She also alleged that her aunt called her "an a**hole for not wanting a couple of dozen screaming and crying kids at the reception," and is now beginning to wonder if she’d done something wrong.

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The bride rented out an indoor playground for her wedding guests' kids. Credit: Kathrin Ziegler / Getty

However, commenters on the post were firmly on the bride's side, with many stating she came up with a suitable solution that her guests were just ungrateful for.

One person said: "NTA this is the best solution I've heard on here from anyone who wanted a child-free wedding! You provided multiple options for people to chose from, put the kids there were they have fun with others their age, get your own babysitter, or stay home."

"Whoever still had a problem was looking for one," they continued. "Also, who gets mad at different food options? What you provided sounds way more kid-friendly than what was probably at the wedding."

Another user chimed in: "What a generous and lovely thing to have arranged for the children of your family and friends! I would have had a blast at a place like that as a kid. I would have thought the parents would have appreciated a free night out/off. What is wrong with people these days?"

A third added: "NTA. At least now you know what whiners you should avoid inviting to any future events. When did everyone become entitled to their vision of perfect, free, immediately accessible childcare serving the menu of their choice? smh."

Well, you can't please everyone.

Do you guys think she made the right choice? Share your thoughts!

Featured image credit: SolStock / Getty