Bride-to-be refuses to talk to dad because he won't shell out $200k for her wedding

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By Nasima Khatun

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A bride-to-be refused to talk to her father because he wouldn't fork out hundreds of thousands for her extravagant wedding.

Taking to Reddit's infamous 'Am I The A**hole' thread, the anonymous father asked for advice regarding the sticky situation he was currently facing with his daughter.

"My daughter is getting married, and she wishes to have a destination wedding, and [I] told her no," he wrote.

Apparently, his daughter - who is from New York like the rest of the family - wanted to exchange vows in New Zealand, but while this may be a fun idea, the price tag was extortionate.

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"My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I find it to be a pointless showing [of] wealth," he continued. "Now my daughter is not talking to me, nor is my wife. Which got me thinking should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter's dream wedding a reality?"

In an edit, the concerned father also added: "Forgot to mention she is currently asking for around 200k. This is not counting what guests would have to pay to come."

It's been about a month since the post went live and since then, hundreds of Reddit users have taken to the comments to leave their opinions on the matter.

"NTA," wrote one user. "If she can’t pay for a destination wedding on her own, then she shouldn’t be having a destination wedding. It seems cruel but it’s true. Not to mention there’s so much more money involved with the flights and the hotels and stuff. Is she going to be paying for her own ticket or are you expected to fork out for them too? And her fiancées ticket."

They continued: "Not to mention the fact that she’s thrown a strop and isn’t talking to you tells me she doesn’t deserve it. I’m a believer of we are not entitled to our parents money. I don’t expect any inheritance off of my dad if he ever passes, even though he has a big life insurance. I would rather have my dad than the money."

"NTA - don't reward their silent treatment," another added.

Others had a few more questions before they could give their answers.

"Did you agree to give her money towards the wedding? It's her wedding and I think they should make the decisions they want to, but you aren't obligated to pay for it. You could always just gift her a set dollar amount and let them decide how to spend it," asked this Reddit user.

The dad replied saying: "I agreed to pay for her wedding, I was not expecting her to want to get married in NZ."

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In a different comment response, he also elaborated on it.

"It is 100% a destination wedding she wants to get married in NZ. They are invited but the price excludes them, many of our family cannot afford to fly, let alone stay in NZ. Some of our family members don't even have passports or have [ever] left the country," the dad stated.

In a follow-up edit, the dad opened up about getting some updated wedding quotes.

"Tomorrow I am going to start making phone calls to price what a wedding in NY would cost at different head counts from 100 to 200 people. I do not know the exact size I just know he also has a large close family," he wrote. "After I get that information I will use that to make an informed choice, but it will be an either or situation. Because they are playing this game I will tell both of them my wife and daughter that it is a wedding or house.

"If my wife makes a fuss over it that is a battle I will have to face at another time," he added.

What do you think of the situation?

Featured Image Credit: Anna Blazhuk/Getty

Bride-to-be refuses to talk to dad because he won't shell out $200k for her wedding

vt-author-image

By Nasima Khatun

Article saved!Article saved!

A bride-to-be refused to talk to her father because he wouldn't fork out hundreds of thousands for her extravagant wedding.

Taking to Reddit's infamous 'Am I The A**hole' thread, the anonymous father asked for advice regarding the sticky situation he was currently facing with his daughter.

"My daughter is getting married, and she wishes to have a destination wedding, and [I] told her no," he wrote.

Apparently, his daughter - who is from New York like the rest of the family - wanted to exchange vows in New Zealand, but while this may be a fun idea, the price tag was extortionate.

wp-image-1263234223 size-large
Credit: Roberto Westbrook/Getty

"My wife feels I should do it because we can afford it, but I find it to be a pointless showing [of] wealth," he continued. "Now my daughter is not talking to me, nor is my wife. Which got me thinking should I bite the bullet and essentially burn money, and alienate family members to make my daughter's dream wedding a reality?"

In an edit, the concerned father also added: "Forgot to mention she is currently asking for around 200k. This is not counting what guests would have to pay to come."

It's been about a month since the post went live and since then, hundreds of Reddit users have taken to the comments to leave their opinions on the matter.

"NTA," wrote one user. "If she can’t pay for a destination wedding on her own, then she shouldn’t be having a destination wedding. It seems cruel but it’s true. Not to mention there’s so much more money involved with the flights and the hotels and stuff. Is she going to be paying for her own ticket or are you expected to fork out for them too? And her fiancées ticket."

They continued: "Not to mention the fact that she’s thrown a strop and isn’t talking to you tells me she doesn’t deserve it. I’m a believer of we are not entitled to our parents money. I don’t expect any inheritance off of my dad if he ever passes, even though he has a big life insurance. I would rather have my dad than the money."

"NTA - don't reward their silent treatment," another added.

Others had a few more questions before they could give their answers.

"Did you agree to give her money towards the wedding? It's her wedding and I think they should make the decisions they want to, but you aren't obligated to pay for it. You could always just gift her a set dollar amount and let them decide how to spend it," asked this Reddit user.

The dad replied saying: "I agreed to pay for her wedding, I was not expecting her to want to get married in NZ."

wp-image-1263234224 size-large
Credit: Klubovy/Getty

In a different comment response, he also elaborated on it.

"It is 100% a destination wedding she wants to get married in NZ. They are invited but the price excludes them, many of our family cannot afford to fly, let alone stay in NZ. Some of our family members don't even have passports or have [ever] left the country," the dad stated.

In a follow-up edit, the dad opened up about getting some updated wedding quotes.

"Tomorrow I am going to start making phone calls to price what a wedding in NY would cost at different head counts from 100 to 200 people. I do not know the exact size I just know he also has a large close family," he wrote. "After I get that information I will use that to make an informed choice, but it will be an either or situation. Because they are playing this game I will tell both of them my wife and daughter that it is a wedding or house.

"If my wife makes a fuss over it that is a battle I will have to face at another time," he added.

What do you think of the situation?

Featured Image Credit: Anna Blazhuk/Getty