A woman has opened up about her decision to file for divorce after her new husband carried out a "humiliating" stunt involving their wedding cake.
The unnamed woman wrote to Slate's Dear Prudence advice column, explaining: "I got married just before Christmas and am hoping to be divorced or annulled by the end of January.
"I never cared about getting married, but I wasn’t opposed to it. So when my boyfriend proposed in 2020, we decided to go for it.
"We each took on about half the responsibility for organizing the wedding, but I think I was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted something."
She pointed out that she had just one "hard-and-fast rule" - that her groom would refrain from rubbing her face in the wedding cake.
She continued: "Being a reasonable man who knows me well, he didn’t. Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it. It was planned since the cake was DESTROYED, and he had a bunch of cupcakes as backup."
The next day she told him they "we're done".
The woman recalled how others told her that she was "overreacting" - but the thing is, she is "very claustrophobic after a car accident years ago". So, when her husband "shoved [her] into a cake and held there", she panicked.
She concluded by saying that she has no interest in getting back with him but "everyone is so united and confident in their assurance I am making a terrible mistake that I wonder if they are right."
Fortunately for her, agony aunt Prudence supported the woman's decision, telling her to continue with the divorce proceedings because her husband's actions were a "red flag."
"I think what he did was a red flag about not respecting you and your wishes. Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce," she said.
"Everyone’s sure you’re making a mistake, but they’re not the ones who have to wake up every day with a man whose behavior massively turns them off. You are. So you only have to listen to yourself."
The post was later shared in Reddit's Wedding Shaming forum, and the consensus was that the groom was totally in the wrong for the stunt he pulled.
One person wrote: "It's not even a cutesy splat of cake on the nose, he slammed her head into it and humiliated her."
While another said: "He didn't just not respect her only boundary, he found the worst, most aggressive way possible to violate it."
A third said: "She asked for one thing and he couldn't respect that?"
And a fourth added: "I would have been SWINGING if my fiance/husband did that to me. Not that violence should be the first answer but just as a knee-jerk reaction to having my head shoved into something and held there just to get them to stop.
"I would have no remorse whatsoever if I hit him. That's an absolute no no for me."
