Man divides internet after refusing to give up his bed for his wife's parents over Christmas

A married man has taken to social media to ask if he is in the wrong for not giving up his marital bed for his visiting in-laws.

The issue - which I'm sure many married couples can relate to - was raised on the Reddit subforum, Am I The A**hole, in which people share their recent troubles with other users in an effort to determine whether or not they were in the wrong.

In this case, the 37-year-old unnamed man titled his post: "AITA for not giving up my bed?"

The man - who uses the handle ault92 - explains that although he doesn't have much contact with his family, his 30-year-old wife is "relatively close" to hers.

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He writes: "We're in the UK and live about 240 miles from her family. Her parents are hoping (lockdown permitting) to visit us around xmas."

The redditor then states: "Every time we have this argument."

Writing that the couple currently live in a four-bedroom house, the husband explains that the only room in the house with a double bed is the room he shares with his wife. The other rooms have either single beds or they have "a number of blow-up double beds" that can be used.

He even states that he once had six friends stay over on the inflatable mattresses in the lounge.

The post continues: "My wife feels that when her parents visit, with her dad being 60 and her mom 62, we should sleep on a blow-up bed and let them have our bed.

"I feel that this is partly a bit weird, and also I don't see why I should give my bed up.

"Her parents don't like blowup beds and so usually end up staying in a hotel. Her dad says this is because of his back, but I mean he's still working full time in the building trade so he's hardly an invalid."

Some marriages are doomed from the get-go:

The man ends the post by explaining that his wife's parents have never asked to have their double bed, and that the "debate" is only between him and his wife, but as he writes:

"I get on really well with her family, and love visitors, but I just don't see why I should give up my bed!!"

Unsurprisingly, the man's comments divided the Reddit community.

One Redditor wrote: "[Not the a**hole] ... BUT please find a way to get a double bed for the guest room. 60-year-old people shouldn't be forced to sleep on a blow up on the floor - I definitely would give my bed to my inlaws."

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Another person argued: "Have you ever considered that his back hurts because he works full time in the building trade and that he needs to sleep on something supportive as a result?

"I'm going to go with a semi-soft YTA, because while I totally understand the desire to not give up your bed it's also kind of a dick move to just totally discount his explanation like that."

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One Redditor flat-out stated that the husband is in the wrong, writing: "[Yes, the a**hole]. I would be embarrassed to make my 60-year-old parents in law sleep on a blow-up bed, especially after they have driven 240 miles to see you.

"It's obviously an issue for them if they are willing to pay for a hotel. You sound very selfish, [especially] as your FIL has said he has back problems, and blow-up beds can be particularly bad for that."

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But a fourth Redditor said the husband was doing nothing wrong, and if the parents don't mind staying [in] a hotel, there's no problem - although they did add that they should invest in a bigger bed for the guest room.

"You need a bigger bed for your guest room," they wrote. "I would not expect them to sleep on the floor or a blowup mattress, so if you don't have other accommodations then them staying at a hotel is fine."

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