Man who says he married 32-year-old at 15 reveals when he realized it was abuse

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By Phoebe Egoroff

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A TikToker has taken to the social media platform to open up about his experience getting married to a 32-year-old woman at age 15 - and revealed when he realized it was sexual abuse.

The man, who goes by Chazanator on TikTok, regularly uploads videos detailing his real-life stories in the hopes it will help others. Recently, he opened up about being married at just 15 years old and how he would now describe the situation as sexual abuse.

Chazanator has answered viewers' questions in several separate TikToks, originally explaining in one of them that his wife began "using" him soon after they were married.


"It probably took me about a month after we got married to realize that this was starting to feel like SA (sexual abuse), and by that, I mean that it wasn't something I wanted to keep doing," he said in the video, which has 1.3 million views and over 170,000 likes.

"She was very active [sexually]. She used me like a toy, like up to five times a day. I just got tired. I was exhausted, and I couldn't keep up with her drive. Anytime I would tell her no, I'd never hear the end of it," he continued.

Chazanator then added: "It became very clear to me that in order to keep her happy, I was going to have to sacrifice every ounce of energy within my soul. She just smothered me."

Despite being a child, he admitted that he was "legally an emancipated adult" and found it difficult to land a steady job that could bring in enough income. Eventually, however, he had to rely on his wife who already had two daughters - aged six and eight.


"I quit school, I worked in tobacco for cash. I brought in as much money as I could. It was never enough. I was financially dependent on her. She had children. I could not stay there. I felt guilty. I had to get out," Chazanator revealed.

"Honestly, it took me many years to realize how severely this [sexual assault] affected me and my ability to have relationships with other people. It didn't make me bisexual, but it definitely made it more difficult for me to have a relationship with a woman for quite a while after that. It took me literally decades to process the [sexual assault] that she performed on me and to see it for what it was," he admitted.

Now that he has children of his own, the TikToker stated that he would never allow an adult to do the same to them, saying: "My oldest child turned 15, and that's when I looked at him and I realized that I was a child. I was 15. Once I was innocent, I didn't deserve what happened to me."

"And if any grown a** man or woman of age 32 had ever touched one of my children at age 15, that would have been the last thing they ever did. I was a child, she manipulated me. She's dead. I let it go," he frankly stated.

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