All of us, at some point in our lives, have met the one that got away. A person who our heart ached to be with, whom we fell helplessly, painfully in love with, but whom we couldn't have. Through chance or circumstance, your own mistakes or just the gradually cooling of initial warm feelings, you and your partner have broken up, and all that's left for you to do is cry, lick your wounds, and then try to move on as best you can. It might take a while, maybe even years before you fully heal, or you might be over it in the space of a day.
But you'll never stop a private part of you from wondering about them from time to time, and maybe even picturing what might have been. Plenty of people who break up with a partner spend their life in daydreams, fantasying about getting a text or a call from a contrite ex who tells them that they've come to their senses and want to get back together. Both breakups I've experienced in my life had me wishing for a second chance, or hoping that my old girlfriend missed me. Eventually, I learned that we'd separated for good reason. But very occasionally, I do wonder: 'could I get back with them now, if I wanted to?'
However, Lee Wilson, a so-called 'Ex Coach' who hails from Nashville, claims that he can get anybody back together with their ex, for a small free. Lee claims that he had an epiphany about the nature of love and rejection after going through two painful breakups in high school, and now he claims that he can coach customers who follow his advice and training into hooking up with an old flame again. Now he advises approximately 4,000 people annually and charges $87 for a half-hour session and $47 for an 'emergency break-up kit,' including a video and text guide to rekindling a broken romance.
Lee has a number of tips for people looking to get back together with an ex. Firstly, don't just think that you can talk them into changing their mind. Talking rarely works. Appeal to their heart and not their head. Secondly, don't bombard them with messages. This makes you look emotionally unstable and places control in their hands, and don't beg or appeal for mercy.
Instead, tell your ex that you respect their decision but don't agree with them, and keep your distance and let them notice your absence. Give every appearance of having moved on, but if they contact you then drop inside jokes into conversation to help remind them of the good times you had together before the break-up.
So, what advice does Lee give to all those hopefuls out there who are thinking about trying to reignite things with an old flame? Well for starters, Lee stresses that appearing casual is of the utmost importance. "The biggest and most common mistake people make when they’re trying to get back with their exes is to become desperate and grasping," he stated in a recent interview.
"They often beg and ask to be taken back, appealing to the other person’s mercy and immediately putting themselves in a position of weakness. That nearly always just digs the hole even deeper, because they didn’t go out with that person in the first place through mercy – they did it because of love and attraction."
He added: "I always tell people who come to me that you need to give the other person space and that means not texting them and not constantly trying to contact them, telling them how much you miss them. Your absence is power. Let them go and tell them that you respect the decision to end things and then let that person start to miss you and notice that you’re not there any more. When they then choose to contact you, it’s important to show them that you are in a positive place and could potentially move on."
Lee claims that his success rate is between 55 and 75 per cent, but that some relationships are simply impossible to go back to. So if you're desperate to get back together with your old partner, then why not follow him on Twitter for help and advice? Or, you can check out his official website for more information. You never know; it might well work!
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