When it comes to intimate preferences, there's always room for debate, especially when it involves positions in the bedroom.
One that has long been a topic of both curiosity and criticism is the 69.
While some enjoy the simultaneous pleasure of giving and receiving, others - both men and women - find it less than appealing.
In fact, many agree that the 69 might just be one of the "worst" positions in sex. Here’s why this position has such a controversial reputation.
Men Speak Out: Why the 69 Doesn’t Work for Them
Men have a lot to say about why the 69 is far from their favorite position.
One 28-year-old man on Reddit summed it up clearly: "Not a fan. I love giving. I love receiving. 69 makes it hard for me to enjoy either part. I don’t like someone’s crotch in my face when I’m receiving… and the BJ is really overwhelming for me when I’m trying to give pleasure."
This sentiment was echoed by other men who criticized the position’s inherent multitasking demands.
As one Reddit user put it: "It’s like two people giving each other a massage. Feels like for the relaxation to be fully enjoyed, one person should go at a time."
For many men, the position simply doesn’t allow them to focus on either giving or receiving pleasure.
"The main problem with this position is that you are both givers and takers at the same time," one guy shared. "As a giver, it’s hard to focus, and as a taker, you can’t relax. It’s one of the worst positions ever."
Women’s Complaints: It’s Too Distracting and Uncomfortable
Interestingly, women seem to share similar frustrations with the 69. While men have been vocal about how the position hampers their ability to enjoy the act, women have their own set of issues.
One woman explained: "I don’t enjoy oral unless I can really concentrate on every subtle thing that he does and how good it feels. Otherwise, it just feels like someone tickling me in an uncomfortable way."
Her discomfort with the position is amplified when she has to deal with a "d**k in my face," which leaves her unable to focus on anything other than the sensation itself.
"It’s just so demanding and there in my face," she added. "So it ends up being a blow job in an uncomfortable position with someone tickling me somewhere and an obligation to enjoy it."
In a study conducted by Seduce AI, which surveyed over 2,000 women, 29% cited the 69 as the most disliked sex position, cited by Metro.
For these women, the issue was simple: multitasking leads to a lack of focus and sexual satisfaction. The study revealed that women felt they couldn’t fully concentrate on their own pleasure, which led to frustration.
"I don’t like it," another woman shared. "It’s supposed to be double fun, but I can’t focus on either of the two, and as a result, neither is fun." Some even expressed surprise that anyone actually enjoys the position.
Why Some Women Find the 69 Too Close for Comfort
While men primarily complain about the lack of focus, women have additional concerns.
Several women pointed out the awkwardness of the position and how it can make them feel self-conscious. "There’s nothing appealing about it, and I’d feel self-conscious in that position," one woman confessed.
This concern makes sense when you consider the nature of the position.
"It’s pretty exposing," she explained. Having your behind so close to someone’s face may not be everyone’s idea of comfort or intimacy. Another woman added to the discomfort: "It’s a really awkward blowjob angle, and his nose ends up too close to my butthole for comfort."
This is usually where I'd offer you to leave your thoughts in the comments, but maybe it's best if we all just keep it to ourselves on this one.