If you have kids of your own, pay close attention because a parenting expert has listed the four main things you should never say to them. Life coach Larry John II explained in a recent TikTok video that exposing your little ones to demeaning language can emotionally scar them for life. However, not all parents agree with the motivational speaker's outlook. In any case, the first item on the list essentially states that you should avoid making your child feel like a "burden". This includes saying things like "You cost me so much money" or "You are so exhausting to take care of". Such hurtful words can make youngsters feel that their parent does not love them unconditionally. [[tiktokwidget||https://www.tiktok.com/@cgtrainerlj/video/6936545941986036998]] Larry added: "This will cause the child to subconsciously hold in their needs and not express what they really need and feel." The second thing to avoid is speaking disparagingly about your kid's appearance. Making comments like "You're so short," "You don't look good today," or "You're too skinny" can lead to low self-esteem and poor self-confidence, Larry explained. Also to be avoided are harmful questions about your child's idiosyncrasies. "Things like 'why are you sitting like that?,' 'why are you walking that?,' or 'why are you chewing like that?' - this will make the child really believe that there's something wrong with them," the TikToker explained. And finally, try not to compare your child to their siblings or other children in general. "This will make the child believe they aren't good enough and sometimes cause unhealthy relationships with their friends or their actual siblings, which is so important," he explained. A number of people have since taken to the comments of Larry's eye-opening TikTok video, with many agreeing with him while also sharing their own personal experiences. One person wrote: "My mom said all of these to me. And I remember EVERYTHING. I hated it. She never hugged, kissed or loved on me. I will NOT be my mother..." Another said: "A lot of parents don't want to admit their wrongs and keep assuming it's all right, no it's not all right. Accept it and CHANGE." <img class="wp-image-1263115718 size-full" src="https://img.vt.co/2021/06/Screen-Shot-2021-06-30-at-16.31.18.png" alt="" width="681" height="159" />[[imagecaption|| Credit: TikTok / Larry John II]] <img class="wp-image-1263115719 size-full" src="https://img.vt.co/2021/06/Screen-Shot-2021-06-30-at-16.30.50.png" alt="" width="670" height="152" />[[imagecaption|| Credit: TikTok / Larry John II]] However, other people in the comments section decided to take the TikToker's message with a grain of salt. One argued: "Basically we can't say anything to our children? If as a parent I can't correct and help them to be better who will help them?" A different person shared: "I do all of them. If I don't tell chill [sic] the truth she won't know and she won't change her habits. The world is cruel... hear from your momma first." <img class="wp-image-1263115716 size-full" src="https://img.vt.co/2021/06/Screen-Shot-2021-06-30-at-16.32.58.png" alt="" width="670" height="157" />[[imagecaption|| Credit: TikTok / Larry John II]] <img class="wp-image-1263115717 size-full" src="https://img.vt.co/2021/06/Screen-Shot-2021-06-30-at-16.32.31.png" alt="" width="650" height="167" />[[imagecaption|| Credit: TikTok / Larry John II]] <h6>Featured image credit: Alamy / True Images</h6>

Parenting expert shares four things you should never say to your children

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