A man has taken to the internet to share his consternation after his girlfriend didn't seem to come up with the goods when it came to her anniversary gift for him.
He took to Reddit's Am I The ***Hole forum to find out if his feelings towards the underwhelming gift were justified, igniting something of a debate on the thread in the process.
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However, when it came to her gift for him, things took a turn for the worse.
"[When] she asked me if there was something I'd like I said whatever she wanted, it's the thought that matters. She got me a little frame (bought for very very very cheap at the chinese shop under her house) with four pictures and that's it. The gift idea was cute, I was expecting some more effort (the pictures were not even aligned, they appeared to be thrown in), I was sensing very little effort from her side to her gift."
However, not wanting to hurt her feelings, he didn't say anything about the way the gift made him feel and instead thanked her for it.
Just before Christmas, though, the real damage was done when his girlfriend said she didn't know what to get for two of her close friends.
The man goes on: "I suggested i couple of ideas [sic] but she said it was a waste of money (around 10€, keep in mind she lives with her mom and gets 500€ from her dad every month). And then she said what got me a little angry: "I'll do the thing I do when I don't want to spend money and time on a gift, I'll just buy two cheap frame at the chinese shop, print a couple of photos and I don't have to think about it anymore"."
Naturally, this made the man recall the gift she had gotten him for their anniversary.
"I got a little angry and she said I was overreacting, that it was not the same thing and that I shouldn't think about it," he said.
"Now some time has past, I'm not angry, but I feel sad about the whole thing. Am I the asshole for getting angry and sad about the whole situation?"
And commenters were quick to weigh in.
"The fact that she admitted to your face that she had just given you her standard "not that important" treatment would tick me off too. It says to me that she just didn't want to bother and that's a painful thing to hear," one wrote.
"If a man I spent a year with said that to me, he’d be my ex-boyfriend immediately. She will continue to be lazy and make no effort while expecting more from you." Another commenter added.
A third Redditor wrote, "You said yourself it's the thought that matters, and she pretty much admitted putting virtually no thought in it whatsoever. That's all you really need to know."
So what do you think? Let us know in the comments.
