Sex worker reveals the 'real reason' married men cheat

A former sex worker has opened up about her career and has explained why she believes married men cheat on their wives.

Marriage is supposed to be a happy union between two people who are presumably madly in love with each other.

Most people want to be happily married, right? Credit: Peter Cade/Getty

However, things can quickly go wrong and while getting a divorce is a completely reasonable thing to do, cheating on your partner isn't.

Despite this, people cheating on their partners seems all too commonplace in today's world, and some people can't understand why.

Well, lucky for you, a former sex worker has revealed why she believes it happens.

Writing for the Daily Mail, Amanda Goff - also known as Samantha X - has delved into her former work.

Known for her bestselling books and as the head of her own escort agency, she spent a decade working with men from all walks of life, including single, widowed, divorced, and many married clients.

Reflecting on her experience, she observed that men excel at two things: separating love from sex and lying.

"If there's one thing married men taught me, it was not to get married," she shared.

Here, in her own words, are the four main reasons she believes men cheat:

"Believe it or not, men like to talk. They are emotional and extremely vulnerable," she explained, noting that many married men feel unable to be vulnerable at home.

Often too scared to appear “weak” or cause their partners stress, they seek out someone neutral who can listen without judgment.

For these men, the thousands spent on an escort is often preferred to therapy. “I don’t want to be judged,” was a common refrain she heard.

According to her, many married men miss the intimacy of foreplay.

"Men secretly want to spend hours in bed with you but say they got sick of being rejected,” she revealed.

Many expressed frustration at the quick encounters that lack time and care, saying they miss pleasuring their partners in a way that feels meaningful. In the end, they craved moments that weren’t rushed, even if they didn’t lead to sex.

Presumably, most people frown on cheating... Credit: franckreporter/Getty

While society often assumes men are the primary culprits in cheating, she points out that women stray, too.

"They're the ones that get caught,” she remarked, noting that for men, the discovery of a partner’s infidelity can have intense consequences.

She recalled a client who, reeling after his wife left him for her personal trainer, spent hours talking "fully dressed" about his heartbreak. Another man, stunned by his wife’s departure, admitted he couldn’t even boil an egg.

She believes that while wives may sometimes forgive a husband’s infidelity, men’s egos make it harder for them to let go. In many cases, men feel the need to retaliate, justifying their own actions as a way to restore balance.

Lastly, she addresses a crucial misconception: “Seeing an escort doesn’t mean they don’t love you.”

She insists that for many, the appeal of an escort lies not in looking for a relationship, but rather in finding temporary companionship.

“Men are like puppies that chew your shoes, they just can’t help themselves,” she added with a wry humor, emphasizing that the connection sought is rarely meant to replace the love they have for their spouses.

So there we have it...

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