If you're looking for a way to spice up your relationship in the bedroom, have you ever considered sploshing?
It's not as gross as it sounds... I think.
Nobody is here to kink shame anybody else, and what people get up to behind closed doors is completely up to them.
... As long as it's consensual and doesn't break the law.
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So if you want to take things up a notch, and maybe stop your stomach from rumbling at the same time, then sploshing might be for you.
For those unfamiliar with the term, sploshing is exactly what it sounds like: a fetish involving sexual pleasure derived from getting covered in wet and messy substances, per Men's Health.
But we're not talking a simple drizzle of whipped cream. Think much messier - baths of jelly, showers of syrup, and yes, even entire cakes.
This wet and messy fetish (also known as WAM - Wet and Messy) is rapidly gaining popularity.
Videos show women pouring spaghetti sauce over themselves, sitting in pools of cake, or showering in coffee, and the trend is causing quite a stir.
Sex psychotherapist Gigi Engle, who works with SexToys.co.uk, explains that sploshing is fundamentally about the experience of being covered in something gooey and tactile, per the Metro.
“Sploshing is a sexual kink or fetish that involves sitting in or spreading around jelly-like or viscous substances,” she says. “But it can encompass absolutely any substance that gets messy.”
Cake sitting, in particular, is one of the most popular forms of sploshing. In fact, it has become a mainstay on platforms like OnlyFans, where content creators make a spectacle of sitting in or smashing cakes for their audiences.
“It’s very messy and there’s destruction which can feed into the erotica of it,” says Engle. She notes that the sensory experience - feeling the squishiness of a cake or slime - is a huge part of its appeal.
You might be wondering what actually makes this fetish so alluring. After all, wouldn’t you rather eat that chocolate bar than have it poured over you?
Engle explains that part of the attraction comes from sensory stimulation.
“There’s a really big auditory element to it, the sound of the substance squishing. There’s a tactile element to it where you could like the feel of it on your fingers or body. The messiness and wetness can also be a big draw - it’s a very sensory experience.”
Dominatrix Countess Diamond, a practitioner deeply embedded in the world of BDSM, adds that sploshing’s connection to the fetish scene goes way back.
“When ‘sploshing’ first occurred in our history I don’t know for sure,” she said. “But the earliest records showing grapes being crushed under feet for wine was in 7000 BC, and I have a feeling someone would have been watching those women with a semi in their pants.”
Diamond suggests that the modern fascination with sploshing likely has roots in childhood TV shows from the 80s, particularly those involving “gunge” tanks, where kids or celebrities were doused in sticky slime.
“It was always women who received the shower of slime, and squealed as the cold load landed on their skin.”
If you want to splosh, then there's no shame - just maybe put down a few towels first.