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Woman goes viral after sharing 'toxic' Tinder date who shamed her for not sleeping with him
Warning: This article contains themes and topics that some people will find upsetting.
A woman has gone viral after sharing footage she secretly recorded of her "toxic" Tinder date shaming her for not sleeping with him.
Madison, a 25-year-old from Indiana, told Buzzfeed that she decided to meet up with a man she had been speaking to for around three weeks on Tinder.
"He was supposed to take me to dinner, but changed the plan and decided to just go back to his house and watch a movie," she explained.
When the pair went back to the man's house, he insisted that Madison drink alcohol with him, and when she refused and decided to call an Uber to leave, her date got angry, and she recorded what happened next.
Needless to say, the video did not go unnoticed on the social media website, and at the time of writing, it has received over 250K likes. However, it does come with a trigger warning for sexual assault.
In the video, Madison's Tinder date can be heard shaming her for using the app to date and explains that it only exists so that people can "f**k", and therefore, she was misleading him by using the application in the first place...
Because using an app equates to consent. Not.
Madison then informed her Tinder date that if he simply wants to find hookups, he should be honest about his intentions from the get-go.
In response, he says: "If you say that, you're not gonna get any Tinder matchups!"
AKA it is better to lie about what you are after in order to convince a person to sleep with you for the wrong reasons.
Madison then rightfully informs him that his tactic is an example of "toxic masculinity", but instead of accepting that she is in the right, he hits back by saying that it's "reality".
He tells her to "wake up" and that "he's trying to help" so that she doesn't find herself in the same situation again.
Thankfully, Madison was able to escape the date safely and return home.
She later told Buzzfeed: "The worst part [about what he said] was that he didn't feel like I had the right to say, 'No'. That I was obligated to have sex with him because I went back to his apartment.
"I'm in recovery, so I've gone through a lot of bad stuff that kind of taught me, along with therapy, to stay calm in situations like that. I knew I had a choice, but my worry was that other women in this situation might not feel like they have a choice."