Waiter says he refused to serve alcoholic cocktails to pregnant customer - divides internet

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An anonymous waiter has admitted to serving a pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails when the lady had actually ordered alcoholic beverages.

Taking to Reddit to start a thread as part of the site's "Am I The A**hole?" community, the server was keen to get a second opinion after being put on leave until further notice.

Anyway, since posting about the incident, thousands of people have been arguing for and against the server's actions.

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"During my shift last night, a group of four women in their late 20s came in," the server explained. "They were a pleasure to have as customers. They ordered four of our house cocktails to start with and then went over the menu for their entrees."

However, after serving the group of women their cocktails, the server overheard one of them talking about how she was "14 weeks along". Later, they were talking about the same topic and it was "clear" to the server that she was pregnant.

When the women ordered their second round of alcoholic beverages, the server made a decision that didn't end well.

"This time, I went to the bartender, and asked him to make one of them a virgin cocktail," the server explained. "He was confused, but since he's a good friend of mine, I told him to just trust me."

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"A few cocktails later (hers strictly virgin) they started getting rowdy, and Mrs. Pregnant Woman was also getting into it. I figured that since she didn't notice, things were OK."

However, when it came to the check, the server suddenly realized the plan may not have been full-proof after all. Indeed, the bartender had marked the pregnant woman's drinks as "virgin" on the receipt.

Needless to say, the woman wasn't happy when she saw the receipt, asking the server about it before getting management involved.

This Taco Bell employee refused to serve a deaf customer at an Ohio Drive-Thru:
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Following the confrontation, the server was put on leave until further notice.

"[My manager] also informed me that I could get the restaurant in serious trouble for discrimination, and upon examination of my state's laws, she is correct," the server wrote.

So, was the server really the a**hole here?

Well, according to many of the commenters on Reddit - it's a resounding yes!

One user wrote: "YTA. If you really didn’t feel comfortable serving her, you should have told your manager, not made a bad decision on your own."

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Another said: "Yta. Unless you saw the woman pee on a pregnancy test, you had no way of knowing for sure that she was pregnant."

They added: "She could have been talking about someone else, a past pregnancy, or she could be planning to terminate the pregnancy. That wasn’t your call to make."

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A third agreed, writing: "YTA 14 weeks along doesn’t have to mean she’s pregnant, she could’ve been 14 weeks along in a fitness program, her new job, her new relationship, therapy, etc."

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They added: "And virgin drinks are far less expensive than alcoholic ones and I presume you still charged her for the alcoholic ones even though she wasn’t getting any and took a bigger tip. So again, YTA. Ask next time instead of making an assumption"

Not everyone was against the server though, with one user writing:

"I am shocked at the amount of YTA posts, while I vote NTA, it's at worst ESH. If its okay for bartenders to cut off customers they think are too drunk, is this really that far from it?"

"Making it a virgin drink isnt a huge change, people saying they messed with a customers order make it sound like they made something with gluten when asked for gluten free."

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What do you think? Is the server the a**hole here?

Waiter says he refused to serve alcoholic cocktails to pregnant customer - divides internet

vt-author-image

By VT

Article saved!Article saved!

An anonymous waiter has admitted to serving a pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails when the lady had actually ordered alcoholic beverages.

Taking to Reddit to start a thread as part of the site's "Am I The A**hole?" community, the server was keen to get a second opinion after being put on leave until further notice.

Anyway, since posting about the incident, thousands of people have been arguing for and against the server's actions.

Two cocktails
[[imagecaption|| Credit: Pexels]]

"During my shift last night, a group of four women in their late 20s came in," the server explained. "They were a pleasure to have as customers. They ordered four of our house cocktails to start with and then went over the menu for their entrees."

However, after serving the group of women their cocktails, the server overheard one of them talking about how she was "14 weeks along". Later, they were talking about the same topic and it was "clear" to the server that she was pregnant.

When the women ordered their second round of alcoholic beverages, the server made a decision that didn't end well.

"This time, I went to the bartender, and asked him to make one of them a virgin cocktail," the server explained. "He was confused, but since he's a good friend of mine, I told him to just trust me."

[[imagecaption|| Credit: Pexels]]

"A few cocktails later (hers strictly virgin) they started getting rowdy, and Mrs. Pregnant Woman was also getting into it. I figured that since she didn't notice, things were OK."

However, when it came to the check, the server suddenly realized the plan may not have been full-proof after all. Indeed, the bartender had marked the pregnant woman's drinks as "virgin" on the receipt.

Needless to say, the woman wasn't happy when she saw the receipt, asking the server about it before getting management involved.

This Taco Bell employee refused to serve a deaf customer at an Ohio Drive-Thru:
[[jwplayerwidget||https://content.jwplatform.com/videos/3vYwD1gG-sKUnNGKf.mp4||3vYwD1gG]]

Following the confrontation, the server was put on leave until further notice.

"[My manager] also informed me that I could get the restaurant in serious trouble for discrimination, and upon examination of my state's laws, she is correct," the server wrote.

So, was the server really the a**hole here?

Well, according to many of the commenters on Reddit - it's a resounding yes!

One user wrote: "YTA. If you really didn’t feel comfortable serving her, you should have told your manager, not made a bad decision on your own."

[[imagecaption|| Credit: Reddit]]

Another said: "Yta. Unless you saw the woman pee on a pregnancy test, you had no way of knowing for sure that she was pregnant."

They added: "She could have been talking about someone else, a past pregnancy, or she could be planning to terminate the pregnancy. That wasn’t your call to make."

[[imagecaption|| Credit: Reddit]]

A third agreed, writing: "YTA 14 weeks along doesn’t have to mean she’s pregnant, she could’ve been 14 weeks along in a fitness program, her new job, her new relationship, therapy, etc."

[[imagecaption|| Credit: Reddit]]

They added: "And virgin drinks are far less expensive than alcoholic ones and I presume you still charged her for the alcoholic ones even though she wasn’t getting any and took a bigger tip. So again, YTA. Ask next time instead of making an assumption"

Not everyone was against the server though, with one user writing:

"I am shocked at the amount of YTA posts, while I vote NTA, it's at worst ESH. If its okay for bartenders to cut off customers they think are too drunk, is this really that far from it?"

"Making it a virgin drink isnt a huge change, people saying they messed with a customers order make it sound like they made something with gluten when asked for gluten free."

[[imagecaption|| Credit: Reddit]]

What do you think? Is the server the a**hole here?