Woman considering divorce after learning husband calls her 'ST' in texts to friends

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By James Kay

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A woman questioned whether she should divorce her husband after she learned that her husband was referring to her as "ST" in chats with his friends.

Relationships are something to be cherished, and once you've found the person you consider to be "the one", it's presumed you'll do whatever it takes to give them the best life possible.

That can be done in many ways, and some couples have cute nicknames for each other that might seem weird to everyone else, but it means a lot to them.

But what happens if your partner has a nickname for you that they only use with their friends? One woman ran into this very situation.

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The couple fell out over a nickname. Credit: bymuratdeniz/Getty

The woman in question took the Reddit to seek advice on her bizarre situation, as she began: "My phone died right as I was texting my mom about something rather important so my husband let me use his. As I was typing, a banner popped up with a text from one of his friends to their group chat, saying to the effect of 'hey (Husband), do you and ST still want to (Halloween plan we'd talked about)?'"

After reading through the chat a little more, she confirmed that ST was referring to her but she was confused because they aren't her initials.

"I showed him the chat and asked what it stood for," she penned. "He looked suddenly really flustered. He grabbed his phone back and said 'oh uhh it's nothing, just a nickname.' Okay? Well what's it stand for? He literally wouldn't tell me...he just kept saying 'don't worry about it.'".

She pressed further, saying if it was a joke she would prefer to know and not be left with the anxiety of thinking that she is being mocked, so he told her that it stood for "super terrific".

Naturally, this didn't quite settle things as the Redditor was still anxious about what it meant and wondered if she was overthinking, but then a dreaded update arrived.

She said: "I ended up getting a text from one of my husband's female friends in his group chat, the day after I posted here. Turned out that right after I asked him about the nickname, he told all of them I'd seen it and to stop calling me that."

The friend then revealed what ST stands for, and sadly it wasn't something complimentary - it's 'sausage t*ts'.

She went on: "I don't even know how or why it started. I cannot fathom the thought that my husband could have described my boobs in detail to all his friends. And then they thought it sounded hilarious enough to make a nickname out of?"

Her husband apologized profusely, but the couple have been sleeping in separate rooms ever since while the Redditor works out what she wants to do.

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The Redditor is now weighing up her options. Credit: Witthaya Prasongsin/Getty

"I'm trying to figure out if my need for space is temporary or permanent. If it's permanent, then I'll be pursuing divorce," she said.

She went on: "I never could have imagined he'd view me like this behind his back. It's like if he was to gain weight and I encouraged all my friends to start calling him fata** or beer belly behind his back. What other possible reason to do that than contempt. I said this but he insists it doesn't have any deeper meaning and is just bad humor.

"The issue I'm realizing is now there will always be a fear in my mind that he's saying nasty things about me to who knows who."

Other users took to the comments to share their thoughts, with one writing: "I think the worst part is when he texted his friends after she saw the ST message. It wasn’t 'Guys, cool it. We’re being mean. Yes, I thought it was funny at first, but it’s not, and her feelings will be hurt.' It was 'LOL she found out about ST and she’s gonna be so p**sed if she finds out what it stands for LOL'. He didn’t care about her feelings, he only cared that he’d been found out."

Another added: "Imagine making fun of your SO's (or anyone's) body and not seeing an issue with that. Holy s**t. I would raise hell if anyone commented on my girlfriend's body in a remotely questionable way, I cannot f**king imagine joining in on it. OP's husband is a dogs**t human."

Others wrote: "I can't even imagine disrespecting my partner like that. Let alone telling people and joking about it. Wtf is wrong with people", and: "As someone with self confidence issues I could not imagine going thru something like this especially it being her husband who said it.. I hope she is able to heal from this and she realizes that nothing is wrong with her body and her husband is just an a**."

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Woman considering divorce after learning husband calls her 'ST' in texts to friends

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By James Kay

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A woman questioned whether she should divorce her husband after she learned that her husband was referring to her as "ST" in chats with his friends.

Relationships are something to be cherished, and once you've found the person you consider to be "the one", it's presumed you'll do whatever it takes to give them the best life possible.

That can be done in many ways, and some couples have cute nicknames for each other that might seem weird to everyone else, but it means a lot to them.

But what happens if your partner has a nickname for you that they only use with their friends? One woman ran into this very situation.

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The couple fell out over a nickname. Credit: bymuratdeniz/Getty

The woman in question took the Reddit to seek advice on her bizarre situation, as she began: "My phone died right as I was texting my mom about something rather important so my husband let me use his. As I was typing, a banner popped up with a text from one of his friends to their group chat, saying to the effect of 'hey (Husband), do you and ST still want to (Halloween plan we'd talked about)?'"

After reading through the chat a little more, she confirmed that ST was referring to her but she was confused because they aren't her initials.

"I showed him the chat and asked what it stood for," she penned. "He looked suddenly really flustered. He grabbed his phone back and said 'oh uhh it's nothing, just a nickname.' Okay? Well what's it stand for? He literally wouldn't tell me...he just kept saying 'don't worry about it.'".

She pressed further, saying if it was a joke she would prefer to know and not be left with the anxiety of thinking that she is being mocked, so he told her that it stood for "super terrific".

Naturally, this didn't quite settle things as the Redditor was still anxious about what it meant and wondered if she was overthinking, but then a dreaded update arrived.

She said: "I ended up getting a text from one of my husband's female friends in his group chat, the day after I posted here. Turned out that right after I asked him about the nickname, he told all of them I'd seen it and to stop calling me that."

The friend then revealed what ST stands for, and sadly it wasn't something complimentary - it's 'sausage t*ts'.

She went on: "I don't even know how or why it started. I cannot fathom the thought that my husband could have described my boobs in detail to all his friends. And then they thought it sounded hilarious enough to make a nickname out of?"

Her husband apologized profusely, but the couple have been sleeping in separate rooms ever since while the Redditor works out what she wants to do.

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The Redditor is now weighing up her options. Credit: Witthaya Prasongsin/Getty

"I'm trying to figure out if my need for space is temporary or permanent. If it's permanent, then I'll be pursuing divorce," she said.

She went on: "I never could have imagined he'd view me like this behind his back. It's like if he was to gain weight and I encouraged all my friends to start calling him fata** or beer belly behind his back. What other possible reason to do that than contempt. I said this but he insists it doesn't have any deeper meaning and is just bad humor.

"The issue I'm realizing is now there will always be a fear in my mind that he's saying nasty things about me to who knows who."

Other users took to the comments to share their thoughts, with one writing: "I think the worst part is when he texted his friends after she saw the ST message. It wasn’t 'Guys, cool it. We’re being mean. Yes, I thought it was funny at first, but it’s not, and her feelings will be hurt.' It was 'LOL she found out about ST and she’s gonna be so p**sed if she finds out what it stands for LOL'. He didn’t care about her feelings, he only cared that he’d been found out."

Another added: "Imagine making fun of your SO's (or anyone's) body and not seeing an issue with that. Holy s**t. I would raise hell if anyone commented on my girlfriend's body in a remotely questionable way, I cannot f**king imagine joining in on it. OP's husband is a dogs**t human."

Others wrote: "I can't even imagine disrespecting my partner like that. Let alone telling people and joking about it. Wtf is wrong with people", and: "As someone with self confidence issues I could not imagine going thru something like this especially it being her husband who said it.. I hope she is able to heal from this and she realizes that nothing is wrong with her body and her husband is just an a**."

Featured image credit: Mixmike/Getty