Woman explains why she paid to lose her virginity aged 43

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By James Kay

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A 43-year-old woman has shed light on why she decided to pay to lose her virginity to a male escort.

Becoming intimate with another person can be a personal thing for some people, and events earlier in life can create scenarios where people don't want to give themselves completely to somebody else.

Melanie Hawkes, 43, from Australia, took an unexpected turn at the age of two when she was diagnosed with transverse myelitis, a condition caused by inflammation of the spinal cord due to infection.

This debilitating disorder left her needing a wheelchair since the age of three, with limited movement in her arms and occasional pain and breathing difficulties. Despite the hurdles she faced, Melanie remained resilient.

Growing up, discussions about sex were scarce in Melanie's household. Her parents' primary concern was her brothers' responsibilities, warning them about avoiding unwanted pregnancies.

This lack of communication left Melanie navigating her way through life's challenges independently.

Despite having feelings for a guy in university, circumstances led to unrequited emotions, and she eventually immersed herself in work and other commitments, believing that finding a partner was an unattainable dream.

In 2022, Melanie's life took a significant turn when she contracted Covid and experienced breathing difficulties. During this challenging period, her support worker, Tracy (name has been changed), offered her a simple massage to alleviate neck pain.

Melanie realized that this was the "first time [she'd] been touched so intimately by anyone," and Tracy offered further advice, she revealed to Take 5 magazine.

As somebody with past experiences as a sex worker, she explained that there were people who specialize specifically in catering to disabled clients.

The encounter prompted Melanie to contemplate the possibilities of fulfilling her desires. Realizing that life was too short to ignore her yearnings, she embarked on a search for a suitable male escort.

After discovering Chayse, whom she felt drawn to, she reached out to him, initiating a life-changing conversation.

Melanie's first encounter with Chayse was a two-hour erotic massage, an experience that left her wanting more. She later arranged another meeting, this time at her own home, where they spent three hours exploring newfound pleasures for the 43-year-old.

Melanie confessed that Chayse has opened her eyes to a world she had been missing for far too long, and she now cherishes every moment they share.

Through these encounters, she gains confidence in exploring her desires and preferences, a process she believes will guide her in finding a life partner.

Despite the potential judgment from some, Melanie remains steadfast in her decision, emphasizing that those without disabilities may not fully comprehend the challenges she and others face.

"We deserve to feel loved and desired, like anyone else," Melanie asserted passionately.

Melanie hopes that by speaking out, she can encourage others with disabilities to know that options for intimacy do exist.

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