A woman has been praised online for walking out and leaving her husband and family in a restaurant after they expected her to foot the bill for all of their meals, just because she'd received an inheritance from her mother.
Going for meals out as a group can turn awkward if you have friends who quibble over splitting the bill, with some wanting to divide it equally by the number of diners, while others would prefer to pay for exactly what they had in case theirs comes to less overall.
However, things can get even more uncomfortable if you realize the entire group is waiting on you to pay for them all - especially if you haven't actually offered to do so.
The unnamed woman, 32, took to Reddit's infamous 'Am I The A**hole' forum to share the uncomfortable experience she'd had during a recent dinner with her husband and his family.
She explained that the situation occurred after her in-laws found out that she'd received a decent amount of inheritance after the death of her mother, money which she was saving until she decided what she wanted to use it for.
The woman wrote: "I recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a separate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.
"I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me pay for nearly everything the past couple of weeks."
Things came to a head when she and her husband headed to a restaurant to celebrate New Year's Eve with his family, when she found out that she was "expected to pay for everyone at the table."
She revealed: "My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my 'inheritance pocket' which made me livid but I showed no reaction.
"Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant. They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home."
The woman revealed that her husband then arrived home at 3AM after celebrating with his family, when he launched a torrent of abuse at her for not forking out for everyone's meal and drinks.
"He got back at 3 a.m yeling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they relied on me to pay for their food and thougt I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong," she continued.
"He said I humiliated him and family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say."
She added that her husband was "mad" that she hadn't paid, claiming she'd "caused a huge rift" between his family and herself, which could have been avoided as it "wouldn't have hurt [her] to pay for the celebratory dinner."
Sharing her story on the platform, she asked users if they believed she was in the wrong for refusing to pay for the meal, despite having the means to do so, and not wanting to waste part of the inheritance money on something she didn't want to spend it on.
Other Reddit users resoundingly supported her decision to walk out on the freeloading family, commenting: "So let me get this straight. Your mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is 'great, now she can pay for everything'. Yeah, NTA [not the a**hole]."
Another commented: "This NTA, I’d tell your husband you’d much rather your mother around than the money but him and his family trying to blind side you into spending it on them is disgusting. That you plan on taking your time to decide what you want to do with that money and don’t want anything like this to occur again."
One suggested: "NTA. But please see a lawyer asap. After this trick your husband is likely to divorce you to go after your inheritance; make sure your affairs are legally airtight so he can't touch it."
Many recommended that she ditches the husband as well, adding: "NTA. Your husband and in-laws are attempting to capitalize on your mother’s death. Keep the inheritance. Ditch the people who think you’re a walking ATM."
One pointed out: "They act like you won the lottery and not buried your mother. I'm sorry for your loss," while someone else added: "NTA! Make sure you secure your inheritance so the jacka** and his family can’t get to it.
"They couldn’t help when your mom was sick but they are perfectly fine spending the money she left you? F that noise! Does your husband have any redeeming qualities? Cause he just offered up YOUR money to treat his circus of idiots! NTA totally not the a**hole. Edit to add: YOU ARE NOT THEIR ATM!"
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