A bridesmaid has been called out after she prompted a friend who won $6,400 on a scratch card bought for her by the bride and groom to give them some of the money.
Taking to Reddit's infamous 'Am I The A**hole' thread, a user who goes by @Feisty-Put2529, recalled the story of how a friend was made to feel guilty for refusing her suggestion of splitting the money she won at the wedding with the bride and groom.
"So last week I was a bridesmaid at my best friend's wedding - which was a destination wedding in Cyprus," she wrote.
The bridesmaid said that she had a wonderful time until it came to the wedding favors.
"As part of the wedding favours the bride and groom gave everyone a lottery scratch card in a cute little pouch," she continued. "We all sat down to eat and while we were waiting, one of our friend group (call her Sarah) started jumping up and down shouting she had won £5000 ($6,400) on the scratch card.
"The whole room erupted in applause, and the bride and groom ran over to congratulate them. It was already a very happy occasion but this just made it even better," she added.
The unnamed bridesmaid said that there "was no agenda behind her question" but "it just never occurred to [her] as a possibility that they wouldn’t give at least a small amount as a belated wedding gift to the Bride and Groom, given they wouldn’t have had the ticket without them."
"Sarah and Paul - her husband - both went very quiet when they were asked the question, and Paul said they weren’t going to give them anything."
They all apparently sat in an awkward silence for a bit, and Sarah got up and walked out.
"Later by the pool it was clear Sarah had been crying and Paul said I was TA for making them feel awkward and implying they were cheap," she continued. "I apologize and said that’s not what I meant: I just said it because that’s what I would do in their situation, but it is their money and their decision so they should do what they want with the money (I forget exactly how I worded it - but that was the jist). Paul’s walked off and neither of them spoke to me for the rest of the holiday or since."
The rest of the party was also divided about the issue which prompted the bridesmaid to ask if she was the a**hole.
Hundreds of Reddit users took to the comments to give their opinion on the matter.
"YTA," commented one user. "Everybody got a scratch card, they won. It is NOT your business to inquire how they would spend that money, especially in public, regardless of your intention."
"YTA," another agreed. "You put them on the spot. In a room full of people. It's like when someone proposes marriage in public and the other person really wants to say no. Lottery is given as a gift often. Unless the winnings are life changing sharing isn't necessary IMO. Are we supposed to split every $10?"
A third also had a similar view writing: "YTA, no one asked your opinion and an apology saying 'that’s what I would do' wasn’t an apology. Try again."
And this user also added: "YTA. I feel like a simple, 'what do you think you're going to do with the money?' Would have been enough. You kinda threw courtesy out the window here."
Awkward is an understatement for this one.
What do you think?
