Woman says she's leaving her husband after he demanded a paternity test

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By Asiya Ali

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A woman has revealed that her marriage is on the rocks after her husband demanded a paternity test out of the blue.

A mother-to-be wrote anonymously on Reddit and shared that her partner wants evidence that she has not sabotaged their relationship by cheating on him.

Sharing her story to the TrueOffMyChest forum - where it has attracted more than 14,000 upvotes and thousands of comments -  she explained: "Me and my husband have been together for [six] years, married for [three].

"We met in college, we're now both in our early thirties and our relationship has been pretty smooth sailing so far," she said, adding that the only problem in their romance was that they weren't "compatible" in the bedroom. She also claimed that her spouse "gets touchy and pouts for literally days" if she tries to talk about it.

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The woman is four months pregnant with her first child. Credit: Wavebreak Media ltd / Alamy

"After deciding we were ready for a baby we've tried for almost a year and I am finally expecting," she went on. "I'm currently in my [fourth] month. However yesterday my husband asked me if we could do a paternity test, completely out of the blue."

At first, the woman didn't believe what she was hearing and was stunned as realization sunk in that he was "dead serious," so she asked him if he was accusing her of cheating but he said no.

"I pointed out that I work full time and spend every single free minute I have with him, so when would I even find the time to cheat, even if I wanted to, which I don't," she noted.

The outraged wife penned that he "got angry" and said she had no idea what it was like for men to have "no control" over pregnancy and didn't want to be a "doormat stuck raising a 'cuckoo's egg'".

"I admittedly snapped at him that he DOES know for certain because I told him so, and I would know who the father of my child is, right?! He smugly said that's what any cheater would say and that he deserves proof so he can have peace of mind," she wrote.

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The father is pushing for a paternity test on the baby. Credit: True Images / Alamy

She explained she lost her temper with her partner and admitted to him that he wasn't satisfying her in bed, saying: "If after six years of patience and loyalty despite the fact that you s*ck in bed THIS is the thanks I get, then the only thing I have been hiding is my disappointment in you."

The pair have since fallen out, with the woman staying with her parents and feeling like her "whole world has collapsed." She disclosed that her mom is "trying to play mediator" so that the two can reconcile but she would "rather be a single mom than coddling his insecurities one day longer".

The post gained a lot of attention, with many shocked users sharing their opinion on her husband's accusation. One person wrote: "If all trust is gone, then the relationship is dead anyway."

"Hope you make a good co-parenting, the baby needs it but it sucks if daddy don’t want to be a part of it because his insecurities coming in the way. I wish you all the best," they added.

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Another user shared a similar experience: "I was married 18 years to a man like that. He was very very 'vanilla'. Out of the blue he started accusing me of cheating …. Turns out he was cheating. I left and it was the best decision for me. ***Caution pregnancy hormones are wild so take the time you need on making long term decisions."

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A third user remarked: "Came here to say this. It never seems to fail that the people who accuse their partners of cheating turn out to be the cheater themselves. The projection is strong and I wouldn’t be surprised if this is what’s been going on here."

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A fourth user suggested: "Do not apologize and frankly do you want to raise a child with this man? Get that paternity test and the divorce."

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Credit: Reddit

While the majority of the comment section was filled with support for the woman, many users recommended ways for both of them to move forward like her husband getting therapy to get over his insecurities.

What do you guys think this woman should do? Share your thoughts.

Featured image credit: Vyacheslav Lopatin / Alamy

Woman says she's leaving her husband after he demanded a paternity test

vt-author-image

By Asiya Ali

Article saved!Article saved!

A woman has revealed that her marriage is on the rocks after her husband demanded a paternity test out of the blue.

A mother-to-be wrote anonymously on Reddit and shared that her partner wants evidence that she has not sabotaged their relationship by cheating on him.

Sharing her story to the TrueOffMyChest forum - where it has attracted more than 14,000 upvotes and thousands of comments -  she explained: "Me and my husband have been together for [six] years, married for [three].

"We met in college, we're now both in our early thirties and our relationship has been pretty smooth sailing so far," she said, adding that the only problem in their romance was that they weren't "compatible" in the bedroom. She also claimed that her spouse "gets touchy and pouts for literally days" if she tries to talk about it.

wp-image-1263203414 size-full
The woman is four months pregnant with her first child. Credit: Wavebreak Media ltd / Alamy

"After deciding we were ready for a baby we've tried for almost a year and I am finally expecting," she went on. "I'm currently in my [fourth] month. However yesterday my husband asked me if we could do a paternity test, completely out of the blue."

At first, the woman didn't believe what she was hearing and was stunned as realization sunk in that he was "dead serious," so she asked him if he was accusing her of cheating but he said no.

"I pointed out that I work full time and spend every single free minute I have with him, so when would I even find the time to cheat, even if I wanted to, which I don't," she noted.

The outraged wife penned that he "got angry" and said she had no idea what it was like for men to have "no control" over pregnancy and didn't want to be a "doormat stuck raising a 'cuckoo's egg'".

"I admittedly snapped at him that he DOES know for certain because I told him so, and I would know who the father of my child is, right?! He smugly said that's what any cheater would say and that he deserves proof so he can have peace of mind," she wrote.

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The father is pushing for a paternity test on the baby. Credit: True Images / Alamy

She explained she lost her temper with her partner and admitted to him that he wasn't satisfying her in bed, saying: "If after six years of patience and loyalty despite the fact that you s*ck in bed THIS is the thanks I get, then the only thing I have been hiding is my disappointment in you."

The pair have since fallen out, with the woman staying with her parents and feeling like her "whole world has collapsed." She disclosed that her mom is "trying to play mediator" so that the two can reconcile but she would "rather be a single mom than coddling his insecurities one day longer".

The post gained a lot of attention, with many shocked users sharing their opinion on her husband's accusation. One person wrote: "If all trust is gone, then the relationship is dead anyway."

"Hope you make a good co-parenting, the baby needs it but it sucks if daddy don’t want to be a part of it because his insecurities coming in the way. I wish you all the best," they added.

wp-image-1263203403 size-full
Credit: Reddit

Another user shared a similar experience: "I was married 18 years to a man like that. He was very very 'vanilla'. Out of the blue he started accusing me of cheating …. Turns out he was cheating. I left and it was the best decision for me. ***Caution pregnancy hormones are wild so take the time you need on making long term decisions."

wp-image-1263203402 size-full
Credit: Reddit

A third user remarked: "Came here to say this. It never seems to fail that the people who accuse their partners of cheating turn out to be the cheater themselves. The projection is strong and I wouldn’t be surprised if this is what’s been going on here."

wp-image-1263203404 size-full
Credit: Reddit

A fourth user suggested: "Do not apologize and frankly do you want to raise a child with this man? Get that paternity test and the divorce."

wp-image-1263203405 size-full
Credit: Reddit

While the majority of the comment section was filled with support for the woman, many users recommended ways for both of them to move forward like her husband getting therapy to get over his insecurities.

What do you guys think this woman should do? Share your thoughts.

Featured image credit: Vyacheslav Lopatin / Alamy