Influencer sparks heated debate after declaring: 'It's Mother's Day, not Grandmother's Day'

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By Nasima Khatun

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An influencer has sparked a heated debate after declaring that Mother's Day should not be centered around grandparents.

Emily - aka @emily_wehner on TikTok - is a lifestyle and parenting influencer who has taken to the social media platform to talk about one of her more "controversial" opinions involving a grandmother's role on Mother's Day.

In a video captioned "I will be taking mothers day to do what I want to do," she said: "It's Mother's Day, not Grandmother's Day."

Speaking about her first Mother's Day - during which she says she spent the day arranging plans so that her children could see their grandparents, Emily said: "I didn’t get to do anything for myself and I was like, 'I’m not doing this again.'"

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Iin the end, the mom says she was left feeling "pretty sad" when she couldn't take some time to celebrate herself for being a mother too.

Have a look at the full video below:


"Usually I make a plan ahead of time and talk to my husband about it," she added, stating that she enjoys going to brunch, then spend some "alone-time" gardening before reading a nice book before having a family dinner together.

She also added that while this is the case, she makes sure she honors her own mother, as well as her mother-in-law by visiting them on separate days and making them feel special as moms too.

"This may ruffle feathers for some people, but that’s what I wanna do,” she said. “I made the boundary and I’m the one deep into the mothering right now, and so I’m gonna take the day how I wanna take the day.”

And it seems as though it did manage to ruffle a few feathers, with a lot of people hitting out at the influencer for sharing such a "selfish" opinion.

"Ya selfish women want your husbands to forget about their moms for you, can’t wait until your kids grow up and do the same to you," wrote one user, while another added: "I was resentful that we spent time with my husband’s mom on Mothers Day. But now both of our moms are dead - I’m glad we celebrated them when we could.

"We have to remember we are here [because] of THEM."

A third also chimed in, writing: "Getting older I see more of my friends without their mothers, so I will continue to make this day about both of us. My husband at 48 has already lost his mom. You can’t get it back."

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However, others agreed with the mom-of-two, stating that they also had to set clear boundaries with their families.

"My first Mother’s Day I set a clear boundary that Mother’s Day is now my holiday and they will get grandparents day in September," wrote this person.

"My mom gets an 'I love you! happy mothers day!' She had many many years of being the center of mothers day. It's my turn. They also celebrate me being a mom by sending me flowers or something," another TikToker added.

And this user was happy that her husband also reinforced her boundaries.

"Every year my [mother-in-law] calls with her plans she wants for herself & every year my husband goes 'thats great, were gonna do whatever my wife wants [though]'"

Do you agree with Emily's comments? Let us know in the comments.

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Influencer sparks heated debate after declaring: 'It's Mother's Day, not Grandmother's Day'

vt-author-image

By Nasima Khatun

Article saved!Article saved!

An influencer has sparked a heated debate after declaring that Mother's Day should not be centered around grandparents.

Emily - aka @emily_wehner on TikTok - is a lifestyle and parenting influencer who has taken to the social media platform to talk about one of her more "controversial" opinions involving a grandmother's role on Mother's Day.

In a video captioned "I will be taking mothers day to do what I want to do," she said: "It's Mother's Day, not Grandmother's Day."

Speaking about her first Mother's Day - during which she says she spent the day arranging plans so that her children could see their grandparents, Emily said: "I didn’t get to do anything for myself and I was like, 'I’m not doing this again.'"

Credit: SanyaSM/Getty

Iin the end, the mom says she was left feeling "pretty sad" when she couldn't take some time to celebrate herself for being a mother too.

Have a look at the full video below:


"Usually I make a plan ahead of time and talk to my husband about it," she added, stating that she enjoys going to brunch, then spend some "alone-time" gardening before reading a nice book before having a family dinner together.

She also added that while this is the case, she makes sure she honors her own mother, as well as her mother-in-law by visiting them on separate days and making them feel special as moms too.

"This may ruffle feathers for some people, but that’s what I wanna do,” she said. “I made the boundary and I’m the one deep into the mothering right now, and so I’m gonna take the day how I wanna take the day.”

And it seems as though it did manage to ruffle a few feathers, with a lot of people hitting out at the influencer for sharing such a "selfish" opinion.

"Ya selfish women want your husbands to forget about their moms for you, can’t wait until your kids grow up and do the same to you," wrote one user, while another added: "I was resentful that we spent time with my husband’s mom on Mothers Day. But now both of our moms are dead - I’m glad we celebrated them when we could.

"We have to remember we are here [because] of THEM."

A third also chimed in, writing: "Getting older I see more of my friends without their mothers, so I will continue to make this day about both of us. My husband at 48 has already lost his mom. You can’t get it back."

Credit: Svetikd/Getty

However, others agreed with the mom-of-two, stating that they also had to set clear boundaries with their families.

"My first Mother’s Day I set a clear boundary that Mother’s Day is now my holiday and they will get grandparents day in September," wrote this person.

"My mom gets an 'I love you! happy mothers day!' She had many many years of being the center of mothers day. It's my turn. They also celebrate me being a mom by sending me flowers or something," another TikToker added.

And this user was happy that her husband also reinforced her boundaries.

"Every year my [mother-in-law] calls with her plans she wants for herself & every year my husband goes 'thats great, were gonna do whatever my wife wants [though]'"

Do you agree with Emily's comments? Let us know in the comments.

Featured Image Credit: Horatiu Gaina/500px/Getty