Feeling a little lackluster in the bedroom? It happens. But a dry spell with your partner doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is
doomed. It happens even in the
happiest of relationships, and sometimes all it takes is some conscious effort and a few provocative questions to spice things up again.
We all have different
turn-ons, and these questions will help you learn exactly what your partner likes while getting you both in the mood. Ready? Pick up a pen, write these down, and be prepared for some heated conversations to turn into something mind-blowing.
1. How exactly do you like to be touched?
Make sure their answer is detailed and descriptive because discussing the nitty-gritty about how much they like a stronger grip or lighter strokes will get both of your heads in the game. It's one of the most important things to get feedback on too, in order to have better, more connected and... sexier sex.
2. Do you like it more when I'm in control, or when you are?
This obviously depends on what moods you're both in. Talking about it will give you a better idea of what you're in the mood for, almost giving you instructions on what to do to make it a particularly spicy romp. Role-play and thinking consciously about whether you're taking charge or being more submissive will spice things up.
3. What's your dirtiest X-rated fantasy on your mind lately?
Opening an avenue to have this kind of conversation will get the creative juices flowing and spark the wildest corners of your imagination, giving your partner the chance to voice their deepest and darkest desires. You don't necessarily have to go through with it, but at least it will get you talking dirty and feeling very naughty indeed.
4. Can you show me how you touch yourself?
While some people might find this extremely private, it's actually a good one to talk about so you can learn how to please each other. Why not try demonstrating in front of each other – it's not only educational but a huge turn on.
5. What is the most sensitive part of your body?
Pointing out your most sensitive spots is an invitation for your partner to "tend" to them with more attention and care. You can use these hotspots to gently and mindfully spark something sexy, and then to have burning hot sex.
6. How would you like to keep going?
Ask this when you're already heading in the direction of the bedroom (figuratively), and you'll learn exactly what kind of sex they're in the mood for. Maybe they'll prefer to take things slow and steady, or maybe they won't even let you finish your sentence and jump on board for something more hot and heavy.
Now go on, get out of here and try these questions next time you've got some alone time with your partner.
