The way we all view marriage has changed drastically over the years. What was once an absolutely essential tradition is now purely optional for this generation, and while divorce was once seen as a shameful thing to do, now it is fairly commonplace.

Regardless if divorce is in the future for a relationship, the wedding tends to be a spectacular event, a display of love, loyalty and dedication. Or at least, that's what we'd like to think. As these various Redditors have attested, there have been bad omens they have seen at weddings that they believe has spelt doom from the outset.

1. Unfortunate footwear

"The groom was wearing a pair of old running shoes. (For the record, he wasn't poor.) Everyone else including his groomsmen and best man were wearing dress shoes. My dad leans over to me and says, 'What kind of a man wears running shoes to a black tie wedding?' 

"The groom ran alright, about a month later when he suddenly decided he didn't want to be tied down. Packed up to travel the world, alone. Fortunately, my cousin found a decent guy after that whole mess. Been happily married 10 years this month.  If a man's not committed enough to dress appropriately at his own wedding, he's probably not committed to the relationship."

- Anonymous

2. A little biased

"The bride choose what pictures to display. There were a bunch of pictures of her and none of the groom."

- RCorvus

3. A sign of things to come

"I'm a Wedding DJ. I was given a request by the bride maybe an hour into what was scheduled to be a three-hour dance. Normally when I get a request from either the bride or groom, I will ask them 'Do you want that now, or at some point later?' especially if the song is not in the genre that I am playing in right now.

"She told me that she wanted it now, so I queued it up on the deck that wasn't playing the current song. She walked away happy, expecting that her song would be next. Immediately after she left my table the groom walks up to me and asks me what she requested. I show him, he half-laughs and tells me not to play it. Conflicted and surprised, I ask him 'why not?,' to which he replies 'she's an idiot, that song sucks.'

"If you respond like that to a single song in a three hour dance, then there's no way that you are going to respond well to something more serious when it comes up in the future. Among DJs, we call people like this 'repeat customers.'"

- bigfootgame

4. Place your bets!

"The groom looked drunk and the bride seemed incredibly angry. Then there was this woman walking around during the reception placing bets on when they would divorce. I later found out she was the mother of the groom."

- destinydivided

5. The ultimate awkward moment

"Groom's mistress found out he was getting married and showed up at the wedding, in the middle of the I-do's, walked right up on stage and smacked him in the face."

- jennagraham2012

6. The worst speech

"The groom said in his speech, 'When I joined a dating agency I never thought I'd be so lucky as to find my own personal cook, dishwasher, and washing machine. Not only is that a sh---- way to describe ANYONE, he's in for a nasty surprise when he realizes his wife is actually a complete diva and will expect him to do all those things for her! Bad relationship all round."

- millet.

7. Something's not right here

"She flinched when he turned to kiss her. They were divorced within six months."

- unlimiteddanna

8. Joking or not?

"My cousin (the bride) told us, as she was going from table to table thanking the guests, that she didn't think it would last. We were stunned. They lasted about a year."

- Anonymous

9. A bad omen

"The bride had the minister put 'Til death, or divorce, do us part' into the ceremony."

- owtlawl1.

10. A terrible ending to the night

"Groom got so drunk at the reception he passed out in the honeymoon suite by himself, but not before he latched the door so it couldn't be unlocked from the outside. Seeing the bride kicking the door and hollering at the top of her lungs to be let in at 3 a.m. was not encouraging. They divorced like two years later."

- Big_daddy_c

11. No lies were told

"Her vows. They were friends of mine who dated for nearly two years before their wedding. He loved her more than she loved him, obvious to all our friends, and we suspected she begrudgingly said yes to his proposal.

"He said his vows first and went on and on about loving her for the rest of his life. During hers, she started with '438 days ... that's how long I've loved you.' It seemed sweet until she ended her vows with, 'And I promise to love you for at least 438 more.' Most thought nothing of it and some friends called me a dick for saying it was a subconscious sign she wasn't in it for the long haul.

"She left him exactly that amount of days after the wedding with a note that said 'I kept my vow to love you for 438 days more, but I can't for a single day more.' "Called it."

-  pteampterodactyl

12. A little bit much

"It was super cheesy and had all the cheesy trappings of 'romance. "Gushing vows, a horse-drawn carriage. The bride wore a crown and exclaimed non-stop she was a 'princess!!!' Reception included a narrated 30-minute slideshow of the couple. It was ridiculous and nauseating."

- Anonymous

13. A twist you'd never expect

"Bride refused to kiss the groom no matter what and would reluctantly hold hands with him in front of people and photos. As soon as people's backs are turned, she yanks her hand off. They divorced a month later. Bride then remarried within a few months.

"Turns out it was an arranged marriage the moms forced on them. The groom and bride never really liked each other, but went through with the wedding anyways. The bride was already in another relationship behind the groom's back long before the wedding.

"I was the groom."

- sackofmangoes

Weddings aren't always going to run perfectly, but even those of you have seen a few awkward or tense moments at a wedding likely haven't seen omens as clear as those shared above. Next time I'm invited to a wedding I will be sure to check whether the groom is wearing sneakers.

It's often said that your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life, a ridiculously high bar to set for any day, let alone the one which marks the end of your youthful frivolity.

Once married, people start talking about such things as washing machine powders, the extortionate toll road they once happened upon, or perhaps present you with an elaborate cost benefit analysis of your local supermarkets. In short, they lose some of their charm.

With that knowledge in mind, there is something to be said for going absolutely all out on your wedding day: pack as much fun into one mayhemic day as you possibly can before the heavy mundanity of the rest of your life becomes a daily reality.

In the spirit of this, I have a certain admiration for these 'trashy' wedding stories. Do your wedding your own way, and be damned with everyone else; at the very least, they'll have a good story to tell. Here are some of the best from Reddit.

1.

"I went to a wedding in Florida where the bride wore a mini skirt and was given away by her ex husband, with whom she and her new husband still lived."

2.

"Watched a conspicuously 8 months pregnant high school girl marry her late 30s boss from a summer job. He was an accountant and came across more embarrassed than skeevy; guess he was trying to the right thing, to make up for the doing the wrong thing. Her respectable parents could not talk this recently turned 18 yo girl out of the wedding/marriage. Everyone knew it was going to be a disaster but we were wrong about how...

Shortly after giving birth she got pregnant again by a boy her own age. She ran away abandoning both kids and her ex husband who was raising both kids last I heard."

3.

"There was no alcohol being served as the reception hall in the church basement had super strict rules about alcohol. So all the guests snuck in alcohol. The mother of the groom had a 24 case of coors under her table. People had full sized bottles of vodka hidden in their jackets it was messy. Then after the wedding the after party was at this super divey college bar where the bride got so drunk the groom had to carry her back to their hotel where she finished the night drunkenly eating chicken nuggets in the giant penthouse suite bathtub.

In the interest of honesty...this was my wedding and I was the chicken nugget eating bride."

4.

"I went to a wedding where the bride and groom’s first dance was to who let the dogs out... everyone just looked on speechless as they slow danced to it. Then half way through it turned into a slutty grind session. Nobody thought it would last but they’re still together."

5.

"My fiancé and I went to a wedding where the pastor referred to the bride as “the ole ball and chain” and let them know that it was “all downhill from here”"

6.

"Reminds me of my cousin's wedding. The officiant was his old roommate, and he described what it was like when my cousin and his wife first started dating. "Oh, if walls could talk... Those thin, thin walls.""

7.

"No less than three people were in tuxedo t-shirts, the maid of honor was on the Rock of Love, and the bride was sending me nude selfies the day before the wedding."

8.

"Was invited to a baby shower when the mom-to-be disappeared. She came back in a wedding dress and they got married by the pond out back. This was all at a gun club. Literal shotgun wedding."

Some of these weddings sound like a seriously good night out if you ask me.

A bride has left people divided after she revealed that she was thinking about rescinding her fiancé's grandmother's invite to her wedding after her four-word response to the dress code.

Getting married is often one of the happiest days of a couple's life, but it can be pretty stressful too.

From trying not to go wildly over budget, to making sure everybody gets along well, there can be a million things to think about before getting to 'I do'.

However, one bride revealed that her dress code is so much of a deal-breaker she's considering striking her own fiancé's grandmother off the guestlist unless she complies.

The bride was left 'in crisis' after her fiancé's grandmother's reply. Credit: Andersen Ross/Getty Images

A bride took to social media to share her dilemma - which was then reposted on Reddit - telling her followers: "LADIES, I AM IN CRISIS!!!

"For my wedding I am having all the groups match. Therefore the grandparents are all wearing yellow.

"I messaged my fiancé's grandma this and I could not believe what she said. What do I do???

"Either not have her in pictures or not invite her??? I need helpppp."

She then shared screenshots of their text exchange, in which she had included examples of clothing in the light yellow color she wanted the grandparents to wear.

The bride had written: "Hi grandma Sally, it is Talia. Even though Carter and my wedding is in a year we wanted to talk to you about color coordination.

"We are wanting grandparents to be in the same colors so it'll match great in pictures. We would like yall to wear light yellow.

"You can wear any dress you like just in a light yellow. And Jeff can wear any light yellow shirt. I think a khaki color pants would look good with it. I'll send a picture of the color I had in mind."

Unfortunately for her, Grandma Sally was not having any of it, as she simply replied: "Don't like yellow sorry".

People were left divided in the comments, writing: "I love the Grandmas one line response lol", and: "The wedding is over a year away, and she's already in CRISIS! It's going to be tough year for her!...... And everyone around her, except GM evidently."

Another added: "This micromanaging everyone’s clothing is out of hand. Pick your bridesmaids colors used to be the only thing the bride was concerned with. Let Grandma rock whatever makes her happy, it’s more important she’s there, a lot of people don’t get to share their wedding day with Grandma and wished she could have been there."

Others commented: "Absolutely ridiculous, grandparents are not even in that many photos. I can only imagine the wardrobe requirements for immediate family members," and: "I’m with Grandma. I don’t like yellow, don’t look good in yellow (and look even worse in light yellow), and don’t have any yellow clothes."

It's usually only the bridesmaids that are color coordinated. Credit: Mint Images/Getty Images

One added: "People are not props. Stop asking guests to match your aesthetics. If you care about it that much, hire people to be there. Because clearly you don't care about your family and friends. This s**t needs to stop.

"Ps this particular vision is ugly. And not flattering for most people. I look so bad in Yellow."

Who do you think was in the wrong? Let us know in the comments below.

Featured image credit: Andersen Ross/Getty Images