A woman who was excited about attending a wedding has sought advice after the invitation came with "unreasonable" demands.

Going to a wedding is usually a happy occasion, because how often are all the people you care about under the same roof at one time?

Sadly, this isn't always the case though, as some people find a way to upset their family and friends on their big day...

Posting on the "Am I Wrong" forum on Reddit, user Eden Capwell outlined the bizarre situation she found herself in.

She revealed that while she was "teary-eyed" at the invite and overflowing with happiness, things soon came crashing down.

"I picked up the notecard and read that and while my husband was invited ... I'd be in another room helping to babysit all the children there with several other female invitees. There's a special room for children at the church and that's where I'd be," she said.

Noting that she would still need to be in a formal dress in case she was in any photos, the invite also came with a link to a gift registry and informed the couple they needed to pay $100 each for their meal.

"The first problem here is that I am disabled at 50 years old. Legally. I use oxygen. I use a walker when I need to walk long distances. I sometimes have to give up the walker entirely and use a wheelchair," the Redditor wrote.

To top it off, she noted that she was the one who had been friends with the family since childhood, but it was her husband who would be the one to watch the ceremony.

"I grew up with the bride's mom as an almost sister to me. We went to school together, graduated together, worked at the same place twice, and have been super close since. The bride is like a goddaughter... at least I thought she was. I'm gobsmacked here," the post went on.

After a phone call with her lifelong friend, the Redditor was shocked at how unforgiving she was.

"THEN we got to the truth," she wrote. "She said that she didn't know if I'd be in a wheelchair that day or require a walker. That's fair. I don't always know which one I'll need. She said that they wanted everyone in pews for the wedding video and me sitting in a wheelchair would make me stick out and ruin video/photos."

The post continued: "Then she says, 'Well, space is limited in the pews. You would take up the space of two people with your purse and oxygen tank.'

"I said, 'No, I would not. I wouldn't bring a purse in and the oxygen tank either sits on my lap or between my feet.' (it's like a little backpack.)

"Then she said, 'Well, having you in oxygen in the photos would be distracting from the other people'."

Comments flooded in supporting Eden, with many stating that the invitation requests are "unreasonable".

One person wrote: "Send your and your husband’s regrets, and don’t send a gift. These people are clearly not the friends you thought they were. Everything about this invitation is just wrong."

A second person said: "You’re not wrong, this is tacky as hell! Do not go and I wouldn’t send a gift either. These people are clearly not real friends."

A third added: "Yeah, this is messed up. Inviting you just to babysit? Yikes. Definitely RSVP no and skip the gift. These folks don't deserve your presence, let alone a present."

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A woman who was asked to be a bridesmaid at her friend's wedding has sparked a debate after admitting that she wants to "lie" to get out of the $8k destination wedding.

When one of your closest friends shares the happy news that they are getting married and want you to be their bridesmaid - you give them an automatic "yes".

But what if you find out that the wedding will take place overseas and the ceremony has just been moved up an entire year, making it just four months away and costing you a staggering $8,000...

That's the sticky situation one woman has found herself in as she took to Reddit to share her predicament.

A Reddit user - who identifies herself only as a 32-year-old female - shared a post on the platform's "Am I The A**hole" page, revealing that she and the bride, Kayla have been friends since elementary school.

"When she got engaged this Christmas she didn’t ask me to be a bridesmaid because it was an automatic given. I love Kayla but the problem is that her wedding is taking place overseas and would cost more than I think is reasonable," the poster said.

The bridesmaid said that Kayla’s wedding is being held in her fiancé's hometown which is "a tiny, far-north Scandinavian town," and added that the ceremony was recently changed from 2025 to 2024.

"Between flights, the hotel ... the rental car, the bridesmaid dress, the full traditional outfit required to be worn for some the events, pet boarding, as well as general incidentals and we are looking at a minimum $8,000," she continued.

The woman wrote that her friend was "very apologetic" about the sudden date change but "has not acknowledged" the impact the wedding would have on her financially - explaining that she and her husband have spent the last four years "saving for our tenth-anniversary trip, a 3-week tour around Japan, and had just booked flights when the date change was announced".

When the bride told the woman about the overseas wedding, she apparently said: "You’re so lucky, you’ve been saving all that money for a vacation anyway!"

The bridesmaid is now considering lying to get out of the nuptials, writing: "My idea was to lie and say we have to do a major home repair (fixing the foundation maybe) that will cost all of what we have saved plus more, then when it did come time for the Asia trip say we were gifted the trip by my husband's parents."

But, she feels guilty for the lie and also hypocritical, revealing that she had her own destination wedding in Alaska, one that Kayla attended despite not having a "particularly good or secure job." However, she noted that her wedding was not as expensive as Kayla's Scandinavian ceremony.

"I’m scared that if I tell her the truth of why we can’t go, it’s too damn expensive, it will ruin our friendship. I could see why it would. She was a bridesmaid for me while far less financially secure than we are now and she knows we have a lot of money saved for travel," she said.

"Our friendship means a lot to me but I don’t think it’s fair to plan a wedding this expensive to attend and expect me to cancel our dream trip to accommodate it," she continued.

The bridesmaid concluded her post by writing: "I don’t want to risk it so I know that there is a risk she would find out the truth and be even angrier, is that risk worth it to avoid telling her the truth?"

Users flocked to the comment section to share their opinions, with many stating that while $8K is a massive cost, she shouldn't lie to her friend.

One user wrote: "8K is an outlandish amount to ask anyone to pay to come to a wedding. Ever. Full stop. The answer is we just can't afford that. We cannot spend that kind of money on this. I'm so sorry, we can't.

"We booked our Japan vacation already, not knowing that you were going to change the date, and we can't do this," they continued. "Your actual reason is sufficient. Making something up would just make it dodgy. Tell her the truth."

Another said: "[Not the a**hole] for not wanting to spend $8K to go to a wedding. But YTA for trying to come up with a complicated lie. Just be honest and talk to your friend. If the friendship can survive this, then something else would've broken it in the future."

A third commented: "You are 32 years old. Just tell her the truth. You already have tickets to Japan. Wish her a happy wedding and be done. Also she made her decision regarding your wedding. She could have said no. Which is what someone should do if they can't make the numbers work or the time away. Yta for thinking of lying."

What do you guys think?

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A couple was left feeling sad on what was supposed to be one of the happiest days of their lives after less than half of their guests turned up to their wedding reception.

Gray Narvaez-Dragion, a transgender woman who uses they/them pronouns, was left feeling deflated after "88 people" said they would attend their wedding to the love of their life, but "not even 40 showed up."

Taking to TikTok, Narvaez-Dragion shared the news with their followers via a series of videos.

In one particular clip, you can see the camera pan around an almost-empty venue, with hardly anyone sitting around the tables or dancing on the main floor.

In the caption of a different video, the newly-married TikToker claimed that they decided to cut the reception short, missing out on their sparkler sendoff, private dance, and dinner due to the lack of guests in attendance as per the New York Post.

They then added that there were other things that went wrong on their big day too, including their mom deadnaming them as well as the remains of little gifts that were handmade for their guests.

"We literally sat in the empty ceremony room together and cried," Narvaez-Dragion wrote. "Ended reception early, Nyx's family immediately left after pictures, my mom didnt say a single word to me until my dad made her, canceled my dream send off, canceled dinner at my favorite place, the DJ felt so bad he made us use the photobooth I hadn't touched and took pics together, we fell during our first dance... My mom deadnamed me at my own wedding too."

But the worst part of it all was the fact that the couple had spent thousands of dollars hand-making little gifts and favors for guests to take home, which all ended up going to waste.

"I spent so much trying to make this enjoyable for everyone," they continued. "I have magnets and soap gifts made for everyone… and I have so much left. Nyx made spell jars and we were up until 2:30 this morning trying to make this enjoyable for everyone.

"Most of my money was spent on things for the guests..."

When replying to another user, they disclosed that they had spent approximately "27K" on everything.

Other clips on the TikToker's account showed them in their wedding gown, spending time with their other half as well as the few guests that actually did turn up.

Upon hearing about their sadness, other social media users suggested throwing a smaller bash for all their newfound supporters.

One said: "I HAVE AN IDEA!! If you want to remake the wedding but at a cheaper reception and your new Tiktok family will have your back and show up for [you?]"

And others also seemed to love the idea.

"We are all celebrating you, I’m so sorry this happened but I hope you can feel all the love here," this user stated, to which Narvaez-Dragion responded that they were "overwhelmed" and "grateful for this app."

Some also turned their attention to validating the newlywed's feelings.

"It’s not okay they did that to you BUT what matters is the two most important people were there - you and your new husband. Congratulations..."

"Your dress was beautiful and you seem so thoughtful, I'm sorry hun."

Regardless of the downs of the big day, it seems as though the couple are extremely happy together and in sharing their story, they've gained hundreds of fans that are willing to join them for any future festivities!

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We all know how stressful weddings can be for those who are tasked with organising them, never mind the people who are actually getting married on the day in question. There's just so much to consider; the catering, the dress, which unruly relatives to invite... the list really is endless.

But this next forum post highlights a somewhat unusual wedding day problem. A woman from Australia has shared how she was blasted by an irate bride after she took umbrage at the price tag attached to her wedding gift. Apparently, the present wasn't expensive enough for her to recoup the costs of the invite.

Posting in a wedding-related forum, the flustered guest wrote: "I've just hung up the phone from a friend (ex-friend now!) whose wedding was a few weekends ago. She had a beautiful wedding, lots of guests, lots of wine and food. There were even fireworks when she and her new hubby left (via yacht) to go on their honeymoon. She was ringing people thanking them for coming to her wedding. Sweet right? Wrong."

"[But then] She says to me, that it wasn't enough and that the venue charge was $250 per head, so I owed her another $300 cash. At first, I thought she was being sarcastic and joking, but she was serious. She didn't consider the candle a real gift because she 'can't do anything with it' and 'it wasn't the big one that she wanted. For real I let her nag at me for five minutes because I was speechless. I still am!"

She added: "I'm from Australia and it's not common to give gifts that relate to the cost of you attending the wedding. Today I learned that it is normal in some cultures, but it's not been a thing I've encountered. $200 is a lot of money for the average person to give here. And yes, that candle really is expensive, but she wanted it  ... so I thought she'd be happy with my gift."

So what do you think? Did the bride have the right to demand a bigger gift? Or has she got some serious entitlement issues? You can argue that weddings are getting too materialistic anyway. Still: who spends that much on a candle?!

Getting married has its complications, doesn't it? First, there's the money. Weddings are expensive and, if we're being honest here, there are other things you'd rather spend your hard earned cash on. Things like a hot tub, a lawn mower that you can drive and a gas powered BBQ are all much more sound investments. Not only this, but you could buy all three for the price it costs to get married (think of your garden!)

However, once you have made the rash decision to have a ceremony to cement your love for one another, other obstacles quickly rear their head. And, one of the biggest stumbling blocks is, quite simply, who do you invite? Or, more specifically, who don't you invite?

Do you invite those work colleagues, even though you don't really like them and only have a beer with them because you are literally in the office with them? What about your racist uncle, is he invited? Oh, and that guy, y'know, that guy you met in a bar and swore you'd invite each other to your respective weddings - does he come?

While the answer to these questions is more than likely a resounding, ear-splitting "NO," when it comes to your ex, it can get a little bit more complicated.

Sometimes, despite all the odds, ex-partners do remain friends and this is the case for the following duo. A woman called Hayley Stamper decided to invite her ex-boyfriend to her wedding. However, what she didn't expect, was the joke that he cracked about the whole situation.

Stamper took to Twitter to upload an image of her ex-boyfriend's RSVP in which he said that he would be attending the wedding. The invitation asks attendees to write down what song they would happily dance to. While most of the guests probably responded with the like of "Celebration" by Kool & The Gang and "September" by Earth Wind and Fire, Hayley's ex had other ideas. Deciding to use the invite to crack a pun, he opted for "I Loved Her First" by Heartland.

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However, before you jump the gun and begin asking why Hayley invited her ex-boyfriend to her wedding, the woman offered an explanation.

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She wrote, "Before you quote me with "why tf did you invite your ex" here's my response!!! *We broke up over 5 years ago! Not every breakup has to have a traumatic ending, thus we're still friends who can laugh and joke around. If my fiancé and ex can laugh at this tweet, you should too!"

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"Also keep in mind that we invited over 600 people to our wedding!" Stamper added. "My ex and my fiancé have a lot of the same friends so it's really not awkward!! I feel lucky to have at least one ex that we both can still remain friends with!"

Naturally, Twitter thought the RSVP was hilarious and it swiftly went viral.

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Fair play to both Hayley and her ex. However, while his response may be hilarious, it has nothing on Ray J releasing a song called "I Hit It First" in response to Kanye and Kim being in a relationship. What. A. Legend.