Our generation has seen the birth of a completely new form of dating, one that is conducted largely from our fingertips. Certainly, we log onto apps such as Tinder and Bumble and accept or reject potential love interests on the basis of their Facebook photos and a 300 word bio, which is somehow supposed to sum up the person in question. Now, it goes without saying, but this is a completely different landscape from the dinner-and-a-movie type affair that the generation before us enjoyed.
But it is incredibly popular. I mean, do your friends even use social media if they haven't had a stab at using the popular dating app, Tinder? I don't think so, as Tinder has an estimated 50 million users worldwide. And as such, we go through social situations hearing tales about dating apps either leading to long fulfilling relationships, or you know, leaving people traumatised.
But the latter doesn't have to be your story. Experts have recently concluded that men have more success on dating apps if they create profiles that mirror the type of woman that they are trying to attract.
While we've heard everyone wax lyrical about how important to include realistic images, and a comprehensive list of your interests and hobbies on your dating profile, researchers from the University of Michigan are the first to claim that it's more important to browse the profiles of the type of person that you want to attract before you start to put together your own bio.
The researchers specifically looked at how women perceived the text included in men's profiles, and whether it either helped or hindered their chances at securing a date.
They analysed three months' worth of anonymous data from dating applications, including the profiles of 410,000 active users from 10 different cities. Altogether, these users penned 25 million messages and rated other users' profiles an eye-watering 864 million times.
Researchers discovered that not only did men account for 62 per cent of the messages seen on dating apps, but that they also initiated 86 per cent of the communication.
The study surmised that men were most successful when they honed in on the similarities they shared with the women that they wished to attract.
The lead author of the study, Danaja Maldeniya has asserted, "Our findings suggest that when males craft their profiles, they should attempt to highlight their perceived similarities with the females they are hoping to attract, while highlighting what they think makes them stand out from the competition". "Depending on the particular pair of users, these two factors may be at odds."
"The results of our study offer insights that could be useful for improving the recommendations made by dating sites to their users.For example, at any given time, a dating site would know the set of males who are competing for the attention of a female.
The site can then adjust recommendations so that the female is linked to a more diverse set of men who are different from her current suitors, but still similar to her, which our results suggest would lead to more successful matches."
Well, there you have it: it really does pay to do your research.
A woman has opened up about the fact that she uses LinkedIn as a dating app in order to find a decent man.
Now I know what you're thinking, LinkedIn for dating? What? What happened to Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid?
Apparently, they're not serving their own purpose anymore and Linkedin has stepped up to offer a new, and slightly more innovative, option.
Long gone are the days for professional networking and showcasing your skills, it's now apparently the hub to meet a potential other half, well, according to one TikToker.
Taking to TikTok, user @candi.licious has been giving her followers an insight into her experiences on 10 dating apps in 10 weeks, and after giving Hinge, Bumble, and Tinder a shot, she then moved on to LinkedIn to see what the playing field looked like on there.
"Why am I using LinkedIn as a dating app? The filters!", she told her 47,000 followers. "Number one, I can filter for an education - MBA, baby. Number two, I can filter by industry. I'm looking at doctor, lawyer, finance bro.
"Number three, I can filter by country, very important. Unfortunately, I'm unable to filter by height but at least there are very good-looking photos that I can kind of do height analysis on."
I mean, if that works for you, it works for you, right?
Alongside the video, the TikToker also wrote: "I'm looking for A-grade men and Linkedin has A-grade filters!"
Hundreds took to the comments to talk about the unique idea, with many even recalling their own experiences on the app.
"I dated a top executive at a major media company that I met on LinkedIn (as I was building a network for my startup). So yeah, it works," said one user.
"I checked my then bf’s LinkedIn page after we met through tinder. We are married now. LOL," another added.
A third pointed this out: "The thing is, on LinkedIn they only have one perfectly edited headshot. I need a full posture pic for my evaluation."
"I have a 30 years old photo there," this user said, insinuating you can't trust what you see on the platform.
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Others also wondered if they should drop the actual dating apps and pick up Linkedin.
Well, if @candi.licious' experiences are anything to go by, it seems as though it's worth giving the idea a shot, especially if you've exhausted all your other options.
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Dating was never simple, but with the rise of online dating and apps such as Tinder and Bumble, it all became incredibly easy to navigate, right? Well, it does make certain things easier - but to say that dating is a breeze in 2019 would be a massive overstatement.
Finding the right person to go on a date with is pretty hard when you're doing it all face-to-face, but at least when you can really see who you're talking to and understand what sort of person they are, you can find out whether it's worth the trouble. On the likes of Tinder, however, you can check what they look like, ask them questions about their jobs, their outlook on life and their general interests - but you still need to meet them in person before you know whether it was worth it.
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The problem with match-making on these apps is that you've got to sell yourself pretty quickly, and there are countless pitfalls to avoid along the way. There's plenty of people out there who are probably so desperate to look appealing to a prospective partner they end up acting unlike themselves, potentially putting off their best matches. So that's when people start looking out of the box for alternate techniques - though few are as out-there as this one.
One man had a... let's say "unique" approach to the dating problem, and somehow it paid off. After all, I suppose showing a little creativity is an attractive feature to many, even when it all comes down to a story about a duck.
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After matching with a woman on Tinder, one man avoided all the usual cliches and started to spin a yarn about a duck walking through the forest. But this wasn't just a one-sided conversation, but a choose-your-own adventure narrative. Move over Bandersnatch, because this was a story that not only got her invested in the conversation, but landed him her number before too long.
First of all, he starts off with a "lost duck walking through the forest," asking his match which way she wants to go - and even providing some emojis for a visual aid. Then he starts giving her more options as the story continues...
He even starts to bring in her joking question, making it part of the lore.
She's getting invested in the duck's story now, choosing to be a little curious even there is risk involved.
And that's when it all comes to a head, and his plan comes to fruition...
That's right, she sent him her number, and it was worth all the effort for this brave Tinder user.
It's mad, but in a way it kind of makes sense. After all, what people really want from a date a lot of the time is fun, and what better way to let someone know you're fun to hang out with than with a creative story like this?
In the world of online dating, it can be difficult to stand out from the crowd. Apps such as Tinder and Bumble are inundated with people who 'like travelling' and are 'bubbly', which makes it seems like the entire population of the world is incessantly boring. However, if you are looking to take a deep dive into this dark and callous world, the guys over at Bumble do have a few tips for you.
Bumble, for the record, is like Tinder but for people who are not rabidly horny. While Tinder is a domain full of unsolicited d**k pics and copious amount of winky-faced innuendo, Bumble is for people who actually want to chat before going out and having multiple awkward martinis. The app, which is now one of the most popular dating apps in the world, puts women in control and allows them to start the conversation. So, what is the key to Bumble success? Take a look below.
1. Women get more dates than men
On average, men make eight matches a month compared to women, who make 10.
2. Six is the magic number
Despite what De La Soul may say, six is the magic number when it comes to online dating. While it may be tempting to fall into the 'less is more' way of thinking, it turns out the more pics you have, the better.
3. Get GIFfy with it
Opening lines on dating apps are scary, so let a GIF do the talking for you. Who doesn't love a GIF? Nobody, that's who. Open up with a GIF and then a message that is 10 to 15 words long.
Maybe it's because we're seven margaritas down by this point, but if you use Bumble on Friday or Saturday, you're more likely to get a date. Be warned, however, Monday blues are a real thing and users of Bumble are more picky on a Monday than any other day.
5. Sunday Funday
While Fridays may lead to date, statistics show that the majority of us spend the most time on Bumble on Sunday. Most likely hungover in bed while chowing down on a pizza. Y'know, when you look your best.
What's the best time to send your hilarious GIF? 8-10pm. This is because, in the evening, people are usually slumped on their couch doing a spot of perusing. Don't fire a message over during working hours, that's just weird
So there you have it, six steps to being a successful Bumble user. Now, get out there and enjoy yourself.
Happy dating!
It's hard enough to find a co-worker that you can stand, let alone someone you're willing to spend the rest of your life with. Yes, far from what Hollywood movies would have us believe, the pursuit of love is a long and rather arduous task; plagued with missed connections, broken engagements and some genuinely soul-crushing dates.
However, things have improved with the advent of social media. Apps such as Tinder and Bumble not only make it easier to meet people, but also allow us to specify what exactly we would like in a potential partner. As of now, Tinder allows us to narrow the search based on gender and age, while other platforms enable us to discriminate via people's hobbies, political views and even their career paths. But, as anyone who has used dating apps for any length of time will attest to, in spite of all these new functionalities, it's still incredibly hard to find someone that you click with.
But all hope is not lost for those who are still on the hunt for their soul-mate. According to dating service, Zoosk, online daters can do one little thing that will massively boost their matches.
While baby-boomers has frowned upon the Millennial generation's proclivity for avocados, it appears that our culinary tastes are putting us in good stead in the dating arena.
Online dating platform Zoosk recently conducted a study of 3.7 million dating profiles and discovered that talking about food in your bio dramatically increases your chances of getting a match.
According to the analysis, mentioning avocado, or any avocado related foodstuff, increases your chance of getting a match by an eye-watering 144 per cent. Holy guacamole!
If you're more of a fan of carbs, there's no need to fear. Mentioning potatoes will lead to 104 per cent more matches, while referring to everyone's sweet treat, chocolate will see an increase of 100 per cent. Not too shoddy, eh?
However, there are some caveats. Despite Zoosk recommending mentioning your favourite foods in your bio, they add that you have to be able to strike up a good conversation for it to go anywhere, naturally.
Writing in a blog post, the dating service stated, "Though mentioning food in your profile can lead to more incoming messages, It probably shouldn’t be the first thing you talk about with someone. For the most part, mentioning food in an initial message doesn’t result in many more replies".
However, there is one notable exception, in the form of eggplants. They add, "there are some exceptions, the most surprising of which is 'eggplant,' which gets 10% more responses than the average". I mean, who would have guessed that the humble aubergine could elicit such a response?
Well, there you have it. The next time you're scrolling through your matches and scratching your head with disappointment, it may be time to refresh your bio with all of the delicious things you've had the pleasure of eating recently.
In other dating related news, 20 single people reveal why they refuse to date anyone...
Dating in the 21st century can be a minefield. Nobody has any time to meet up, most of us are too broke to afford to go on decent dates, and, if you're not on an app, there's very little chance you'll find someone out there in the wild.
These three singletons are the most popular matches on Tinder:
But even that can cause issues. Apps like Tinder or Bumble supposedly makes the process easier, but - as with most modern technology - they always end up presenting a whole new set of problems. There's so much more pressure to look perfect, for one thing, and it's genuinely very difficult to actually get your personality across in just a couple of pictures and a short bio.
Well, for most people it is. For this guy, it was pretty easy:
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Last week, a Twitter user shared the dating profile of a 27-year-old.
"I thought I’d give Tinder a go but honestly, it’s fully put me off dating," she wrote alongside two images: one of Kirk with his trousers round his ankles (strong look, my guy), and one of his accompanying profile, which came with a set of "rules":
"I have 3 rules.. Rule 1, I don't want to be step dad so no kids unless u have just one, I want my OWN thanks.
"Rules 2, if you date black boys or think about it don't even text me.
"Rule 3, I don't want a time waster or someone who is a bum .. go make your own money u lazy f***s [sic]."
Then, he added:
"I have my own 2 bed flat I bought.
"I body build.
"I have a German Shepherd.
"I eat a lot.
"I don't take s**t."
Before rounding it all off with a cheery, "Good luck girls."
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Understandably, between the racism and the misogyny, not a lot of people were really going for Kirk's stunning offer of a 2 bed flat and penchant for overeating. Instead, they roasted him on social media.
Now that he's been put on blast, it's probably unlikely that Kirk will find a date. Hopefully, he will find some respect. And common decency. And a belt.