The woman who went viral for refusing to get out of the car after her date took her to The Cheesecake Factory has spoken out.
In the almost seven-minute video, which was shared to TikTok by Monique Santos, the woman could be seen tutting and scoffing and telling the camera: "He's got me at The Cheesecake Factory," as the man got out of his car to go and open her door, which she had locked from the inside.
When the man asked her what was wrong, she responded: "This is The Cheesecake Factory. This is a chain restaurant. Who takes someone that looks like this to a chain restaurant?"
She then asks the man to get back into the car so they can "talk about" what's wrong with the location he'd chosen for their first date.
In the clip he asks her: "So, you expect a man to go all out on the first date, is that right?", to which she responds: "You're supposed to. When you take out a beautiful woman and you're courting her - because I get courted - you're supposed to take care of her, you're supposed to cover her, you're supposed to protect her, cherish her, treat her well, right?"
He agrees and says: "I went into the date with expectations for myself - to keep you safe, to respect you, to pay for your food, to pick you up - and just treat you like a gentleman [should]. Which I believe I have done.
"I, on the other hand, have certain expectations for a girl I go out with on a first date. I expect her to be respectful too, I expect her to be cooperative."
She then interjects: "I feel like I'm doing everything I'm supposed to do as a woman. I got myself all made up...", to which he adds again: "But there is nothing wrong with The Cheesecake Factory."
He also revealed that she had made him wait an extra hour for her because she wasn't ready when he picked her up but didn't invite him in to wait in her home, which she said was down to the fact she didn't know him yet, which he said he respected.
The man also added that he'd initially planned to take her to a different venue, but added: "That's what I'm saying, I'm thinking, okay, if we're not there in the relationship to meet at your apartment then maybe we're not ready in the relationship for such a nice, fancy restaurant - especially if I am paying for the whole thing."
Undeterred, the woman hits back: "Isn't there another restaurant you can call that is equivalent to that? You don't understand - look at me. I cannot go in The Cheesecake Factory. I will die. That's embarrassing."
Seeing that he couldn't win with this one, the man then conceded: "Maybe we are not right for each other so respectfully I'm going to just drop you off at home," which only riled her up more.
She then asked the camera: "Oh no he didn't. So you just want to call it a night? Isn't there some kind of compromise or something? Ladies, can you believe this?", before admitting she "could have been a bit more cooperative" and asked if he definitely wanted to go home, to which he said he did.
The video understandably went viral, with most people siding with the man - now revealed as Jay - over Alicia, the woman.
Alicia has now spoken out to defend her stance, admitting that she was "self-centered" in the moment, but still insisting that she deserves to be treated like "royalty" by any potential suitor.
The incompatible couple, who'd first met in a bar in Midtown Atlanta before their doomed date, sat down with Truth Factory's Kevin Wesley to hash out what went wrong.
She revealed she didn't want to get out of the car and be seen going into The Cheesecake Factory because "a queen doesn't do that."
Alicia also addressed why she'd chosen to pull her phone out and record the interaction, adding: "I felt like [he] didn't see my value. In that moment, I felt like I needed the support of my viewers in that moment.
"I discuss relationships and things like that, so I thought that that was a good opportunity for me to have that conversation and see like what does everybody else think.
"I wasn't really taking [Jay's] feelings into consideration, I wasn't trying to be necessarily malicious or anything."
She admitted a large part of her reaction was due to the friends she chooses to surround herself with and the fact they would "never [let her] live it down."
Alicia added: "To be fair, I was always raised that the man is supposed to cater to you. You're courting me, so court me. That means wherever I want to go, you take me. Whatever I want, you buy me. That's courting. I'm looking for a provider."
She did admit: "But after the conversation, I could see how there was a lot of 'I' in that exchange. I was definitely very self-centered. I can appreciate that if I do want someone to provide for me, I have at least got to be a little bit nice.
"I'm a beautiful woman, so I expect to be treated like royalty," adding that she was "tired of having to settle."
Jay revealed that the attention brought by the awkward clip has also affected his own dating life, explaining: "Women kind of have this image of me based on the video, which hasn't helped. It's like they might think everything about me is reflected in that video, and I don't think it is.
"Her recording me did feel like that's where she was trying to take advantage. It felt at the time that [she was] trying to get a free meal from a fancy restaurant and then get content from me too to post on YouTube or Facebook."
Despite the colossal fail of their first date, both Alicia and Jay eventually said they'd consider a second dateif they were able to agree on their values.
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