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TikToker has sparked a debate after saying couples should 'normalize' having separate rooms and bathrooms
A woman has gone viral on TikTok after claiming that all couples should have separate rooms in their houses, even if they are married.
While it’s nice to have your own space, marriage is supposed to be the most intimate relationship you have, isn’t it?
This TikTok user wants her own space - but not how you might think
The TikToker - @momma.robles - argues that having her own space is absolutely necessary, and even caveated her post with a caption saying that she does still sleep in the same room as her husband.
However, they have separate bedrooms full of their own separate stuff, which are their own places to retreat to.
OK, so the first thing to note is that this isn’t a luxury everyone can afford.
Some people don’t have more than one room, let alone a room for themselves to sleep in.
However, for Momma Robles, she can afford it, and it’s something she intends to encourage others about.
In her video, she says: “I may be married, but this is my bedroom.
“I am in my bed, I have my own bathroom, that sharing bedroom nonsense is for grown folk.
“That’s not for me.”
She continued: “He has his own bedroom downstairs, and he has his own bathroom downstairs, don’t come in my room.
“People always ask us ‘how do you guys sleep together, like are you guys just roommates?’
“He sleeps in here all the time, he sleeps in here almost every night, and sometimes I sleep in his room, but this is my bedroom, and don’t use my bathroom.
“I don’t use his bathroom, he don’t use mine.
“We are not grown like that.
“We are married but we’re not grown like that.
“I don’t think we’ll ever be grown like that.
“I am not mature enough to share a bedroom - I’m not doing it!”
A lot of people agree with her
In the comments, as you might imagine, there are a variety of opinions.
Some believe that the idea is healthy and promotes having and respecting each other’s space, but others aren’t so sure.
On balance, most people support her decision as healthy, and some point out that this used to be way more common years ago.
“This is scientifically proven to lead to a happier marriage,” one comment reads.
“This gives chance for temptation, even time to connect with other people,” disagreed another.
“Back in the days couples had there own beds,” said a third.
So, are you going to be splitting up the house after reading this?