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Woman shares update three years on after revealing impact of having sex with husband every single day for a year
In a bold experiment to transform her relationship and body image, Brittany Gibbons committed to a year-long challenge of daily sex with her husband.
Now, three years later, she’s reflecting on the lasting effects the experience had on her marriage, self-esteem, and overall sense of intimacy.
The Origins of the Challenge: A Desire to Reclaim Confidence
Brittany, a married mother of three, was inspired to try a daily sex challenge after hearing about the positive effects it had on a friend’s marriage.
While her relationship with her husband, Andy, was strong, Brittany admitted she was seeking a way to "save herself" after feeling her confidence diminish post-pregnancy.
In an article for Women’s Health, Brittany opened up about how her body image had taken a hit after the birth of her third child. She shared: "I didn’t let myself be naked.
I kept the lights off during sex, hid my stomach and boobs inside a camisole, and I waited for my husband to leave the bedroom before barreling from the shower to my closet to get dressed."
Daily Sex: A Challenge and a New Beginning
When Brittany pitched the idea of daily sex to her husband, she wasn’t expecting it to be easy. The initial days were "rough," she explained, as the thought of sex felt exhausting.
However, as the days turned into weeks and months, something shifted.
"As the months passed, I started looking forward to it," she revealed.
"Sex begat more sex, and those connected, loved-up feelings began to creep outside of the bedroom – or, in our case, the laundry room, the closet, and our garage – and into our everyday lives."
The couple found themselves being more affectionate in small but meaningful ways, like sharing longer kisses and touching each other more throughout the day.
Transforming Intimacy and Body Image
Over time, the experiment began to reshape Brittany’s view of both intimacy and her own body. She found herself enjoying sex again and shedding some of the insecurities that once plagued her.
"I found myself enjoying sex again, making a playlist of songs that turned me on, and no longer being hyper-aware of the sounds my curvy body was making," she explained. "Like the way my thighs clapped together, or my tummy smacked his."
By the six-month mark, Brittany was ready to stop hiding her body behind clothing. The process of having sex every day for a year helped her reconnect with herself in a way she hadn’t expected.
"I developed an amazing relationship with my body by the end of the year," she noted.
The Aftermath: Lasting Effects Beyond the Year
While the couple didn’t maintain the daily sex routine once the year was over, Brittany acknowledged that the impact of the experience was still felt in their marriage.
"I totally don’t have sex with my husband every day, not anymore," she said, adding that it wasn’t because they were "sick of each other" but because they were, after all, humans with real-life commitments.
However, the lessons they learned during their year of intimacy remained relevant. "The effects and lessons from the experience are still apparent in our marriage even now," Brittany shared.
She explained that they learned how difficult it can be to prioritize sex amid the demands of daily life. "The majority of people around you are not having sex every single day.
They’re busy being stressed at work, coordinating their kids’ soccer schedules, and paying bills. Fitting sex into all of that is difficult, but, for us, it’s necessary."
What Daily Sex Taught Them About Marriage and Intimacy
Brittany explained that their year-long experiment also helped them better understand their sexual needs.
"We worked out our sexual appetites, so we now both know the exact amount of sex we need to keep us happy in our marriage," she said.
This awareness allowed them to be more relaxed about periods of time when sex wasn’t happening as frequently.
"I no longer freak out if two weeks pass and we forget to have sex, because we work to connect in other ways," she added. "Intimacy doesn’t always mean penetration."
Finally, Brittany emphasized how the experience helped her feel more secure in her relationship and in herself.
"I am not the best version of myself when I am insecure and panicky," she shared, joking, "I’m basically a walking vague relationship Facebook post."
The challenge allowed her to refocus on herself, ultimately improving not only her marriage but her overall well-being. "It was never about anyone wanting me – it was about me wanting myself. And it only took an entire year of getting laid to figure that out."