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Published 15:36 16 May 2021 GMT
A TikTok user who was constantly told her husband is "way too hot" for her due to her size has hit back at trolls online.
Kate and Matthew, who post under the handle @k8andmatthew, are a married couple who like to share their day-to-day lives with their 13.1K followers.
While their short videos are often lighthearted and sweet, in one particular video, Kate stands up to the trolls who not only belittle her for her appearance but even go on to tell her that she isn't "hot" enough for her husband.
Check out the video here:In the video, Kate tells her followers: "People on TikTok are always like, 'there's no way that's your husband - he's way too hot for you'.
"Erm, he thinks I'm beautiful and also I'm an engineer with a really good personality and I've gained 90lbs since I met him. But none of that matters to him and he's a really good guy. You should wait for that maybe."
As part of the video text, Kate tells her followers: "You are beautiful. You are worthy of love. It's worth waiting for someone that loves you for you."
The video has since racked up over half a million views and in the comments section, the content creator is being praised for shutting down the haters.
One person said: "Yes yes yes! You're perfectly gorgeous and he clearly likes a woman [with] intelligence!"
Another chimed in: "That's BS!!!! People are just jealous that you have a man that truly loves you!!!!! DONT LISTEN TO THE HATE!!!!"
A third added: "You don't owe haters or anyone an explanation about your love life. And [you're] beautiful... people are just jealous and shallow."
In another video, Kate joked that she was the "nerdy fat girl from high" school who snagged herself a hot husband.
She went on to explain: "When we met, I was ready for him. All of the time that I spent being bitter, being single - I wasn't ready to find The One.
"But I got there by believing in my worth, believing in my beauty and my value, and finding my self-confidence to a point where I was content with being single."
Maybe it's time more people on social media learned that everybody is beautiful, and everybody is worthy of being loved.
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Published 16:19 14 Jun 2023 GMT
A Plus size TikToker has responded to criticisms of her relationship after online users claimed that her husband should be with somebody thinner than her.
Alicia McCarvell from Canada - who goes by the handle @aliciamccarvell on the social media platform - is known for promoting body positivity and preaching self-love to her 5.9 million followers.
However, she has sadly been bombarded with negative comments after sharing content with her husband, Scott, who was her high-school sweetheart.
In one particular video posted last July, McCarvell called out the reactions to a transition video showing the pair standing in front of a mirror in their towels before getting glammed up to attend a wedding together.
Watch McCarvell's video below:Although the video was a hit - amassing a whopping 52.9 million views - the content creator noticed that a lot of the comments were from people saying that their marriage didn’t "add up" because of the differences in their weight.
"My video went viral, and I know we all know why. It’s because by beauty standards we don’t make sense," she explained. "The world looks at us and immediately values Scott more than me."
"And since we don’t add up, people try to add things to my side of the equation to make it make sense by saying things like, 'Oh, she must not have been fat when they met' or 'Oh, she’s got to be rich,'" she continued. "Or they try to decrease his side of the equation by saying things like, 'He must be gay' or 'He fetishes fat women.'"
Mccarvell said those views reflected beauty standards set by a wider society that sees physically fit men and women as more compatible and added these values are not reflective of her marriage to Scott.
"We’ve been made to believe that somebody who is physically fit like Scott could never in a million years be in love with or compatible with a fat woman. And that’s solely because the world has literally taught us that we have to value our worth on our bodies," she explained.
"On the scale of what my husband values, how well my body fits into the beauty standard is not at the top of his list. He values my humor and my commitment and my love and my caring heart — and none of these things he values about me changes when my body changes," McCarvell added.
The clip received praise from many users on the video-sharing app, with one person writing: "I love this response! keep being the amazing person you are."
Another user said: "SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! And for what it’s worth, I saw the transaction video and thought you looked stunning!"
A third commented: "You are the reason I am more comfortable with myself, with my husband. and he LOVES my new confidence!! thank you so much!!"
Mccarvell concluded her clap-back video by saying that it is our responsibility to "unlearn" the damaging ideas society has taught us. She told her followers: "If this is the way you think, it's the way you've been taught. However, it is your responsibility to unlearn it."
Mic drop.
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Published 14:50 19 Jul 2022 GMT
A TikToker has blasted viewers who say her relationship doesn't "add up" because she and her husband have different body types.
Alicia McCarvell - who has over 5 million followers on the social media platform - is known for promoting body positivity and preaching self-love.
However, sadly the responses to Alicia's TikTok's - particularly those featuring her high-school sweetheart and husband Scott - aren't always positive.
In a recent video, Alicia called out the reactions to one of her videos as particularly disappointing. The clip in question showed her and Scott in towels, then transitioned to them glammed up and ready for a formal event.
Although the video was a hit (amassing over 43 million views), Alicia noticed that a lot of the attention it was receiving was from people shocked that she and Scott were a couple.
In a follow up TikTok, she called out people whose first response had been to question why someone who was physically fit would be with someone deemed 'fat' by society.
"The world looks at us and immediately values Scott more than me. And since we don’t add up, people try to add things to my side of the equation to make it make sense by saying things like, 'Oh, she must not have been fat when they met' or 'Oh, she’s got to be rich,'" she said in the clip.
"Or they try to decrease his side of the equation by saying things like, 'He must be gay' or 'He fetishes fat women,'" Alicia continued.
"We’ve been made to believe that somebody who is physically fit like Scott could never in a million years be in love with or compatible with a fat woman. And that’s solely because the world has literally taught us that we have to value our worth on our bodies," she added.
"On the scale of what my husband values, how well my body fits into the beauty standard is not at the top of his list. He values my humor and my commitment and my love and my caring heart — and none of these things he values about me changes when my body changes," Alicia explained.
She rounded off the video by saying that it is our responsibility to "unlearn" the damaging ideas society has taught us.
"If this is the way you think, it's the way you've been taught. However, it is your responsibility to unlearn it," she told her followers.
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Published 16:27 11 Apr 2023 GMT
A man has hit back at trolls who claim that his wife is "too attractive" for him.
There is a strange terminology nowadays where one-half of a couple can be dubbed as "punching above their weight" when in reality everyone has a different view of what they find attractive.
Despite everybody having their own tastes, that won't stop online trolls from wading in online to leave their hateful comments.
Scott, from Houston, and his wife Divine who is originally from the Philippines have been together for over five years, as per the Daily Mail.
As per the outlet, Divine messaged Scott on Facebook by accident in 2017 but the pair clearly hit it off and as they say, the rest is history.
The pair struck up a long-distance relationship but when Scott visited the Philippines at the end of 2017, he popped the question. They carried on dating overseas for four years before tying the knot when Divine moved to the US.
They created a TikTok account together and quickly racked up over 400,000 followers, but sadly they have had to combat their share of hateful comments.
Scott and Divine recently released a video after receiving a comment that read: "Wow. He isn't cute at all. Come on. Be real with us."
Sitting in their car, Divine turns to her husband and says: "'Babe, they say you're not cute." to which he responds: "I guess it doesn't really matter, she thinks I'm cute, so..."
Remaining defiant, Divine confirms how she truly feels about her husband by stating: "Yeah what you talking about guys, my husband is very, very, handsome."
"Handsome and handsome and handsome of all the people in the world I know," she continues while giving him a kiss on the cheek.
The comments under the video were mainly that of positivity, with one person stating: "He is a handsome man. With a great sense of humor and confidence. That [is] what women want."
"Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Why do people have to hate on others happiness. You guys are awesome and your love can be felt on here," a second added.
As per the Mail, Scott said that he has suffered from a chronic autoimmune disease called Scleroderma that has affected his appearance since he was 13.
Despite the hateful comments, we wish Scott and Divine all the best in their married life!
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Published 16:06 24 Jan 2022 GMT
A woman has sparked a debate on relationships after she shared a video showing her husband appearing to look at photos and videos of other women on social media.
The woman - who goes by the handle @lyjones0 on TikTok - took to the video-sharing platform earlier this month to share her sneaky post. The video shows her standing on the floor above her husband, as he sits on the couch below while on his cell phone.
As she starts to zoom in on his screen, it's clear that he's scrolling through pics and videos of other women.
Over the top of the video she wrote: "My husband forgot we got a second floor balcony (laughing emoji)."
Check out the sneaky video below:The video has since amassed over 3.1 million views and more than 4,600 comments from fellow TikTokers. In fact, in the video's comments section, a debate was ignited over whether or not the husband was actually doing anything wrong.
"Imagine if men spent as much time trying to please their partners as they did looking at other women," one TikTok user commented.
Another added: "This is when you lose interest in your husband. And he wonders why you won’t be romantic with him."
A third wrote: "My partner did this and I never felt the same or secure with him again. It’s not what it is, it’s what it means. He knew he blew it too."
"That would give me the ick and I’d end up leaving," a fourth commented.
Others, however, were more supportive of the husband, with one guy writing: "He’s just looking. We all do it. Let the poor guy alone."
One TikToker joked: "I wouldn’t care about my husband looking at girls he could never pull. Hell, he barely pulled me."
Even comedian David A. Arnold got involved in the discussion, commenting: "Let that man be. S**t."
It would appear as if @lyjones0 found the funny side in the situation, as she responded in a follow-up video by shooting a Nerf gun at her husband.
And we can't deny it - it was a cracking shot:What are your thoughts on this debate? I personally don't see anything wrong with scrolling through social media - no harm, no foul. Let us know what you think in the comments section.
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Published 11:05 26 Apr 2022 GMT
A body-positive content creator has gone viral after sharing screenshots of a man fat-shaming her when she rejected him.
Shelby Goodrich Eckard is known as @pcossupportgirl on TikTok, where she has almost 170,000 followers and nearly 8 million likes. She is also a PCOS advocate, fitness nutrition, and weight loss specialist (NASM).
Earlier this month, Eckard posted a video featuring screenshots of a man's direct messages to her on Instagram, saying she was "literally perfect" and that he "would do anything" to get to know her.
She then replied: "That's very kind! But I am not interested or available at the moment. Have a good day!"
Check out the video here:
However, he ignored her shutting him down and proceeded to say: "I'd treat you real nice." Eckard then clarified again that she was not interested or available.
Not taking the rejection well, the man immediately resorted to fat-shaming her and hurled insults, writing: "Ur lucky someone like me would even think about touching ur b***h a**. [sic]"
Eckard shot back: “K. I am most certainly a b***h....but you will not be touching any part of me – including my a**. Also, upon further review, I think your FIANCEE probably would like to weigh in on this."
The man then responded: "F*** u fat b**** no need to get others involved."
After sharing the video on the platform, the post soon blew up with almost 260,000 views and people asking for a follow-up story of Eckard sending the screenshots to the man's fiancée.
She posted the follow-up video in the comment section:
The content creator's follow-up video quickly racked up nearly 350,000 views at the time of writing, with many eagerly discussing the situation in the comments section.
One user said: "ooo I hope she dumps him immediately. I wonder if he is going to send u angry messages now. if he does plz post them. I hope she keeps u updated."
Another commented: "Yesssss!!!!!! Good job!!!! I’m glad she took it so well."
"She seems like a fun girls girl she needs to leave him forever," a third user commented.
Whilst users thought that the fiancée took it well, Eckard commented under the video on April 17 that both the man who body-shamed her and his fiancée blocked her on Instagram.
Speaking to Bored Panda, Eckard said: “He didn’t understand the meaning of ‘no,’ and my ‘not interested’ didn’t stop him from continuing to harass me."
She also stated that men need to learn that women "don't owe them kindness or their attention."
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