Have you ever noticed that you and your bestie always laugh at exactly the same time when watching Friends together, or that you tend to pick the same menu item of corn fritters with a side of halloumi when you're out for brunch together? Well, it's not just in your heads – it turns out that you're basically the exact same person as your best friend on the inside, new research has found.
A recent study published in Nature Communications investigated how similar a person's brain functioned compared to their close friends. Inspired by the ancient Greek concept of "homophily", researchers wanted to find out if the theory that people seek companionship with people they deem similar to themselves was true. According to Tonic, homophily "applies in nearly every relationship you can think of: marriage, friendship, work, support, and more", and the researchers wanted to see how true that was.
While we naturally share the same basic characteristics as our friends – we're generally of the same age range and often of the same gender (but girl-boy-BFFs do exist, of course) – they wanted to find out if we think in the same way as our friends too. And by using a bunch of fancy brain-scanning equipment to observe neural responses in participants, they found that our brains do work in really similar ways to our best friends.
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Researchers made a social network chart based on "mutually reported social ties" between 279 graduate students from Dartmouth College. The students were then shown different video clips ranging from music videos to debates and documentaries while being observed by the researchers using the fMRI technology.
The scientists were looking at reactions from different parts of the brain and whether participants felt excited, annoyed or bored when being exposed to the video content that ranged from politics to comedy. The key findings confirmed that we befriend people most similar to ourselves, meaning – and here comes that word again – that people do demonstrate homophily in most of their relationships.
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"Here we show evidence for neural homophily: neural responses when viewing audiovisual movies are exceptionally similar among friends, and that similarity decreases with increasing distance in a real-world social network," the researchers summarised. "These results suggest that we are exceptionally similar to our friends in how we perceive and respond to the world around us, which has implications for interpersonal influence and attraction."
In addition to this, the study identified that two of the "Big Five" personality traits, extraversion and openness to experience, "appear to be more similar among friends than among individuals who are not friends with one another." Which explains why the more vocal party animal types are more likely to band together than befriend someone who doesn't like too much drama. Perhaps most interesting of all is that the scientists were able to predict how close two people were (or weren't) just based on the data from the brain responses.
So while it was previously easy to assume that someone of the same age, ethnicity, or gender would get along just fine, we can now say for sure that people who have the same kind of emotional characteristics are also likely to be good friends. And there you have it – now you know where the telepathic signalling comes from when a cute guy enters the room, and why you have the same emoji-usage habits when texting each other.
I have a man problem. It isn’t an unrequited love (normal story) or a guy who just won’t quit (if only). No, this man problem comes in the shape of my best mate, flatmate and all-round, number one pal. You see, having been friends for eight years now, no one quite believes that we’re not secretly sweet on each other. Our parents ask when we’re getting married, and our friends have basically chosen their outfits. I even went on a date with his friend once, during which he asked me not once, not twice, but three times if we’d ever hooked up. The answer is no. But no matter how much we protest, no one believes us, and it’s ruining both of our dating lives. Don’t even get me started on how awkward potential partners look when we bring them home, on the rare occasion that either of us actually pulls. For years, Hollywood has peddled the “best mate to bedmate” plotline, pushing the idea that romance is an inevitable conclusion of a close male-female friendship. Unfortunately, some scientists are saying they might be right, even going so far as to say that platonic friendship is “impossible”. So can it really be that men and women can’t ever just be friends?
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A study carried out by researchers from the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire in the US, and published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, would certainly suggest so. They recruited 88 pairs of supposedly platonic, straight, opposite-sex, undergrad friends, then split them into separate rooms and asked them to answer questions about their physical and sexual attraction towards the other, on a scale of one to nine, with nine being the highest. As you can probably imagine, no one really wanted anyone to know what answers they had given, so the results were kept strictly private - probably for the best really. Nonetheless, the results did make for some interesting reading, with researchers noticing that the men in the study were far more likely that the women to report that they felt an attraction to their supposed “friend”, regardless of their own or their friend’s relationship status. Scientists proposed that that this was likely because “young males possess strong short-term mating desires that are activated in the context of the opposite sex”, compared to women, who are more likely to be subconsciously dominated by a “long term mating orientation”. In other words, the whole friends-with-benefits thing is (in general) less of a goer for women. Hilariously, it seems that some of the lads were a little too hopeful about their chances: “Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men’s estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt”. In other words, they pretty much assumed that the feeling was mutual. Awkward. Women, on the contrary, tended to underestimate their friend’s attraction to them.
Not everyone agrees that attraction is inevitable, however: “Certainly men and women can have platonic friendships,” Dr Linda Sapadin, a psychologist and coach with a particular interest relationships told Four Nine. “When men and women lived in separate worlds, their primary attraction to each other was romantic. In today’s world, however, men and women live, work and play together. They are fellow students, colleagues, committee members, bridge buddies, tennis partners and more. This cultural shift has created a new norm in which people generally keep their sexual involvement and friendships separate.”There's also the question of whether the results from the study would still stand once the thrill of being a fresher had worn off and real life set in - after all, being 21 involves a lot more tequila and regrettable kisses that most of us would be prepared to stomach just a few years later. A follow-up study by the same team, involving individuals between their late 20s to early 50s, found that while the tendency for a single person to report a desire for a friend was the same, this did not apply to people in relationships. There was also a considerable increase in whether people considered being attracted to a friend a problem, rather than accepting it. It seems then, that as you grow up and settle down, your ability to blind yourself to the charms of that one friend increases.
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At the end of the day though, it’s a debate that’s gone on since the beginning of time, and one that will almost certainly go on until the end. And with 83 per cent of married people describing their partners as their "best friend", it's easy to see how the association between friendship and sexual attraction can be made. But from first-hand experience, I’m inclined to believe that yes, men and women can just be friends: my flatmate will always be the skinny posh boy that I’ve watched drunkenly throw up one too many times, who has hooked up with most of my gal pals and who once told me he would “definitely” get with my sister. Yeah; a swing and a miss.
Published 20:09 08 Apr 2018 GMT
Study finds that women like their best friends more than their husband
No matter who you are or where you're from, pretty much all of us will have one relationship that we value more than others in our lifetime. This could be a childhood friend, a sibling, a parent, or - as we get older - most likely a romantic partner that we choose to settle down and build a life with.
But, according to one survey conducted by the spa and healthcare company, Champneys, our idea about soulmates might be a little off, as it transpires that most women actually prefer their best friends to their husbands.
In fact, out of the 1,517 women questioned, a little over 50 per cent claimed that their gal pals ranked higher than their spouses when it came to who they were closer to - and there were a number of reasons why.
The most-agreed-on reason why women preferred their platonic pal to their husband was that they felt they could "talk about everything" with another woman. This was followed closely by the fact that those surveyed felt that their female friends "listen more" than their spouses, and that they "can tell her things [they] could not tell [their] partner."
A lot of the responses seemed to suggest that women simply have a better time with their girlfriends, too, with 39 per cent saying they preferred their pals because, "we laugh until we cry", 29 per cent saying, "I can truly be myself", and a quarter admitting that, "we have much more in common".
What's more, over forty per cent also said that their gal pals were better company because "we enjoy the same things", and 28 per cent said that it was because "she offers better advice".
Amusingly, more than one in four women said their husband didn't get the top spot because their female friends were "less irritating", and almost a fifth of those surveyed said their pals simply had "a better sense of humor".
A spokesperson for Champneys said:
"These research findings back up our own sales stats which show that all female group bookings for our spa days and weekend offerings have nearly doubled over the past 12 months.
In fact, our Girly Getaway and ‘Girls Night In’ packages for groups of six or more are amongst the most in demand packages at Champneys Spa resorts."
Of course, this could just be because spa days are usually marketed towards women more than men, but the fact that these ladies are bringing their friends instead of their partners is pretty telling. Plus, as other studies have shown that women - on average - have told their besties two secrets that their husband doesn't know, and it's unlikely that the lack of a shared interest in clay masks and foot massages is to blame.
So, to any married men reading this, if you want to win favour with your wife: make sure you listen more, make an effort to take an interest in her hobbies, and do your best to be a bit less irritating. Of course, you could always just take her on a spa day - I'm sure that would get you a fair amount of kudos!
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It's often said that true friends are worth their weight in gold, and the old saying couldn't be truer. Take the ladies above, they've known each other fifty years! When you're down on your luck, a good group of friends can help you see the light in even the darkest of situations. And when things are going swimmingly, they're there to enjoy the ride with you too! But there's no doubt that the true test of a friend is how they react in bad situations as opposed to the good.
So, to celebrate all things friendship, we've compiled a list of incredible then and now friend pictures, proving that water can be just as thick as blood. After seeing these, you won't be able to help but call up your bestie and praise them for existing!
[post_page_title]Friends That Camp Together Stay Together[/post_page_title]
Childhood friendships are some of the most fun of our lives. With no responsibilities, we enjoyed the simpler things in life - from sleepovers to fishing for tadpoles in our local pond! And, if you're lucky, this will create a bond that lasts a lifetime.
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These two dudes are pictured above as kids camping 59 years ago (pops for the comic books in their tent) and they're pictured below as grownups, still as tight as ever, having remained besties for a whopping half a century. You rock, guys!
[post_page_title]These Two Have Always Followed The Same Path[/post_page_title]
It's no secret that people can be influenced by their friends. As my mom puts it, "Show me who your company is, and I'll tell you who you are." Thankfully, most of the time, this has positive connotations and friends can chase the same dreams together.
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Case in point, these two, who went from beating up bad guys on video games, to quite literally beating up bad guys in real life in the military. Friends for 15 years - and I'm sure, for life!
[post_page_title]Look At How Far We've Come![/post_page_title]
For many people, they meet their closest friends in education. This happened for me a little later down the line. I met my best friend on the first day of my graduate degree four years ago and we've been inseparable since then.
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For this lucky trio, however, the bond that they established way back in preschool saw them right through to their high school graduation. Hopefully, this is a friendship which lasts a lifetime.
[post_page_title]Some Things, However, Do Change With Time[/post_page_title]
Kids love playing in the bath together, and when the weather permits, in paddling pools. When you're young, it's so much easier to enjoy the simple things in life because the word responsibility means nothing to you.
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Clearly, these two still appreciate the joy of sharing a bath together. The only thing that's really changed is their choice of beverage... And amount of body hair.
[post_page_title]Father and daughter recreate some graduation magic[/post_page_title]
Graduation is not just a special day for the students, but their parents as well. In the picture below, the now 19-year-old Tori Roach can be seen as both a baby being held by her graduating father, Dennis, and also as a teenager graduating in her father's arms.
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Tori's adorable tweet received so much love online - quickly garnering over 175,000 likes and 67,000 retweets, with many branding it the 'sweetest' thing they've ever seen! What's even more incredible is that they both also graduated from the same school!
[post_page_title]Now That's What I Call #FriendshipGroupGoals [/post_page_title]
The more friends there are in a group, sadly, the higher the odds are of it breaking up over time. We simply don't have the same interests as we did as kids when we're grownups, which is why it's so special when groups stay together.
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Check out these happy guys! They've all stayed togehter (and with the same choices of beverages too). They are pictured above at the ages of 10, 17 and 29 years old.
[post_page_title]Friends For Seven Decades[/post_page_title]
Sometimes, when people hit it off as kids, it really is a case of "till death do us part" on a friendship level. Sure, the world and technology has changed irrevocably over the past 70 years, but these two's bond hasn't waned.
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Hopefully, their grandchildren will remain just as close throughout their lives too. One thing's for sure, these ladies will have some epic friend stories from over the years - good and bad!
[post_page_title]The Friends Who Always Visit The Same Cabin[/post_page_title]
Traditions often help to keep friendships alive over the years, whether it's simply watching the same movie every Christmas together, or, as is the case for this group of guys, vacationing at the same cabin at Copco Lake in California.
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These three pictures were each taken five years apart between 1982 and 2012. Clearly, these dudes aren't so keen on going shirtless now that they're a little older!
[post_page_title]From First Grade To Graduation[/post_page_title]
Even if you don't keep in touch with your childhood friends, chances are that they'll always have a special place in your heart. And thanks to social media, it's easier than ever to see what they're up to!
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But I've no doubt that these four, who've been friends since first grade, won't have to rely on Facebook to keep their bond strong. Props for pulling the same poses and facial expressions in both pictures!
[post_page_title]The Gang Is Still Together[/post_page_title]
Outside of school, most of us spend our childhoods playing with the other kids on our street. That's why it was so devastating whenever someone moved away. When you're six, you can't easily take the bus to visit them!
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Luckily, despite growing up together, the old crew from Gladstone Street are still friends. Although, I'd be willing to bet that few - if any - of them still there, or if that's even the same Gladstone Street as in the picture above.
[post_page_title]The Annoying Friend You Can't Help But Love[/post_page_title]
Friends can get on our nerves at times, but we know that our lives would be a lot less interesting without them. In fact, if we haven't been annoyed by *that* friend in a few days, we often start to wonder if something is wrong!
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Clearly, these two have had this kind of a relationship for a long time. It just goes to show that playing together might keep some friendships strong, so too can annoying each other! (Although I think it's obvious that he's faking his annoyance!)
[post_page_title]Smiling Through The Years[/post_page_title]
There are some problems which we simply can't go to our families with - relationships are a good example. Sometimes what they think is best for us couldn't be further from what we actually need, which is when our friends some into their own.
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This touching picture was captioned: "She's my surrogate sister. We update each other on our families and our lives whenever we speak. We laugh together and we cry together, and we've been friends for 76 years."
[post_page_title]Still Playing In The Mud[/post_page_title]
Kids, especially boys, love getting dirty. It's why so many detergent ads are targetted towards Moms. Companies know that they have to contend with a lot of tough stains!
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This brilliant recreation of these guy's childhood picture was captioned: "20+ years later we are still a bunch of dirty boys." Props to them to recreating the way the dirt looked in the first picture!
[post_page_title]Troubled Times Really Do Bring People Together[/post_page_title]
It's no secret that World War Two tore many people apart, but it also brought others together in difficult circumstances and created bonds that have lasted a lifetime.
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It's great to see that this group are still as tight as ever despite everything they've gone through. They might not be as tall as they once well, but I think you'll agree that they nailed this recreation.
[post_page_title]They Never Lost Each Other[/post_page_title]
One of the hardest realizations of life is knowing that you will lose people you love. This is even harder when you lose someone unexpectedly and have to find closure on your own terms. In times like these, friends are invaluable.
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"Best friends for over 60 years," this picture was captioned. "We gained (and lost) husbands, children and grandchildren. We are ever present in each other's hearts and lives."
[post_page_title]Tech Has Grown With Their Friendship[/post_page_title]
Unless you're very young, technology will have changed a lot throughout your life, and it's a great bonding experience reminiscing about that. Like discussing the social media platforms that predated Facebook!
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My money's on these friends playing Pokémon in the first picture and it's updated counterpart Pokémon Go in the second. After all these years, they still want to catch them all!
[post_page_title]Food Bonds People A Lot[/post_page_title]
A friend of mine once said, "Even a bad pizza is a good pizza". And it's so true! Clearly, their love of food has kept these guys together. I love how they have grown but their portion sizes haven't!
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These pictures were captioned: "Best buds fueling up before hitting the town." Additional props to these guys for wearing matching outfits in both pictures - and making sure said outfits are similar.
[post_page_title]Thumbs Up[/post_page_title]
When you've got a good bestie by your side, life really is a thumbs up. This is especially the case if you're lucky enough to grow up together and make memories you both know can't be replaced.
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These pictures were captioned: "He white but he still ma n*gga. My best friend for 18 years." Here's to the next 18 guys!
[post_page_title]These Guys Glowed Up Together[/post_page_title]
Going through the education system is a journey and that's putting it mildly. For many people, it can span as many as two decades as they go from learning how to read and write to gaining college degrees.
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"Lucky to have the same best friend since our first day of kindergarten to our first day of living together for our last year of college," these pictures were captioned. Talk about a glow up!
[post_page_title]Their Height Difference Has Grown[/post_page_title]
One of the fun things about being a kid is having no idea what you'll look like after puberty has hit. Maybe you'll be twice as tall, or not much bigger than you were before. These two are an example!
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These then and now pictures were captioned: "A picture of my buddy and I, on my 10th and 22nd birthdays." Another pair who nailed pulling the same facial expressions twice.
[post_page_title]Still As Happy As Ever[/post_page_title]
The first picture here looks like it's from a high school yearbook. Just check out those grins! And those 70s style glasses. Luckily, these four ladies are just as happy and radiant decades on.
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These before and after pictures were captioned: "Four friends, then and now, 38 years apart (1978 - 2016)." I bet these ladies have some excellent stories from back in the day!
[post_page_title]Distance Doesn't Get In The Way Of True Friendship[/post_page_title]
If you're really lucky, your best friend will be like an extra sibling - without any additional baggage. And if you're even luckier, distance won't stop you from being close as was the case for these two ladies!
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"Best friends for over 50 years," this picture was captioned. "We haven't lived in the same city for 40 years, But we talk every week and see each other several times a year. Neither one of us has sisters, but she is more than a sister to me."
[post_page_title]The Balloon Boys Then And Now[/post_page_title]
Time changes a lot. Our foreheads develop lines, our hangovers last longer, and chances are we don't have a fraction of the energy we possessed as kids. But friendships sometimes never falter.
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These adorable before and after pictures were captioned: "Still friends at 40". Clearly, while these guys enthusiasm for each other hasn't waned, they don't look quite as keen on balloons in the second picture!
[post_page_title]BBFs Forever[/post_page_title]
Reading through this list, I'm honestly getting more and more jealous of all these childhood BBFs. I'm only in touch with people I've known this long on social media - seperated like many by time and distance.
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"Almost 20 years down the road, then & now," these pictures were captioned. I love how the guy on the far right looks cheekier as an adult than he did as a child!
[post_page_title]A Seriously Big Friend Group[/post_page_title]
As we've seen on this list, some friend groups are bigger than others, but none so far have been quite as big as this one, which, if you count, is ten people strong!
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This picture of these fabulous ten friends was captioned: "Ten years later, still the best of friends." It's nice to see that the playpark still exists too, even if the sandpit has shrunk quite a bit!
[post_page_title]When Dress Up Becomes Reality[/post_page_title]
When you're a kid, there are few things more fun than fantasizing about what your grownup life will be like, and for many people, this involves imagining their wedding day. That's why these then and now pictures are so special!
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"My best friend and I in 1998, before a costume party, and in 2016 at my wedding," this picture was captioned. See! Childhood dreams really do come true!
[post_page_title]True Friends Are Worth Being Grateful For[/post_page_title]
While there's a place in the world for counselors, sometimes it's the people who know you best who can give you the exact advice you need to hear - and better still if there's more than one of them!
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This picture was captioned: "Best friends for 50 years. We have been there as a support system as hard decisions needed advice: sickness, infidelity, life-changing situations, aging parents, happy and sad times. We are so grateful to have one another to go through this wonderful life we have."
[post_page_title]Junk Food Bonds Last For Life[/post_page_title]
Clearly, there's more than one group of friends out there who have been kept together by their love of junk food. It's one of the simpler pleasures in life and it's best enjoyed with friends.
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However, as this after picture demonstrates, perhaps these guys have gotten a little simpler in their old age and opted for potato chips instead of pizza. Gotta watch that waistline!
[post_page_title]Friends Who Look Like Sisters[/post_page_title]
Sometimes, when you're really close to someone, you start to subconsciously adopt their mannerisms and ways of doing things. Like these two ladies, who appear to have always had similar styles and haircuts!
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These before and after pictures were captioned: "My friend and I in 1990 and in 2017." Admittedly, if they keep these recreations up, if they live long enough, they'll only be able to pull this pose for so long!
[post_page_title]What A Difference Half A Century Makes![/post_page_title]
Usually, houses and buildings change a lot over time, but sometimes that's not the case. Although this building hasn't changed and neither has these friendships, the size of these people certainly has!
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These heartwarming before and after pictures were captioned: "Goulet siblings (and bffs) 1966 vs. 2014." I love how the woman holding the "baby" still has the same haircut all those years later.
[post_page_title]Friends For Life[/post_page_title]
Another pair of friends who stayed together throughout the education system were these two. Judging by the quality of the pictures, I'd say they're still friends to this day - so much so that they scanned them digitally!
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This picture was captioned: "My friend and I have been best friends our entire lives. then and now: preschool graduation and our high school graduation."
[post_page_title]The Boys Are Back In Town[/post_page_title]
Their friendship has stayed the same and as strong as ever over the decades. The same, however, can't be said for their hairlines...
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These before and after pictures were captioned: "My friends Sam, Shawn and myself (ron), friends for 4 decades."
[post_page_title]Arms Around Each Other For Life[/post_page_title]
With a strong best friend by your side, even when things go wrong, like unexpectedly losing their job, you know that someone has your back. That's why good friends really are worth their weight in gold.
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These before and after pictures were captioned: "Then and now: my best friend in the whole world." I love how these ladies smiles have gotten even bigger over time!
[post_page_title]Besties Don't Have To Be Similar[/post_page_title]
While some people do have a lot in common with their best friends, that's not necessarily always the case. Sometimes you couldn't be more different, but despite this, click like no one else!
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This picture was captioned: "Best friends for 50 years. We come from different backgrounds, different professions and have very different personalities. But, through it all, we have remained besties."
[post_page_title]You Can't Have Too Many Friends[/post_page_title]
It's often said that you can't have too many friends, and as much as it's a cliché, it's true. We need as many supportive people as possible to get through the journey that is life.
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This picture was captioned: "Apparently nothing has changed from 8th grade to senior year of college." I hope that these dudes take a similar picture when one of them eventually gets hitched!
[post_page_title]This Woman Can't Remember Life Without Her Bestie[/post_page_title]
There are some life-changing events which forever change how we see ourselves and the world. My Mum has always said that my dad is her best friend and added that her life never really started until she met him.
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This is a sentiment shared by the woman above, one of Joanne and Bonnie. They've been best friends for sixty years, and as a result, Bonnie said that she has no idea what her life was like before she met Joanne. D'aw!
Published 09:19 13 Jul 2018 GMT
Couples are sharing photos of how much they look alike, and people are totally shaken
There's a common belief that, when people are searching for their soulmate, it's "opposites" that attract most. However, after a recent conversation thread went viral on Twitter, it's transpired that a lot of folks out there are drawn to other halves that look almost identical to them.
It all started when Junior Sandres, who goes by the Twitter handle @jrsandres, posted this rather adorable picture of himself and his girlfriend:
For anyone who didn't know these two were dating, it'd be very easy to mistake them for brother and sister. They have the same smiles, same eyes, same face shape - heck, I'd believe them if they told me they were twins.
And the similarities didn't end there.
"What’s crazy is we have so much in common," said Sandres. "Same exact music taste, same eye sight (I wear her glasses when I lose mine) same teeth same mom wow tell me that isn’t crazy."
But some people weren't as shocked as others when they found out that Junior and his doppelganger were dating. As it turns out, there are tons of couples who frequently get mistaken for relatives instead of romantic partners - and some of them contributed their selfies to prove that.
"Yes [I swear to God], people say me and my boo look alike i don’t see it," wrote Twitter user, @HeyItzJane_, who shared this picture:
"10/10 can relate," added @alicelunesz, who shared some adorable snaps of herself and her girlfriend. "Definitely my soulmate & definitely not related."
"SWEAR YALL AINT RELATED ?!?" commented one person. "BRUHHH YALL PRETTY AS F**K BUT I COULDVE SWORN UALL WAS TWINsS."
"It gets even weirder learning our stories & timelines of stuff but yeah, not related at all lmao," @alicelunesz replied.
They were then joined by user @pmaz_, who posted this cute pic of himself and his partner:
And then @amaniec_ rocked up to share a picture of herself, her partner, and their little one. "We had a baby... so now we all look like siblings," she joked.
As similar as all the other couples may look, though, none of them quite hold up to the uncanny likeness that Junior and his girlfriend share.
It just goes to show, then, that sometimes it isn't always differences that draw people together. On the contrary, in fact, it might just be the similarities.
However, if you do find yourself in a situation like any of these couples have going on, you should prepare yourself for the inevitable "are you sure you guys aren't related?" line of questioning that all of them seem to have received in the comments. And the suspicious glances. And, no doubt, the horrified looks they must get if anyone catches them showing any affection in public.
But - similar or not - all of these loved-up couples seem perfectly happy with one another, and that matters more than any physical features ever could.
For the majority of us, our friends are basically family. Not only are they the people that we have the most fun with, but they're also the ones that we go to in times of strife, and joy. And apparently, we have good scientific reason to be spending so much time with our inner circle. According to scientists from Northwestern university, choosing the right friends may be the key to our long-term happiness.
Professor Moran Cerf, a neuroscientist from the renowned American university, has asserted that the best way to boost our happiness is to be very picky about those that we choose to spend our time with. This is because our brainwaves start to resemble the people who we surround ourselves with. And as such, we quickly become alike, picking up on their desirable, and not so desirable behavioural patterns.
Speaking to Business Insider, Professor Moran Cerf revealed that we should refrain from fretting about small decisions such as how to dress and impress acquaintances, and instead focus on our nearest and dearest as they are our best chance at achieving long-term satisfaction.
"The more we study engagement, we see time and again that just being next to certain people actually aligns your brain with them", he said. "This means the people you hang out with actually have an impact on your engagement with reality beyond what you can explain. And one of the effects is you become alike."
The neuroscientist alleges that many of us incorrectly believe that superficial decisions, such as how we dress, or where we choose to eat will make us more satisfied with our lives. Instead, what we eat doesn't matter, it's who we eat it with that does.
In fact, Professor Moran Cerf believes that if people want to improve and enrich their lives, they should spend their time with those who have the traits that they desire, as they'll naturally pick them up. For example, if someone wants to get better at cooking, they should seek out the company of people who routinely prepare their own meals.
Other studies have corroborated Professor Moran Cerf's assertions. Research conducted this past June by Michigan State University concluded that friendships can outweigh the benefits of familial relationships after a certain amount of time.
The study which involved thousands of participants from all around the world discovered that friendships can "make a world of difference" to our levels of happiness and satisfaction, and can even influence how we respond to heath scares and illness. As William Chopik, the assistant professor of psychology at Michigan State University continued, "It’s smart to invest in the friendship that make you happiest."
Well, there you have it, the next time that your parents reprimand you for spending too much time with your friends, you can point out that scientific research actually says that it's much better for you.
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