This is how the five 'love languages' can help you win at relationships

You can figure out what your dominant Love Languages are simply by mulling over the definitions, but Gary Chapman also offers a 30-question quiz on his website.

Chances are that you relate to several of these. But most of us have one or two that are much more important to us than the others. And when you understand that your partner shows affection in different ways to you, it can be rather illuminating. For example, you may have found yourself becoming frustrated because your boyfriend didn't seem to appreciate all those small, thoughtful presents you lavished him with from time to time. But by looking into his Love Languages, you would discover that he prizes physical touch and tangible actions over receiving gifts.

It's also helpful to think about how you don't express affection. For example, if you rank lowly on Acts of Service, you may not be appreciating the favours that your partner (or family and friends) do for you. Whether this is taking over the school run when you're going through a stressful period, or offering to give you a ride to the airport, it's handy to know where your blind spots are and to act accordingly.

Ultimately, when you understand what your significant other prizes above everything else, it's easier to understand where they're coming from, especially during times of disagreement. You may find that while you and your partner both value spending quality time together, one of you puts more emphasis on physical touch than the other. You can then work together to ensure that you're meeting each other's needs.

Think of it as a cheat code for your relationship.