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Published 16:17 12 Jun 2021 GMT
There's no doubt that abortion is a contentious issue.
Many women around the world are fighting for their right to chose whether or not they can terminate a pregnancy, and the activists who are struggling for this are both lauded and criticized from either side.
But there is an emotional toll to the procedure that is often left unexpressed - which is why it is so important to listen to the women who shared their personal stories on social media.
For example, in a video recently posted to TikTok, 19-year-old Kaylyn Weston spoke about how she coped with the after-effects of terminating a pregnancy.
In her TikTok video, Weston states: "On the right side, you're labeled a sinner. On the left, you're expected to only gain relief and an open future.
"When in reality, it feels like all my doors have been closed. No one wants to hear about the negative effects an abortion can have without it getting political."
The video has clearly resonated with other TikTok users, and accrued over 966,000 views, 202,000 reactions, and a further 8,000 comments as of the time of writing.
Indeed, many other women subsequently came out of the woodwork to share their experiences too.
For instance, one TikTok user wrote: "Honestly it's probably the hardest choice we make. No one is 'happy' after getting one. It's still a sore spot for me."
A second stated: "The mother's day guilt is the worst. But I was in NO place mentally or financially to be taking care of a baby."
Someone else stated: "It's been 7 years since mine... I still carry the ultrasound in my wallet."
Another person wrote: "As far as being labeled a sinner: only God knows what you went through. He understood your situation and understands your pain. God loves you."
Finally, someone else added: "Took me 10 years and every now and then, I see a kid that would have been the same age and [...] sadness overwhelms."
Commenting on her experiences in a later interview with Buzzfeed, Weston stated: "To me, forbidden grief is the grief that a woman may endure after having an abortion. It is isolating, heavy, and difficult to process."
She added: "It’s referred to as forbidden because we feel we shouldn’t experience grief of any kind, as it was our choice to terminate the pregnancy.
"However, a loss is a loss, and just because a woman decides to end her pregnancy does not mean that she will not regret or feel any negative emotions towards it.
"I feel the biggest misconception with abortion is that women are 'happy' to do it and feel free afterwards, when the reality can be the complete opposite."
Published 17:30 29 Feb 2020 GMT
A TikTok video, in which a young woman appears to go for an abortion at Planned Parenthood, has caused quite the furore on social media. At the time of writing, it has garnered over four million views on the platform.
The clip, which was titled Abortion time, take 2, shows the woman getting ready in front of a mirror, while a friend holds up a positive pregnancy test and asks her "How do you feel?"
The woman in question then proceeds to show off what appears to be a small baby bump, before the clip cuts to them at a Planned Parenthood in Pasadena, California, where she laughs alongside the caption "nervous laugh".
Watch the video below:
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Certain groups on social media were upset at the fact that the woman did not look upset and distressed in the video - which has since been deleted from the account that posted it - as she can be seen dancing in the waiting room near a somber-looking couple, who are in the same room.
"Two abortion moods," a caption on the video reads at this point.
Finally, the woman is seen on a white table, while her friend films her and zooms in on the ultrasound before the clip ends.
Members of the "pro-life" movement were quick to denounce the controversial video. "These abortion celebration TikTok videos are something else. If you want to abort your kid and kill your own offspring I’m not going to be the one to stop you, but why do these chicks celebrate abortions as if they’re collecting Pokémon gym badges?" wrote one social media user.
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"Twitter just locked my account until I removed the TikTok video of the girl joking & filming her abortion at @PPFA," the same user continued. "After your RTs & outcry, TikTok removed the girl’s account. Let’s pray for her & work to end the ‘pro-choice’ brainwashing that dehumanizes & kills helpless babies."
However, those who are pro-choice, defended the video, with one Twitter user asserting: "Whilst the video is distasteful to say the least, the rights of the mother must always come before the rights of the foetus. Pro-Choice is not brainwashing. It's giving someone their basic human right- freedom. Freedom to make their own choices about their own life."
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Published 13:26 04 Mar 2023 GMT
A mom has recently sparked a debate online after urging her husband to pick her life over her unborn baby's if there are any complications while she's giving birth.
Posting to TikTok, Ana Morales, also known by her handle @anabelmoralezz shared with her 17,000+ followers a message that she was directing at her husband.
The six-second clip showed the husband-and-wife duo in hospital, with Ana laying on the bed with a medical gown and mask on while her husband sat beside her in a chair.
The text overlay read: "To my husband: If I’m giving birth, and the doctor says you need to pick between me or the baby. Please save me. I don’t want [their son] Ethan to grow up without a mom, and I don’t want you to have to raise two babies alone while also grieving your wife."
Of course, the video, which has been viewed over six million times, immediately garnered a lot of attention with thousands taking to the comments to give their opinion on the matter.
"My hubby has always said 'we can have another baby but our kids who are already on earth can’t replace you,'" commented one user, while another claimed a similar response from their husband too: "My husband said 'if I had to pick between you and our baby I’d pick you bc we can have another baby but I can’t have another you.'"
"I’ve never looked at it this way," another user wrote. "I’m lost for words..."
"As much as it would hurt [you're] 100% right."
And this user related to the mom-of-one writing: "I had these feelings during my third pregnancy and felt so guilty. I’m glad I’m not the only one that feels this way."
However, a lot of other TikTok users seemed to strongly disagree with the stance.
"Choose our child before me... Every time... I’ve lived my life their life has just begun," this user said, giving the other side.
"I don’t judge you but I could never," admitted another.
"I'm not a mother yet, but I have always said if It was up to me save my child not me....is that bad," asked another TikToker.
And this person said that while they understood where the mom was coming from, the decision would ultimately lie with her husband: "I understand this, but idk I think I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I did this. I’d honestly leave the choice up to my husband and I would."
It is an incredibly difficult choice but thankfully, both Ana and her baby were fine during the birthing process and she is preparing for her little one to turn two later this year!
Published 16:05 03 Feb 2023 GMT
A woman has sparked a debate after claiming she would want medics to save her life over that of her unborn child if there was a complication during the birth.
It's the dilemma all expectant mothers hope they never have to make a decision on - whose life should doctors prioritize saving if it's a choice between the mother or the baby during a medical emergency.
Many women say they'd want their baby saved over them in the event of a life-or-death situation, however, if the baby is saved and the mother dies during birth, the child will have to grow up without their mom.
One woman has left her followers divided after saying that she would prefer if she were the one to live if the situation were to happen to her in labor.
Shelbie Martin from Utah, who goes by the handle @shelbielenora on TikTok, shared a video of her lipsyncing to a song, with text overlaid which read: "If during birth you have to choose to save me or the baby, save me. I have babies at home that need me."
She added in the caption: "& my husband agrees."
The video has racked up over two million views since being posted on January 11, with thousands of comments on both sides of the debate.
One viewer wrote: "You’re the first person I’ve seen do this and didn’t say ‘save the baby’… I agree with you completely," to which Shelbie responded: "Moms that get it… get it."
Another commented: "I just don’t know why people would save the bay over the mother. I agree with you," while a third added: "I agree. Even without having children. Don't forget we are also someone's children... My parents couldn't live without me."
One wrote: "If it was my first child of course save the baby but I have a medically ill child that [relies] on me to stay alive so I’d save me too for him."
Some disagreed, commenting: "Just no. I signed a form in labor 1000000 save the baby," and "I would say save the baby, his life is more important than mine and I do have other children."
Others were left conflicted, adding: "You've got my brain in over drive on what I would do. I honestly don't know."
Many commenters admitted they had initially thought they'd want the baby saved until they had children and experienced an issue during a subsequent birth and realized they were also needed by their existing kids, leading them to decide their life should be prioritized over the unborn baby.
While it's a decision no mother - or family member of a pregnant woman - wants to have to make, thankfully most babies are delivered safely with the appropriate medical care for both mother and child.
Published 15:28 27 Mar 2023 GMT
A woman has sparked a debate on social media after revealing that she has undergone a sterilization procedure.
Last February, TikToker Abby Ramsay - who goes by the handle @abbysworldsastage - shared a series of pictures taken in a style you'd expect to see of a pregnancy announcement or gender reveal on social media.
In the video - which has amassed 4.2 million views and 639.5K likes on the platform - the 24-year-old showed a box that has "Congratulations" written on the side.
Ramsey excitedly lifted the lid of the box to display the paperwork for her sterilization surgery. She wrote in her overlay text: "After about 6 years of trying, I finally found a doctor who listened. This goes out to all the ones who didn't."
Watch Ramsey's TikTok below:After posting the viral video, the TikToker was flooded with mixed comments and debates from viewers who were baffled by her medical decision.
One user simply wrote: "Why tho?"
Another person questioned: "What trauma did you experience that led to this?"
A third interjected: "It's literally our job to reproduce. It's God's plan for us. Those who can I must add. Call me a Karen but that's how it's supposed to be ."
Meanwhile, several users applauded her choice in doing what's right for her body and future, with one person penning: "I'm a mom & I wanna say congratulations! Same way I was able to choose to have children you should be able to choose & be respected not to."
A second person commented: "The fact that a woman has to fight for her own right to not to have children, is ridiculous. Not everyone wants kids and that's OKAY."
A third added: "I'd prefer people who don't want children to not have them. Happy for you. Enjoy your life how you want to."
Buzzfeed reported that Ramsay underwent a combination surgery - including a bilateral salpingectomy - in which doctors extracted her fallopian tubes and an endometrial ablation - which removes a coating of the endometrium, also known as the tissue lining a uterus.
The woman reportedly decided on this combination to stop the odds of her having an unwanted pregnancy, as well as the comfort endometrial ablations can offer people like her who experience heavy periods.
In a longer caption on her Instagram, Ramsey explained to her followers why she wanted the surgery, writing: "If you know me, you know that I decided to live a child-free life since I was at least 16. When I turned 19 I decided to start looking into permanent sterilization."
She spoke about the medical professionals who refused to perform the surgery, including one doctor who expressed that "no one should ever get a surgery they don't absolutely need".
"Many of these meetings left me frustrated at the least and traumatized at the most. I was infantilized and not listened to and not taken seriously," she said at the time. "Finally, in December I found a doctor who listened to me, and even figured out why I have been in so much pain for years!"
"I know my body, and I know what is right for me, and I want to thank my doctors for recognizing that and working with my needs. We need more doctors like that," she added.
The TikToker spoke with the outlet and opened up about why she was emotional when she discovered a doctor who respected her medical decision.
"I didn't know how much I just needed someone to listen to me for once. To believe that maybe I knew myself better than they did," she told Buzzfeed.
Not having to over-explain herself about why she needed the surgery was the ultimate relief for Ramsay, who concluded: "While I have many reasons for not wanting to get pregnant and wanting to be child-free - from genetics to fears and medical concerns - at the end of the day, 'I don’t want to have kids' is reason enough and should be respected."
Published 12:28 05 Aug 2021 GMT
A mom has sparked a debate on social media this week after sharing a video in which she gets her baby's ears pierced.
The video in question was first shared on TikTok by a woman named Marisa Carpineta on Sunday, August 1.
It begins with her baby girl crying and kicking while undergoing the delicate cosmetic procedure, and the video finishes with the young child smiling and happy with a pair of glittering ear studs adorning her lobes.
This brief clip quickly picked up a lot of attention on the platform, accruing over 398,000 views, 42,000 reactions, and a further 2,500 comments as of the time of writing.
However, the comments were split between those who approved of piercing the baby's ears, and those who seemed to think it was unsafe or harsh to the child.
For example, on the negative side, one person wrote: "What's the place called so I can leave a bad review, a screaming crying baby should not be pierced against their will."
Another person sacasticly stated: "Don't use a piercing gun, just hold your screaming infant down while a stranger shoved needles in her ears. Got it."
A third person opined: "This should be illegal. It should be the baby's choice when they can make one. Putting it through that pain with it wanting earrings is awful."
Then this TikTok user added: "This makes my skin crawl. Or don't inflict unnecessary pain on a baby!?"
Finally, someone else commented: "I would never expose my baby to unnecessary pain."
However, other commenters leaped to Carpineta's defense.
For instance, one person wrote: "This comment section is ridiculous. I had my ears pierced as a baby and completely happy I was! Pain I didn't have to go through when I got older."
A second person agreed with the above, writing: "My mom did them when I was a baby and I'm thankful."
Other commenters stated that piercing a baby's ears was an aspect of Hispanic/Latin American culture that was lost on outsiders.
Indeed, one TikTok user stated: "Yo Hispanics have been doing this since forever. Let people be man. So tired of the cancel culture and everyone hating on every little thing."
A second person added: "Me a Mexican laughing at these comments."
Carpineta herself later returned to the comments to joke: "Glad my Hispanics really came through on here."
According to the official website of the American Academy of Pediatrics, ear piercing is a safe procedure at any age, although it cautions parents to wait until the child is older to avoid potential infections.
So, do you think this young momma is right to pierce her baby's ears? Or do you believe she's way out of line? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section.
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