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A woman has criticized her boyfriend on a social media forum after feeling unimpressed by his "cheap" gift for her 30th birthday.
An anonymous woman took to the parenting forum Mumsnet to share that she felt "disappointed" and "sad" by her partner’s "lack of effort" for her special day.
In the post, the Mumsnet user revealed that the couple has been together for nine months, however, she still expected something more memorable for her birthday.
"I’ve been with my boyfriend for only nine months, so not a long time I know," she began. "But I feel disappointed and sad by the lack of effort my boyfriend has shown for my birthday."
The girlfriend then explained why her gifts were not up to standards, writing: "He got me a random joke card that had no relevance to us and seemed like something he already had lying around."
The man also bought her a necklace, however, the piece of jewelry apparently broke not long after she received it. She wrote: "He got me a necklace that literally broke after 10 minutes of wearing it."
"It looked really cheap and he told me it was from Amazon… I found it and it was £12. Like what?? I don’t understand why he has been so cheap?!" she continued, before adding: "He is very caring and affectionate and tells me every day he loves me, but this has just felt so disappointed."
The woman’s misery didn’t stop at the "cheap" presents as she also felt disgruntled after the pair went out for a birthday dinner where he suggested splitting the bill.
She then clarified to readers that her partner is "not struggling financially" and "has thousands in his savings and often treats himself to new clothes, other expenses", which adds more salt to the wound.
To conclude her post, the woman wrote that she felt "crappy" about "the lack of effort and romance," but explained that she does not want to "upset him" by bringing it up.
Many users on the forum came out in her defense with several commenters encouraging her to break up with her boyfriend.
One user wrote: "If this is the effort he goes to your birthday then it is probably not going to get much better. It's more the effort that's the issue not the money and it really doesn't sound like he put any thought or effort into any of it."
Another commented: "Gah! He’s a miser. Get rid. You have been warned."
A third user said: "He suggested a meal out for your birthday and then made you pay half? Bin him off. No effort there what so ever. I got better presents of my friends for my 30th and they don’t even have much spare money."
However, other users wrote that perhaps he's careful with money and suggested that their relationship is still quite new therefore he could be clueless about what she likes.
Do you guys think the boyfriend is in the wrong? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Getting engaged is a big deal. Like, a really big deal. And one would hope that, if their partner loved them enough to want to spend the rest of their life with them, they'd also know them well enough to have a rough idea of what sort of engagement ring they might want (if any at all).
So, when one woman got a rather, uh, unconventional engagement ring from her boyfriend, she was a little taken aback. Rather than speak to her partner about it, though, she decided to put him on blast... on Facebook.
"My boyfriend finally asked me to marry him and this is really what he gives me … he pulled it out of his pocket and it took just about everything in me not to laugh and question whether this is real life or not," she wrote.
Accompanying her complaint was a picture of the offending ring:
Ok, so the ring isn't exactly at the height of fashion - but there must have been a reason her fiance chose it, right?
She went on to explain: "I've had it for a few days now, and I've gotten used to it so I don't think it's so bad... but also maybe I've just come to terms with it. I definitely wish it was something different, but oh well... it was his grandmother's and the pearl is my birthstone and I think that's the only reason I've been able to tolerate it."
So it turns out the ring was a family heirloom. Well, the post was shared to Reddit - and the folks over there didn't exactly have her back on the issue. In fact, they sided with her other half.
"There’s nothing wrong with the ring, it once belonged to his grandmother and it was also the girl’s birthstone, it has far too much sentimental value and it’s the thought that counts," one person said.
"I am going to pretend he’s getting another ring so she’ll give him back his grandmother’s ring. Then he can bolt without losing a sentimental item," added another.
Meanwhile, a third person contributed this rather blunt response: "Hope that guy takes the ring back and runs."
Even those who agreed the ring was ugly made it clear that the bride-to-be should not be sharing these kinds of things on social media.
"It's a terrible engagement ring (pearls are soft and should only be worn occasionally) but don't post to Facebook about it," one commenter wrote. "I hope he realizes she will be doing this with all their problems and that's super unhealthy."
So, yes, the ring may have been a bit questionable. But it was also something very special to her boyfriend, and she should have kept the matter privately between the two of them instead of airing their dirty laundry on Facebook.
As for what became of the woman, we really don't know. Maybe her boyfriend saw the post and called it off. Maybe she was able to talk herself out of the situation and settle their differences. Or maybe, just maybe, she felt so guilty about the whole thing that she's now out there, somewhere, sporting a massive pearl set in yellow gold everywhere she goes.
Published 12:20 24 Jan 2021 GMT
A man has taken to the internet to share his consternation after his girlfriend didn't seem to come up with the goods when it came to her anniversary gift for him.
He took to Reddit's Am I The ***Hole forum to find out if his feelings towards the underwhelming gift were justified, igniting something of a debate on the thread in the process.
Related: watch this groom's nightmare reaction after seeing his bride for the first time:He revealed that he had bought his girlfriend a ring, as well as a 12-picture photo frame with one image for each month the couple had been together.
However, when it came to her gift for him, things took a turn for the worse.
"[When] she asked me if there was something I'd like I said whatever she wanted, it's the thought that matters. She got me a little frame (bought for very very very cheap at the chinese shop under her house) with four pictures and that's it. The gift idea was cute, I was expecting some more effort (the pictures were not even aligned, they appeared to be thrown in), I was sensing very little effort from her side to her gift."
However, not wanting to hurt her feelings, he didn't say anything about the way the gift made him feel and instead thanked her for it.
Just before Christmas, though, the real damage was done when his girlfriend said she didn't know what to get for two of her close friends.
The man goes on: "I suggested i couple of ideas [sic] but she said it was a waste of money (around 10€, keep in mind she lives with her mom and gets 500€ from her dad every month). And then she said what got me a little angry: "I'll do the thing I do when I don't want to spend money and time on a gift, I'll just buy two cheap frame at the chinese shop, print a couple of photos and I don't have to think about it anymore"."
Naturally, this made the man recall the gift she had gotten him for their anniversary.
"I got a little angry and she said I was overreacting, that it was not the same thing and that I shouldn't think about it," he said.
"Now some time has past, I'm not angry, but I feel sad about the whole thing. Am I the asshole for getting angry and sad about the whole situation?"
And commenters were quick to weigh in.
"The fact that she admitted to your face that she had just given you her standard "not that important" treatment would tick me off too. It says to me that she just didn't want to bother and that's a painful thing to hear," one wrote.
"If a man I spent a year with said that to me, he’d be my ex-boyfriend immediately. She will continue to be lazy and make no effort while expecting more from you." Another commenter added.
A third Redditor wrote, "You said yourself it's the thought that matters, and she pretty much admitted putting virtually no thought in it whatsoever. That's all you really need to know."
So what do you think? Let us know in the comments.
”There’s nothing to dislike about the type of ring per se, as a diamond solitaire would have been my choice, but it’s the whole thing – the colour of the gold, the setting, the small stone and relatively chunky shoulders.”
Whilst I'm not entirely sure what the disgruntled woman means by "chunky shoulders", I can understand why she is disappointed. After all, once married you are expected to wear your wedding ring for the rest of your life, and yeah, it must be pretty unpleasant to look down on something that you can't stand the sight of day after day. However, people didn't remain so sympathetic for the woman as she then chose to publicise how much, or indeed how little her fiancé decided to splash on the symbolic gesture. And as you can imagine, she didn't believe it was anywhere near close enough to what he should have spent:”His salary is nearing a 6 figure sum, and he’s usually very generous. Having seen the receipt I know he paid $1,674 for it – which is a lot less than I would have imagined he would have spent on such a significant piece of jewelry.”
She continued: "He’ll be more disappointed in me for making a fuss over it when, in his eyes, it fits, and there’s nothing actually wrong with it rather than being disappointed that I’m not truly happy with it." "Ideally I would have loved for us to have chosen a ring together and made a special day finding one we both liked. "As it’s something I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewelry I wanted to really love it, and I just don’t." The woman ended her rant with a plea for advice from those who had been in similar situations. However, the majority of Mumsnet users were quick to condemn the user for her apparent materialism, saying that she was seemed more interested in showing off the ring than she was in him. But regardless of what you think about the woman's motivations, it's clear that there's no easy answer to this conundrum. If anything, I think that it serves as a timely reiteration of how important it is to have open lines of communication with your significant other, especially when it comes to things that you're expected to cherish forever.Published 00:38 05 Mar 2019 GMT
Engagements are supposed to be memorable for all the right reasons. But because there are so many expectations associated with the event, when things don't quite meet the fantasy in your head, it can be almost impossible to hide your disappointment.
Everyone's idea of the perfect proposal is different. While some want the event to be flashy and receive a diamond-encrusted ring worth thousands atop of the Effiel Tower, there are others who take a more understated approach.
One man who allegedly took an understated approach was the fiancé of Reddit user 'secondhandring'. After making the sentimental and romantic decision to propose with his mother's engagement ring, his partner took to the discussion site to share her disappointment.
However, the woman was unimpressed and wrote that she didn't "want the beginning of my new life to start with a second hand ring". Needless to say, her partner was very upset. Her full post is as follows:
"First I just want to say that I'm not the kind of person who demands expensive gifts but we do gift each other a lot of things.
"I and my boyfriend have been together for 10 years. We live together, and we have a 4yo daughter. I was waiting forever for him to propose. So I was really excited when my sister told me that my boyfriend asked her which kind of ring would suit me and he sent her some pics from Tiffany's. I was super excited and hyped and I kind of guessed that he wanted to propose on our anniversary.
"The day comes and I'm really excited. We went out for a romantic dinner, got back and when we were watching a movie he suddenly got down on his knees and asked me if I wanted to marry him. I said yes and then he showed me the ring. It was not even a new one. It looked old and the stones looked average at best. When I asked him about that he told me that his mother gave him her ring. He told me that it had a great sentimental value since his father was the only man his mother ever truly loved and I'm the only woman he'll ever love. His father is no more, and his mother gave it to him.
It's all sweet and cheesy but it doesn't look great. Also, I don't want the begining of my new life to start with a second hand ring. When I told him this, he was very upset and told me that he never thought I was so materialistic and he just left. He's not even answering any of my messages or calls. Was I wrong? AITA? [sic]"
Reddit users were quick to weigh in on the woman's complaint, and unsurprisingly, almost everyone slammed her for being so materialistic. However, the highest voted response to the post came from user 'Poobut13', who did make a useful suggestion:
"You can get a display ring or work out buying something you want to show off, but the proposal is entirely sentimental. For you to rip that apart I can see why your (hopefully fiancé) is upset. Communicate with each other. Apologize. You can still fix this by working with each other."
"I think a big issue is that she's expecting a new life after being engaged/ married. They live together and have a child. Maybe they'll combine some finances or buy a nicer house, but the whole 'new life' thing is a fantasy. It's going to be the same life," wrote Reddit user '_t-bex_'.
User 'LovecraftianLlama' remarked: "It's so much MORE special than some Tiffanys ring that 300 other people have... I would feel so honored if someone did something like that for me! You really need to reevaluate OP."
"He explained to you that it was reminiscent of his parents' marriage, one that he apparently felt was a marriage he wanted to emulate with you. He was trying to show you how much he loved you, and you boiled his love down to the value of a piece of metal and a rock," wrote 'lookmanofilter'.
However, many of the comments echoed that of 'WhiskyBrisky', who simply said: "You sound horrible. My biggest fear is falling in love with a woman like you."
We can only hope that the 29-year-old, who the Daily Mail have reported are believed to be American, took the advice of the top-rated post and profusely apologized. That being said, would you accept her apology?
Published 16:03 28 Aug 2019 GMT
An incensed bride-to-be took to Reddit to slam her fiancé after he "saved up" to buy her a "tiny" engagement ring.
In the post shared to the discussion website, the woman detailed that she and her partner had been together for eight years, and had been "talking about getting married for almost three years" before he popped the question.
However, she was less than impressed by her partner's choice of ring, which she deemed to be "tiny".
In other news, this woman was mocked for planning her wedding without a groom:
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"We been together for eight years and talking about getting married for almost three," she wrote. "This is the ring he said he saved up to buy me. Am I being shady or materialistic if I tell this mf ion want this little a** ring [sic]?"
She also posted a picture of the ring, which featured a thin gold band, with a small diamond set just above the base.
After posting the image of her engagement ring, the unidentified woman - believed to hail from UK - proceeded to ask Reddit whether she was "justified" in her disappointment. And it's safe to say that the reactions were mixed.
Some Reddit users questioned whether it was a "diamond for ants", with one person writing "I think I'd be more insulted to be given this ring than no ring at all," while another corroborated "Like, just skip the ring altogether if you can't afford it. That's just embarrassing".
"That is the saddest ring I've ever seen. I'm not a materialistic person, but it just doesn't even look good. She should talk to him if she's unhappy with it?" added someone else.
Other users, however, quite liked the look of the "dainty" engagement ring. "It's very dainty. I love dainty jewellery. But good lord that looks like if she makes a fist it's going to snap!" wrote a fifth, and another agreed: "I kind of like her ring. It's very modern and sleek looking. I'd wear that in a heart beat".
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