Here's what not to do when your dry spell in the bedroom finally ends

1. Don't doubt your abilities

Because you haven't had sex in ages, you might feel as if you've forgotten everything. But stay confident. If you're close to having sex with someone, you know that this person finds you sexy – so prove it! While you might struggle to get back in the saddle so to speak, after some time you'll be right up there riding that pony better than ever before.

2. Don't be afraid to practice on yourself first

I mean, you and your right hand have probably been getting pretty friendly over the past few months in the absence of a lover anyway. But in case you have been depriving yourself of that kind of self-love, don't hold back now. You'll gain confidence in knowing that everything is working as it should be, plus you'll re-learn what feels good for you.

3. Don't rush it

Because it's been so long, it's totally natural for you to get all excited and just rush into it. But take your time with foreplay to relax you and your partner. Good foreplay makes for the most explosive kind of sex, and you don't want your re-entry into the "I'm Having Sex" club to be kind of shoddy.

4. Don't forget to set the mood

Sure, maybe you've just decided on a whim to hook up with someone at your mates house party, but really it's best not to do it drunk, locked inside a laundry room against someone else's washing machine. It's your first time in ages, so try and make it special. Wash, groom yourself, wear something sexy to get yourself in the mood. Light some candles, shuck some oysters, play some "slow jazz", whatever it is that gets you guys going.

5. Don't be embarrassed to reach for the lube

Especially for girls, not having sex for a while means you'll be a little more nervous, meaning you might not self-lubricate as easily as you did in the good old days. It might feel a bit like you're a bit tighter since then too, but that's a myth, as is the rumour that your hymen may reattach. It's really just psychological, so don't worry and grab the lube if you need.