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Published 16:29 23 Jun 2026 GMT
If you're looking to spice things up during sex and move away from your usual routine, you may have come across something known as the "Kivin method."
It's a technique that focuses on oral sex and offers a different approach to clitoral stimulation.
Traditionally, a partner partaking in oral sex is positioned directly between the receiver's legs. The Kivin method, however, involves approaching from the side, creating a different angle of stimulation.
According to experts, this sideways position can provide a more intense sensation for some women while also being more comfortable for the person giving oral sex.
Because the giver's head is tilted sideways rather than held upright, it may reduce strain on the neck and allow for a more relaxed experience.
Sexologist and author Sadie Allison explained some of the potential benefits of the technique, saying: "Your hands are free in a different way, so you can easily touch breasts, stomach, thighs, and hips from a new angle, creating a fuller experience."
She added: "This makes for a more intimate and connected experience. Try rubbing their shoulders, playing with their hair, or tease their nipples."
According to Allison, the position can also make it easier to incorporate other forms of stimulation at the same time. She explained: "Internal stimulation can be easier to incorporate. With this new position, it can be easier to provide vaginal, G-spot, or even anal play at the same time."
Sex educator Suzannah Weiss also weighed in on who may enjoy the technique most. She said: "People who are fans of the Kivin method are generally those who like their clitoris stroked from left to right."
She added: "So, if you masturbate by moving your finger from side to side over your clit, it might be for you."
Although the exact origins of the Kivin method remain unclear, the term has reportedly been used by sex educators for more than 20 years and even appeared in the 2001 book The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex.
For those interested in trying it, sex and relationship coach Keeley Rankin recommends having the receiver lie comfortably on a sofa while the giver kneels beside them with their head turned sideways.
Rankin believes comfort plays a huge role in sexual enjoyment. She explained: "I think one of the most important things with anything having to do with sex, especially oral sex, is enthusiasm, and so much of that is needing to be comfortable while doing it."
She added: "You're not going to have a ton of enthusiasm if you're worried how your neck is going to feel tomorrow."
The Kivin method is far from the only intimacy trend that has gained attention online in recent years.
Toothing refers to a form of anonymous sexual encounters, often arranged in public spaces or while travelling.
Shallowing focuses on stimulation around the entrance of the vagina rather than deep penetration and can be practised either alone or with a partner.
Sploshing, sometimes referred to as the "wet and messy" fetish, involves sexual enjoyment connected to food and messy play.
Meanwhile, Castlecore has blended fantasy themes with intimacy, inspiring interest in medieval-inspired roleplay, corsets and fantasy-themed products.
As with any sexual activity, experts generally recommend open communication, mutual comfort and consent when exploring something new.
