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A mother has broken her silence on why she allowed a prominent psychiatrist to end her teenage daughter’s life in her childhood bedroom.
Dr. Menno Oosterhoff, who specializes in child and adolescent psychiatry, has assisted patients with terminating their lives for several years, The Atlantic reports.
While the procedure is legal under specific guidelines in the Netherlands, his actions have sparked a fierce debate across Europe regarding the ethics of psychiatric euthanasia.
The legal framework for medically assisted suicide in the Netherlands was established by lawmakers in 2002. Under this law, physicians are permitted to grant euthanasia requests provided they are voluntary, well-considered, and stem from unbearable suffering with no prospect of improvement or reasonable alternative solutions.
Dr. Oosterhoff primarily handles individuals who do not possess physical disabilities, operating under the belief that providing an authorized path for those with terminal mental diagnoses helps prevent unassisted suicide and shortens prolonged suffering.
Public opinion on the matter remains deeply divided. While some supporters view the psychiatrist as a compassionate figure who helps individuals facing desperate circumstances, critics have raised significant alarms.
The conversation intensified nationwide following a public television broadcast titled Milou's Battle Continues, which detailed the experience of a 17-year-old girl who sought out Dr. Oosterhoff to end her life.
The teenager, Milou Verhoof, sought assistance after experiencing years of severe trauma, including a sexual assault at age 13 and a near-fatal illness affecting her brother.
Following multiple suicide attempts and lengthy delays from other medical professionals, she met with Dr. Oosterhoff. On October 2, 2023, the procedure was carried out in her childhood bedroom.
Before administering the injection, Dr. Oosterhoff said (per The Manchester Evening News) to Milou, "Girl, have a good trip," in front of her parents. At her funeral, he later noted, "You've been through so much," to express sympathy for her long struggles.
Her mother, Mireille Verhoof, defended the decision in an email correspondence, stating, "Because of Dr. Oosterhoff's extremely careful and cautious approach, we as parents trusted that his conclusion-that Milou truly could not go on and that the days were unliveable for her-was the only correct one and confirmed what we as parents had long seen in our child."
This case highlights a broader statistical shift in the country of 18 million people. Though the vast majority of the 9,958 euthanasia cases in 2024 involved terminal physical ailments, psychiatric euthanasia instances grew from 88 in 2020 to 219 in 2024.
The discussion surrounding medically assisted death has also intensified in other parts of Europe, notably following a high-profile case in Spain involving a 25-year-old woman named Noelia Castillo Ramos.
She became quadriplegic in 2024 after jumping from a building following a gang rape. Before her scheduled procedure, she gave a final television interview, declaring, "I have four days left because on the 26 they will perform euthanasia on me," which brought widespread attention to the legal battle over her choice.
Her father strongly fought the decision in court, arguing that his daughter suffered from a personality disorder and was dependent on the state mental healthcare system prior to her assault.
Castillo Ramos expressed that the legal opposition from her family increased her emotional pain, noting that none of her relatives supported her path.
She defended her autonomy by asking, "None of my family is in favour of euthanasia. I am a pillar of the family. I leave them suffering. But what about my suffering?"
She further argued that "The happiness of a father, a mother, or a sister should not be more important than that of a daughter or the life of a daughter," before her legal termination was ultimately carried out.
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A prominent Dutch psychiatrist is facing intense public scrutiny following revelations regarding his practice of administering lethal injections to patients suffering from severe mental health issues, including teenagers.
Dr. Menno Oosterhoff, who specializes in child and adolescent psychiatry, has assisted patients with terminating their lives for several years, The Atlantic reports.
While the procedure is legal under specific guidelines in the Netherlands, his actions have sparked a fierce debate across Europe regarding the ethics of psychiatric euthanasia.
The legal framework for medically assisted suicide in the Netherlands was established by lawmakers in 2002. Under this law, physicians are permitted to grant euthanasia requests provided they are voluntary, well-considered, and stem from unbearable suffering with no prospect of improvement or reasonable alternative solutions.
Dr. Oosterhoff primarily handles individuals who do not possess physical disabilities, operating under the belief that providing an authorized path for those with terminal mental diagnoses helps prevent unassisted suicide and shortens prolonged suffering.
Public opinion on the matter remains deeply divided. While some supporters view the psychiatrist as a compassionate figure who helps individuals facing desperate circumstances, critics have raised significant alarms.
The conversation intensified nationwide following a public television broadcast titled Milou's Battle Continues, which detailed the experience of a 17-year-old girl who sought out Dr. Oosterhoff to end her life.
The teenager, Milou Verhoof, sought assistance after experiencing years of severe trauma, including a sexual assault at age 13 and a near-fatal illness affecting her brother.
Following multiple suicide attempts and lengthy delays from other medical professionals, she met with Dr. Oosterhoff. On October 2, 2023, the procedure was carried out in her childhood bedroom.
Before administering the injection, Dr. Oosterhoff said (per The Manchester Evening News) to Milou, "Girl, have a good trip," in front of her parents. At her funeral, he later noted, "You've been through so much," to express sympathy for her long struggles.
Her mother, Mireille Verhoof, defended the decision in an email correspondence, stating, "Because of Dr. Oosterhoff's extremely careful and cautious approach, we as parents trusted that his conclusion-that Milou truly could not go on and that the days were unliveable for her-was the only correct one and confirmed what we as parents had long seen in our child."
This case highlights a broader statistical shift in the country of 18 million people. Though the vast majority of the 9,958 euthanasia cases in 2024 involved terminal physical ailments, psychiatric euthanasia instances grew from 88 in 2020 to 219 in 2024.
The discussion surrounding medically assisted death has also intensified in other parts of Europe, notably following a high-profile case in Spain involving a 25-year-old woman named Noelia Castillo Ramos.
She became quadriplegic in 2024 after jumping from a building following a gang rape. Before her scheduled procedure, she gave a final television interview, declaring, "I have four days left because on the 26 they will perform euthanasia on me," which brought widespread attention to the legal battle over her choice.
Her father strongly fought the decision in court, arguing that his daughter suffered from a personality disorder and was dependent on the state mental healthcare system prior to her assault.
Castillo Ramos expressed that the legal opposition from her family increased her emotional pain, noting that none of her relatives supported her path.
She defended her autonomy by asking, "None of my family is in favor of euthanasia. I am a pillar of the family. I leave them suffering. But what about my suffering?"
She further argued that "the happiness of a father, a mother, or a sister should not be more important than that of a daughter or the life of a daughter," before her legal termination was ultimately carried out.
If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org.
The parents of a woman who chose to be euthanized at the age of 33 have spoken out about why they supported her difficult decision.
Assisted dying remains a divisive topic, with some believing that people with terminal conditions should have the choice to end their life before losing their quality of life, while others believe that nature should always take its course.
However, the debate gets even more complicated when the person choosing euthanasia is not considered terminally ill.
One family has revealed why they decided to support their 33-year-old daughter in ending her life with assisted dying.
Esther Beukema died on December 10, 2021, having chosen to pass away in bed in her childhood bedroom, wearing a Mickey Mouse jumper and odd socks, with one belonging to her mom and one to her dad.
She was surrounded by her family - her mom, dad, and younger brother, as a nurse administered a lethal dose of medication to allow her to slip away, which she did just five minutes later.
Esther had campaigned for the right to be euthanized for over a decade, due to her struggles after being diagnosed with anorexia nervosa at the age of 18.
Though it is not considered a terminal illness, anorexia can often be fatal for the patient, and has the highest mortality rate of any psychological disorder, whether that is through complications such as heart conditions and organ failure, or through patients taking their own life.
Tragically, Esther had often told her mother, Ellen, that she did not want to be here, saying: "I don’t want to exist."
She had made multiple attempts to take her own life, and had fought for the right to die with dignity by being euthanized.
While it is not a decision any parent ever wants to make, her mother and father have revealed why they chose to support Esther in ending her suffering, despite it meaning them losing their daughter.
Ellen explained to the Telegraph that she believed a medically assisted death was more "humane" than the thought of Esther dying by suicide, her husband Rob found it much harder to accept.
He had suggested that there may be a therapy or treatment that hadn't yet tried that could help Esther see a way through her eating disorder, explaining: "As a dad, I tried to show Esther a little bit of blue sky… that there’s always hope. That tomorrow, perhaps it will be better."
Their differing opinions put a strain on the couple's marriage, but Rob admits that after having therapy of his own, by the time Esther died he was "at peace" with her decision to end her life on her own terms.
Euthanasia for people with a mental illness has been a reality in the Netherlands, where the Beukemas live, for over 20 years, as under the Dutch Termination of Life on Request and Assisted Suicide (Review Procedures) Act of 2002, euthanasia is legal for psychiatric as well as physical conditions, provided doctors believe there is "no reasonable alternative" and that the patient's suffering is "unbearable with no prospect of improvement".
Ellen revealed that she chose to support her daughter so that she could be surrounded by love in her final moments, explaining: "She didn’t have to die alone, she was with the people she loved. And that is what you want for everyone."
She added that as Christians, she and Rob believe Esther is "in a better place" after "always struggling here in this life."
They added that Esther had had a happy childhood in a loving family with siblings close to her own age, and always did well in school and her extracurricular activities, including gymnastics and piano lessons.
The first signs of her illness came when she hit adolscence, struggling with the move to secondary school where she found it hard to make friends and struggled with perfectionism.
Esther first said she wanted to start eating more "healthily" but her diaries, which she shared with her psychiatrist, revealed that she had started calorie counting at just 17 years old in 2005.
Just a year later, she was diagnosed with anorexia and was later told she also had some symptoms of borderline personality disorder, and doctors believed she likely also had autism.
By 2007 she was severely malnourished and required hospitalization, beginning a cycle of force-feeding to help her gain weight, before she would lose it all again, leaving her more traumatized and depressed after each hospital stay.
Throughout her many admissions, Esther continued to keep her diaries, where one heartbreaking entry from April 2011 reads: "I just want to die. I don’t want to live any more. There’s nothing to it. Nowhere."
She first requested euthanasia in 2012 but her request was denied because she was not considered psychologically competent.
Her parents had a glimmer of hope that things may improve after Esther fell in love with a fellow patient on a psychiatric ward in 2017, with the couple quickly moving in together on her release, where they planed to get married and even got a cat together.
The pair had a few months where things improved, but Esther ended up calling off the wedding two weeks before they were due to tie the knot.
Just two years later, after turning 30, Esther began pursuing her mission to get approved for euthanasia again and was eventually approved.
Her family says that the weeks that followed were the "most beautiful" since Esther had begun to get ill, and she chose to move back home with her parents and spend time laughing and talking with her family, as well as planning her own funeral.
When her final moments came, Ellen sang a bedtime prayer to her as she had done when she was a child, and Rob added that Esther's death was peaceful, explaining: "I saw her face. No anger. Very happy."
Ellen added: "We are at peace with it, I think. For us, I think it’s the feeling that there is a life before, and a life after. It’s not that the life after is very bad, but you have to discover how to start again. You have to learn to see the good things and to enjoy them."
The couple shared their daughter's story in the hopes of ending the secrecy around end of life decisions, as well as to keep her memory alive, explaining: "If you don’t talk about her, then she doesn’t exist any more. Then she is really dead."
A Dutch government minister has recently revealed that a child under the age of 12 was euthanised last year, making them the first known case since the Netherlands expanded its assisted dying laws to include younger children.
Until recently, Dutch legislation only allowed euthanasia for newborn babies under specific circumstances and for individuals aged 12 and older.
However, in 2024, the rules were amended to permit euthanasia for terminally ill children under 12 who are experiencing unbearable suffering with no realistic prospect of improvement, allowing them the option to "die with dignity."
At the time, officials stressed that the law would apply only in exceptionally rare cases.
Now, according to reports, Dutch Health Minister Sophie Hermans informed parliament that the first case under the revised legislation had taken place involving a "gravely ill" child.
No further information was released about the child's identity, age, gender or medical condition. Authorities only confirmed that the euthanasia had occurred.
Under Dutch law, doctors must demonstrate that there is no reasonable or humane alternative available before euthanasia can be approved. The requirements are particularly strict when children are involved, with multiple safeguards designed to ensure the decision is only made in the most extreme circumstances.
The Netherlands first legalised euthanasia in 2002 under strict conditions. Since then, the framework has gradually expanded while maintaining rigorous oversight.
Young people aged 16 and 17 can request euthanasia with parental involvement, while children aged 12 to 15 require parental consent. The younger the patient, the more stringent the review process becomes.
Cases involving children remain extremely uncommon and are only considered when severe suffering cannot be relieved by any other medical treatment.
One of the most widely discussed euthanasia cases in recent years involved Dutch woman Zoraya ter Beek, who underwent the procedure in 2024 at the age of 29.
Speaking publicly about her decision, ter Beek explained that the process took years and involved exhausting every available treatment option before euthanasia was approved.
Reflecting on the decision, she said: "In the three and a half years this has taken, I've never hesitated about my decision."
She acknowledged the emotional impact on those around her, adding: "I have felt guilt – I have a partner, family, friends and I'm not blind to their pain. And I've felt scared. But I'm absolutely determined to go through with it."
Ter Beek also described the repeated checks carried out by medical professionals, explaining: "Every doctor at every stage says: 'Are you sure? You can stop at any point'."
She emphasised that the approval process was extensive, saying the system was "really safe" and involved numerous assessments to ensure patients were mentally capable of making the decision and had no viable alternatives remaining.
The newly reported case involving a child under 12 highlights how rarely the expanded Dutch law is expected to be used, with officials maintaining that it applies only to the most serious and exceptional medical situations.
A woman made an emotional plea to her father as she shared the heartbreaking reason behind her decision to end her life at the age of 25.
Annaliese Holland, from Adelaide, South Australia, has opened up about her devastating decision to pursue voluntary assisted dying (VAD) after enduring a life filled with chronic pain, illness, and hospital stays.
Diagnosed with autoimmune autonomic ganglionopathy, a rare and terminal neurological disease, Holland has faced years of excruciating symptoms, including nausea, vomiting, and the inability to digest food properly.
For the past decade, she has relied on total parenteral nutrition (TPN), a method that delivers nutrition directly into her bloodstream via an IV.
Her disease, which causes the body to attack its own autonomic nervous system, left her unable to digest food and battling severe complications, including repeated life-threatening infections that led to sepsis 25 times.
Annaliese Holland chose to die at age 25. Credit: GoFundMe
Holland’s battle to understand her illness culminated when she turned 18 and transitioned from pediatric care to an adult hospital.
It was only then that doctors diagnosed her with autoimmune autonomic ganglionopathy. At the age of 22, she received the devastating news that her condition was terminal.
The medications made her bones so fragile that she's had multiple fractures, and she struggled with necrosis, where blood flow to her bones has been compromised, leading to discolored teeth and tooth loss.
Despite these severe physical tolls, the pain has remained a constant presence in her life.
"You can’t change it, so you have to just deal with it, really. Even though there are beautiful moments in my days, they are exhausting and long. I’m in chronic debilitating pain," she said, cited by The New York Post.
“Everyone’s life is moving, and I’m just stuck. I’m not living. I’m surviving every day, which is tough,” she added.
After spending her 18th and 21st birthdays in the hospital, Holland reached a breaking point.
At 25, she made the painful decision to end her life on her own terms through voluntary assisted dying, a legal option in Australia for those with terminal illnesses who wish to end their lives on their own terms.
“Life for me now is getting up each day, doing what I need to do medically, taking the painkillers, trying to get through the day, just to go to bed and do it all again,” she said. “I have the most incredible team of doctors and nurses who have watched what I have been through, and I told them I don’t want this anymore.”
Her choice to pursue VAD is not without its emotional toll on her family. While her mother, Armanda, still holds out hope for a miracle, she knows the reality of her daughter’s condition.
However, it was her father, Patrick, who struggled the most with her decision.
Holland recalled a moment with her father in the kitchen where she said: “Dad, I’ve had enough.”
Her father’s immediate response was: “So you’re giving up?” But the turning point came when Holland was revived by doctors after a close brush with death.
“Dad, please let me go. I won’t hate you if you do,” she pleaded through tears. “I told him, ‘If this happens again, I don’t want anything. Please know that in my heart, you letting me go and saying no to treatment… I’m happy with and that’s what I want.’”
Patrick, who has watched his daughter fight through every medical crisis, finally understood. “I don’t know how you do it, but I totally understand that you’ve had enough,” he told her.
Annaliese Holland has multiple organ failure as a result of the condition. Credit: Instagram/Annaliese Holland
After undergoing a three-week evaluation process, Holland was approved for VAD. Though she acknowledged the complex emotions surrounding her choice, she expressed relief.
"It’s one of the bravest things you could ever do, to say I want VAD. It’s not giving up. You’ve had enough and you fought bloody hard,” Holland said.
For the 25-year-old, the decision to end her life offers her a sense of control and peace in the face of constant suffering.
"Knowing I can go when the time is right is just a huge relief. I feel so lucky that I do have this choice," she explained.
A young woman from Barcelona who faced unimaginable suffering after a brutal assault is set to be euthanized today. At just 25 years old, Noelia Castillo Ramos attempted to take her own life by leaping from a fifth-story window, leaving her with life-altering consequences.
Following this traumatic event, she was left paraplegic and endured relentless physical and psychological pain. Despite her parents' best efforts to intervene, Ramos's determination led to a heartbreaking decision to pursue euthanasia.
Just days before her scheduled passing, Ramos shared with Spanish TV programme Y Ahora Sonsoles that she wanted to "leave in peace".
"I was very clear about it from the beginning," she said, expressing that she had made peace with her choice.
She revealed, "None of my family is in favor of euthanasia. Obviously, because I'm another pillar of the family. I'm leaving, and you're staying here with all the pain. But I think, all the pain I've suffered over the years... I just want to leave in peace now and stop suffering, full stop."
Ramos's decision was not without controversy, as her father fought to prevent the procedure. He argued that his daughter's life should be preserved despite her suffering. However, the European Court of Human Rights and Spain’s Constitutional Court ultimately upheld her request.
The decision followed the enactment of Spain's 2021 Organic Law on the Regulation of Euthanasia, which permits euthanasia for those experiencing severe and enduring suffering. The court's ruling determined that Ramos's rights were not violated, allowing the procedure to move forward.
This ruling has drawn attention to the ongoing debate about assisted dying, particularly in cases involving individuals with complex mental health and physical conditions. While some continue to argue against euthanasia on moral grounds, others advocate for the right of individuals like Ramos to make decisions about their own lives when enduring unbearable suffering.
While Ramos's father tried to intervene in the process, her mother, Yolanda Ramos, expressed her conflicting emotions, telling Marca, "I do not agree, but I will always be by her side."
This sentiment reflects the deep divide in opinions within the family. It’s a reminder of the complex nature of end-of-life decisions, especially when those involved are in pain and seeking an escape from years of suffering.
In her final days, Ramos was resolute about her decision. Despite the difficulty of her choice, she believed that her own peace was paramount.