In a world where porn is never more than a finger tip away, sexual experimentation has become increasingly exotic. While your favorite sex position is (thankfully) yet to feature in a standard “Get to know” section on your company biography page, the most-requested sexual position men ask an escort for has been revealed.

Despite there being an online archive, a copulative catalog, if you will, of raunchy coital positions, vanilla prevails, according to Australian escort Lilith Lodge.

The plainness of vanilla is preferred

The seasoned, Brisbane-based sex worker confirmed that the position many consider sexual bread and butter remains the firm favorite, with missionary still the most requested position from her horny clients.

"Most clients are very basic and standard in what they want," Lodge said to Metro. "It's not super common, definitely not a weekly event, to have clients ask for something outside of what I feel is 'normal'. It's pretty much just missionary."

She added: "It can be very uncomfortable and not enjoyable for my clients to do crazy positions, unless they're a really young guy. Sometimes they'll ask for missionary with my feet up behind my head, (which not everyone is flexible enough to do), but that's about it."

This lovemaking crowd-pleaser, where the woman lies flat on her back with her legs spread eagle, allows the two participants to stare lovingly at each other, arguably in the most intensely intimate of positions.

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What makes missionary such a sexual staple?

According to Bodyjoys, a website that specialises in relationship and intimacy advice, the position is a go-to for first-time couples in particular, who are still ascertaining mutual enjoyment. Its simplicity allows partners to focus on forming connection, rather than deploying flexibility-testing movements that can be both challenging and exposing.

The site explains: "Missionary position is the go-to for many first-time couples as it allows them to create a greater connection. Eye contact enhances the emotional connection and makes for a much more sensual experience.

"The close proximity of both partners also makes missionary position a winner when it comes to communication. You can adequately communicate what you like and dislike through noises, faces and movements while still enjoying a sensual experience."

However, Dr. Louise Goddard-Crawley told Metro that the position isn't for everyone. She claimed that while it offers emotional advantages, it may not suit some people physically.

"It also may feel more restrictive compared to other positions that allow for greater movement and range of motion," the psychologist declared. "For some, the missionary position may place pressure on joints, especially the lower back and knees, potentially causing discomfort or pain for extended periods."

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Millions of women say there are a couple of simple, often-overlooked turn-ons that men routinely miss in the bedroom – and they’re far less complicated than the wild positions or elaborate ideas some people assume women want.

Of course, everyone has their own preferences. And while open communication is always important, many people don’t want to map out every detail for a partner. They want chemistry to unfold naturally, without having to spell out instructions or congratulate each other afterward.

Still, for men hoping to better understand what actually resonates with a lot of women, experts say one particular kink is surprisingly common (and surprisingly easy).

Praise Kink Is More Common Than Many Realize

According to sex professor Dr. Nicole K. McNichols, one of the most widespread desires among women is the “praise kink,” which centers on receiving verbal appreciation or compliments during intimacy.

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“People who have praise kinks get turned on by their partner complimenting them during sex,” Dr. McNichols explained. “It exists on a continuum because, really, who doesn’t love being told they’re beautiful or amazing in some way?”

With more than 60 million searches related to the praise kink on TikTok alone, it’s clear the concept resonates far beyond niche corners of the internet. Dr. McNichols says it often involves women responding strongly to affirming phrases or positive feedback from their partner.

A Second Trend Women Are Quietly Embracing

But praise isn’t the only thing men commonly miss. Experts say a growing number of women regularly engage in a form of self-stimulation that most men don’t know about, and doesn’t require a partner’s hands at all.

The practice, known as “broadening,” has reportedly become increasingly popular. It involves rubbing or pressing the entire vulva against a surface, creating stimulation across a wider area than traditional methods.

Psychosexual therapist Natasha Silverman explains it as “dry-humping on steroids,” since the surface involved is typically broad and stationary. She says the technique engages the deeper structures of the clitoris rather than focusing only on the external tip.

Silverman notes that many clients mention this type of stimulation in therapy without realizing it has an official name. It’s also common among women who discovered self-pleasure early in life, often without knowing what the practice was called.

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What It Means for Men

For partners hoping to be supportive, experts say awareness is key – though in the case of broadening, there isn’t much a man needs to do unless he’s willing to be the stable surface involved.

The bigger lesson, therapists say, is that women’s desires are often far simpler, more varied, and more communication-driven than stereotypes suggest. And in many cases, the small things, like verbal affirmation, can make the biggest difference.

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A leading sex therapist believes one common relationship mistake is quietly damaging couples' sex lives, and it has little to do with attraction or love.

According to licensed sex therapist Vanessa Marin, many long-term partners don't stop wanting intimacy. Instead, they stop asking for it because they're afraid of being rejected.

What did the sex therapist reveal?

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Speaking to the New York Post, Marin explained that this issue often goes unnoticed because couples rarely argue about it directly.

"Couples don't always fight about it openly; they just slowly stop reaching for each other," she said.

Marin, who co-authored the bestselling relationship guide Sex Talks, estimates that around 83% of couples either avoid initiating sex altogether, struggle to do it effectively or regularly end up feeling hurt during the process.

She believes fear of hearing "no" leads many people to avoid making a clear request. Instead, they rely on subtle hints or indirect gestures that leave room for plausible deniability.

Whether it's an awkward touch, wandering toward the bedroom or making an offhand comment about having free time, Marin says these approaches often backfire.

"If you don't fully put yourself out there, it doesn't hurt as much when you're turned down," she explained.

But avoiding vulnerability comes at a cost.

"Nobody wants to have sex with someone who can't properly state what they want," she added.

Alternative research supports her theory

Research also supports her view. A 2025 study found that people experiencing high levels of shame or fear of intimacy were much less likely to initiate sex, not because they lacked desire, but because the possibility of rejection felt emotionally risky.

Marin also believes unrealistic portrayals of romance in films and television have shaped expectations around intimacy.

She pointed to the familiar movie scene where two people exchange a glance before immediately ending up in bed, saying many couples mistakenly believe real-life desire should unfold the same way.

Instead, she argues that healthy intimacy requires communication and intention.

"You have to know your partner, you have to say what you want, and you have to navigate 'no' gracefully," she said.

To help couples reconnect, Marin recommends a strategy she calls "The Simmer," which focuses on building closeness long before either partner initiates sex.

That could include sending a thoughtful text during the day, helping with household chores or sharing affection without expecting it to lead anywhere.

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She also encourages couples to discuss what actually makes them feel desired by asking each other to list three specific ways they'd like intimacy to be initiated.

"The goal," she says, is to make initiation feel like "an invitation someone actually wants to accept."

Marin believes initiation styles are often as personal as love languages, with many people instinctively approaching sex in the same way they'd prefer to be approached themselves.

While one partner may enjoy romance and anticipation, another may appreciate a much more direct approach.

"A partner who knows exactly how to invite you in and make you feel desired is so much hotter than someone just lunging at you and hoping for the best," Marin said.

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